No one is Going To Feel Sorry for you As much as you feel sorry for yourself. Time To Get Up, Get Out, And Get Something.

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I am convinced the reason as to why most people get depressed about their lives is because they are in a stand still place and feel like they are not going anywhere. You feel like life is passing you by?

Everyone is getting a promotion. Everyone is getting married. Everyone is having kids, and you are in the same ole place that you were 10 years ago.  Not really doing anything much, complaining about how much your life sucks.

It does not have to be that way. I am a firm believer that you cannot just sit there and44098321_l watch life pass you by. It is up to you to get up, get out, and get something.  One thing that I cannot stand is when people make excuses as to why they cannot do something, when they will not even try. Or people who expect other people to live their life for them.

Some people act like they cannot go online and even fill out a simple job application and then get mad when they are unemployed and broke. Who wants to live their life like that? Always struggling?

And I know what you may be saying.

Sophia, you are college educated. You do not know what it is like to go without, or be unemployed, or struggle.”

Well that is where you are wrong. When I graduated undergrad I worked at my minimum wage job that I had in college for several months before landing another job.  I applied for 10-15 jobs a day! And even in that job I landed as a Juvenile Correctional Officer, only a high school diploma was required AND although it was a salary job, it was NOT a “good paying job.”  It was a lot of hard work.  Working 12-16 hours a day, while getting cursed at and breaking up fights all day.  I hated it!

Within my career. I have had to endure pay cuts, layoffs, and being in unstable companies that went out of business.  I have had to struggle and I have gotten down and out about it but I never gave up.  Life is life, you will endure hardship and go through trails.  But it is up to you as a person to run your life.  If you are an adult your parents are not responsible for providing for you, the government is not responsible for providing for you, your boyfriend is not responsible for providing for you….you are responsible.

Life will pass you by if you let it pass you by. You cannot control everything that happens in the world but you can control yourself.  You can control what you do, how hard you work, and what your goals in life are going to be.

For every action there is an equal and opposite reactionIsaac Newton

Just speaking in terms of physics, I feel that if you work hard at something then eventually with you get the same type of output. Meaning that you will eventually see a fruition of your goal.  If you put in the work you will see the labor of your hard work.  And by work I mean real work.  Do not do 32085133_lsomething mediocre for five years and then wonder why you are not seeing any fruits of your labor.  If you do a bad job then you will see the results of a bad job.  If you are lazy then you will see the results from being lazy.  But eventually if you really want something out of life and you are really putting your all into it, you will see the result of that.

The thing is that many people do not want to put in the hard work. They want things to be handed to them.  And if it is not handed to them, then they want to give up.  I have learned that most people who are successful have failed miserably.  And not just once but they have failed a whole bunch of times.  But it was their drive and determination that lead them to that one opportunity that turned out to be an opportunity of a life time.

I hate to see anyone sit around on social media trolling their friend’s Facebook pages, asking themselves why they do not have someone else life? And then they have the nerve to post depressing Facebook messages about how much their life sucks, how unhappy they are, or how they wish they had a life like everyone else.  I will be the bearer of bad news.  You don’t have the life like everyone else because you are not everyone else, you are you.  And if you stop being so pressed about someone else’s life and be that pressed about your life, then guess what?  Your life can be as equally awesome but in a way that is befitting to you.

If you can take away anything from this post, remember that life waits for no one. No one is sitting around feeling sorry for you as much as you feel sorry for yourself.  No one fairy God mother is going to pop out the of the sky and make all of your dreams come true.  You have to put in some work.  You are you own fairy God mother and you have the ability to do a lot, if you are willing to take all of those negative emotions and apply toward something that will actually get you to where you want to go.


About Sophia Reed (318 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at

16 Comments on No one is Going To Feel Sorry for you As much as you feel sorry for yourself. Time To Get Up, Get Out, And Get Something.

  1. Awesome post!!!! This is so, so, so on point! Only you can change your life!

  2. I love this article. I too believe we have responsibility for our joy and happiness. If you don’t like something about your life, change it!!!

  3. Thanks for sharing this post. Only you can make yourself the happiest!

  4. This kind of makes me crack up. Don’t get me wrong your points are super valid. I am also a believer of feeling your feelings and then moving on. Sometimes you need to have a glass of wine, watch a Walk to Remember cry it out then back to it the next day. Some people have a hard time finding the middle ground between feeling their feelings and wallowing in self pity for too long. Life is going to have some dark spots, heaven knows I’ve had some, but we have to decide if it will crush us or give us more strength.

  5. I agree, also saw the most changes for better once I moved to really start doing something. 🙂 Good post!

  6. This post is so motivating! Love it 🙂

  7. So right! The only one that can make things happen for you is yourself. Very inspiring.

  8. This is great, girl. The layout of this post really flowed well. Nicely done. 🙂 I love your new profile picture at the bottom of your post.

  9. Beautifully said! A therapist once told me to allow myself a moment to go through my emotions and then get up and do something productive. Life is too short to let is pass you by!

  10. This is so right on time for me. I’ve recently been basically feeling everything you mentioned in the first two paragraphs. I def. have goals and things I know would make me feel better but I feel like my crappy 9 to 5 takes up so much of my day that I can’t do all the things I need to after the fact. Almost every day I have to convince myself not to quit to follow my dreams since bill collectors won’t see that reasoning as a viable excuse for late payment. Sigh.

    • Just take one step at a time. After work, just do one thing each day that moves your closer to your goal. That way you feel like you are getting somewhere and you are taking baby steps toward your goal, and you won’t feel like you are not doing anything.

  11. My husband’s best friend’s mom needs to read this. Oh dear Lord! The woe is me posts aren’t doing much for her.

  12. I wish I could’ve read this when I was in my teens and young 20s!! Such great advice!

  13. I agree that many, many people don’t want to put in the effort they should. The entitlement drives me batty! We feel better about ourselves when we accomplish things anyhow.

  14. I think we all have those moments of weakness, but ultimately, its you who will pull yourself up and out. Thanks for sharing!

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