How To Deal With Jealousy & How To Overcome Jealousy
Jealousy is a common issue which is why people must learn how to deal with jealousy and how to overcome jealousy. Most people fit into two major categories dealing or overcoming, or maybe they suffer from both.
How To Deal With Jealousy (When People Are Jealous if You).
If you are a human being then you have dealt with someone that is jealous of you. Sometimes their jealousy is more apparent and sometimes they mascaraed as your friends (see blog here) when really they want to stab you in the back.
I have experienced a lot of jealousy in my life as most people have. I have experienced jealousy from both men and women both young and old.
People have been jealous of me because of my education or jealous of me because they feel like I am bragging about what I have. Or jealous of me because they are just jealous people. And that is when I learned this key lesson. Most of the time when people are jealous of you it has nothing to do with you but is a reflection of whatever is going on with them (click here to read my blog on other people’s insecurities).
The point I am trying to make is that so many people are jealous of other people just because. The other person does not have to give reason or cause. But the jealousy normally stems from one person having something that the other person does not have. Instead of being bothered by it. If you want to know the best way on how to deal with jealousy. Go about your life and DO NOT care. (see my blog here on how to not care about what other being are saying about you).
What I have come to realize is that people are people. You can be the nicest, most humble, most hardworking person the world, and people will still hate on you and be jealous of you. Most of the time when people are jealous of you there is nothing that you can do to fix it. One thing that I used to ask of people who were jealous of me would be for them to get to know me, learn how hard I hustle and respect it. But sad to say that most jealous people are not going to do all of that. They do not like you and they do not want to like you. It is best to accept this given fact and to move on from it (also read my blog on accept the things you cannot change). Because if you don’t then you will start to develop your own types of issues.
I have seen too many people care too much about what other people think (click to read more on not caring what people think). And as a results, they let others opinions about them determine what they are and are not going to do. People miss out on opportunities due to their inability to cope with what people think about them. This may be a news flash but the farther you go in life, the more people are going to be jealous of you. They do not have to have a reason, they do it because you are accomplishing something that they are not.
How To Overcome Jealousy (If you are Jealous of Other People)
This whole jealousy things goes both ways. If you do not want other people to be jealous of you, then guess what? You need to learn to control your emotions and not be jealous of other people. If you are jealous of someone else then you need examine your heart and try to understand what is the root of your jealousy. If you are jealous then it is your problem. And you need to find out why that is.
The person you are jealous of may have the man that you want, life that you want, job that you want, car that you want, or house that you want. But at the end of the day you can choose to do something about it. You can choose to fix it. Don’t hate on them because they have what you want. Just get on their level and push yourself harder to be and achieve something greater than what they have.
If you are jealous of someone else’s education, then figure out a way to go to school yourself. To get you started you can check out my blog on ways to pay for college. You cannot get mad at someone for wanting to better themselves, go better yourself. If you are jealous at someone else’s job, then get yourself another job. If you are not qualified for the job you want, then work toward getting those qualifications until you get the job you want. If you are jealous of someone’s looks, remember that you can only be you. So that is something you are going to have to work out internally. (Click to read my blog on how to accept yourself).
Learn how to overcome jealousy. They didn’t do anything to you. And even if they did you do not have to give them control of your life by feeding into how they feel about you. And secondly, stop allowing other people’s jealously effect how you act toward other people.
When I think back to 10 years ago, if I would have allowed every jealous or mean word get into my head, then I would not have accomplished or been anything much. And the only person that would be suffering was me. Instead, I chose to prove all my haters wrong and continue to go higher into my destiny. Do not let anyone tell you that you are not worth it (click to read my blog on people who try to bring you down). Make them eat their words. Do not let anyone make you believe that you are less than what you are.