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A common issue that people have is dealing with jealousy. Most people fit into two major categories with they want to deal with jealousy. They are either the one who is jealous or they are the one who is jealous of other people. And most people may even have a little bit of both.
Dealing with Jealousy (When People Are Jealous if You).
If you are anyone then you have dealt with someone that is jealous of you. Sometimes their jealousy is more apparent and sometimes they mascaraed as your friends (see blog here) when deep down they are jealous of you and want to ruin you. I have experienced a lot of jealousy in my life as most people have. I have experienced jealousy from both men and women both young and old.
People have been jealous of me because of my education or jealous of me because they feel like I am bragging about what I have. Or jealous of me because they are just jealous people. Most of the time when people are jealous of you it has nothing to do with you but is a reflection of whatever is going on with them.
When people are jealous of me I really want to tell them they do not know the struggle that it took for me to get some of what I have. They do not know how long have been in school, how much money it cost, or the work that I had put in. They do not understand the nights where I would get only one hour of sleep or no sleep at all because I had a child to raise and I had to go to work in the morning. They do not understand the times where I took classes with no text books because I could not afford them and I still had to keep going. People can be jealous of my job, not understanding the lower level jobs that I have had and have hated, in order to get a better job.
The point I am trying to make is that so many people are jealous of other people just because. The other person does not have to give reason or cause. But the jealousy normally stems from one person having something that the other person does not have. At first I used to be bothered by it. But if you want to know the best way on how to deal with jealous people. It is a HUGE secret. Are you ready? The answer is to go about your life and NOT care.
What I have come to realize is that people are people and you can be the nicest more humble and hardworking person the world and people will still hate on you and be jealous of you. Most of the time when people are jealous of you there is nothing that you can do to fix it. One thing that I used to ask of people who were jealous of me would be for them to get to know me, learn how hard I hustle and respect it. But sad to say that most jealous people are not going to do all of that. They do not like you and they do not want to like you. It is best to accept this given fact and to move on from it.
I have seen too many people care too much about what other people think. And as a results, they let others opinions about them determine what they are and are not going to do. People miss out on opportunities due to their inability to cope with what people think about them. This may be a news flash but the farther you go in life, the more people are going to be jealous of you. They do not have to have a reason, they do it because you are accomplishing something that they are not.
Dealing with Jealousy (If you are Jealous of Other People)
This whole jealousy things goes both ways. If you do not want other people to be jealous of you, then guess what? You need to learn to control your emotions and not be jealous of other people. If you are jealous of someone else then you need examine your heart and try to understand what is the root of your jealousy. If you are jealous then it is your problem. And you need to find out why that is.
The person you are jealous of may have the man that you want, life that you want, job that you want, car that you want, or house that you want. But at the end of the day you can choose to do something about it. You can choose to fix it. Don’t hate on them because they have what you don’t have. Just get on their level and push yourself harder to be and achieve something greater than what they have.
If you are jealous of someone else’s education, then figure out a way to go to school yourself. You cannot get mad at someone for wanting to better themselves, go better yourself. If you are jealous at someone else’s job, then get yourself another job. If you are not qualified for the job you want, then work toward getting those qualifications until you get the job you want. If you are jealous of someone’s looks, remember that you can only be you.
Stop being jealous of others. They didn’t do anything to you. And even if they did you do not have to give them control of your life by feeding into how they feel about you. And secondly, stop allowing other people’s jealously effect you. There is always going to be someone out there that does not like you.
When I think back to 10 years ago, if I would have allowed every jealous or mean word get into my head, then I would not have accomplished or been anything much. And the only person that would be suffering was me. Instead, I chose to prove all my haters wrong and continue to go higher into my destiny. Do not let anyone tell you that you are not worth it. Many people have told me that I was not worth it, and I made them eat their words. Do not let anyone make you believe that you are less than what you are.