Setting goals is one of the most effective things you can do in order to be successful. When people fail, people have to determine if they are playing a role in why they are failing in life. I do think that sometimes success and failure go hand and hand. Many successful people have failed, got up, kept going, and are now successful. I am not talking about them. I am talking about the people who are setting goals repeatedly but are still failing at life.
I this is you? If so, I am going to rip off the Band-Aid, and tell you that you may be the cause for your own failure. Now that I have broken the news to you, I want to list three causes for failure. Knowing why you are failing is the first step in knowing how you can fix it, and once you know what you are doing wrong then you can change it and start achieving your goals.
1. You are Lazy.
This is the top of my list because it needs to be said. There are many people who claim they want to be successful, but they are not willing to put in the work. And not putting in the work is the main reason they are not reaching their goals. You may be saying
“Well I am not that lazy, I kind of sort of work toward my goals in life.”
- And my answer to you is this. Doing a half behind job is the same thing as not doing it at all.If you are a type of person that:
- Wants to sleep in all day when you know that there are more important things you can be doing.
- Does a bad or a partial job just so you can say you got the job done.
- Or you thinks just because you are gifted and talented at something you don’t have to work hard.
That is faulty thinking. To whom much is given, much is required (read my blog here). Nothing ever comes free and you are going to have to stop being lazy, work hard, and start getting things done. When you work hard, put your best foot forward, and do the best that you can do, that is when you will start to notice that you are reaching goals.
2. Improper Goal Setting
There is an art to setting goals. Other causes for failure is because people are not setting goals properly. Many people who fail are people who set a big goal and they do not lay out exactly how they plan to achieve their goal. Since the goal is so big and they do not know how to get there, their goal starts to seem too hard to reach, so they stop working hard, causing them to fail.
Let me put it to you this way. If you want to be an actress on television and that is your goal. You may work on reaching that goal for a few months, but then you will feel like you are nowhere near becoming an actress. Then you start to feel discouraged until you stop trying to be an actress altogether. Causing you to fail.
A proper way to achieve your goal would be to put the big goal on top ( in this case it is being an actress) and the small tangible goals on the bottom on how you plan to reach your goals. Tangle goals in this case can be to take acting classes, go to 10 auditions a week, try to get into local plays or other events that can get you opportunities. Setting smaller goals, that lead up to your big goal is like drawing a road map to show how you plan to get things done. When you start achieving your small goals, you will start to feel like you are working toward something and the bigger goal will become more real as you make progress in your smaller goals. This concept is the most basic concept on how to achieve your goals. Once you master it, you will become a master at goal setting.
I have written a previous blog on entitlement (click here). Okay so you may work hard, you may not be lazy, and you may be setting your goals correctly. But an even bigger reason why people do not succeed is because they are entitled and they think that people owe them something OR they are just plain difficult to work with.You can be your own worst enemy and could be the reason why you are failing at life. You cannot get away from yourself and if you are the cause for your failure then you need to look at changing yourself so that you can start reaching goals.I have met smart people but because they were difficult to work with or think that just because they are themselves, other people should give them a standing ovation for being born, no one wants to work with someone like that. Even if you are smart and at the top of the food chain, humility is a wonderful thing to have. When stepping into a situation, thinking that you have arrived, then people are not going to want to work with you, help you, or give you a chance.I don’t care what you goal is in life is. Achieving your goals is going to require you to work with other people, and if no one wants to be around you, then you are only hurting yourself. So eat some humble pie and check your ego at the door.I know that it is within most people to reach their goals. But as with anything in life, you have to be self-reflective and determine if you are the reason for your failure. If you are, it is an easy fix. You cannot control much in life, but you can control yourself. You are the first step in achieving your goals.