How To Deal With Jealous People

I have experienced a lot of jealousy in my life as I am sure all people have.  I have experience jealous from both men and women both young and old.  People have been jealous of me because of my education.  Not understanding how long that it has taken me to go to school, how much money it cost, or the work that I had put in.  They do not understand the nights where I would get only one hour of sleep or no sleep at all because I had a child to raise and I had to go to work in the morning.  There were many times where I took classes with no text books because I could not afford them and I still had to keep going, using the library and other resources to learn the knowledge that I needed and to do my work. jealous

People are often jealous of me because of the knowledge that I have in mental health.  Not understanding that I have worked in the mental health field for almost 10 years now.  I have worked with people that would get psychically abusive with you in a second because that was the dynamics of their mental illness.  Or the fact that I used to work 12-16 hours in a jail as a correctional officer.  They do not understand the long hours that I have had to put in working in this area and mastering my craft or molding my character.  People are jealous of me because of how I look.  I am not saying that I am the most beautiful thing in the world, but people think what they want to think about you.  And people are going to think that because you like fashion or make up, that this equates to you believing that you are better than everyone else. When that is not true at all.


The point I am trying to make is that so many people are jealous of another people.  Period.  The other person does not have to give reason or  cause.  But people are people, and they are going to chose to hate on you anyway.  Jealous people do not want to look at the hard work it took for you to get where you are, the sacrifices you had to make, their only interest is to pull you down.   My response to all those who are jealous of me, before you judge and criticize me, I would rather they get to know me and learn to respect my hustle.  Learn that what I have done with my life and want to continue to do with my life is not easy.

At first I used to be bothered by it.  But I have learned not to care what people think about me.  I know this may sound harsh, but I have seen too many people care too much about what other people think.  And as a results, they let others opinions about them determine what they are and are not going to do.  People miss out on opportunities due to their inabilityjealous2 to cope with what people think about them.  This may be a news flash but the farther you go in life, the more people are going to hate you.  They do not have to have a reason, they do it because you are accomplishing something that they are not.  This is why I have learned and taught myself not to be jealous of others.  This was something I had to train myself to do and pray to God to maintain.  Fortunately for me I learned that when I saw something that someone else had, instead of being jealous and acting crazy toward them, I would just work hard and get these things on my own.

The only reason why jealousy comes in is because one feels a inadequacy in themselves.  The person you are jealous of may have the man that you want, life that you want, job that you want, car that you want, or house that you want.  But at the end of the day you can choose to do something about it. Examine the reason why you are jealous and then fix it.

If you are jealous of someone else’s relationships, man, or marriage.  I am not pinsaying take their man.  But I am saying that realize you are not married or in a relationship for a reason.
Figure out why, work on yourself, and trust that in the right timing someone will come along that is right for you.  If you are jealous of someone else’s education, then figure out a way to go to school yourself.  You cannot get mad at someone for wanting to better themselves, go better yourself.   If you are jealous at someone else’s job, then get yourself another job. If you are not qualified for the job you want, then work toward getting those qualifications until you get the job you want.  If you are jealous of someones looks, remember that you can only be you.  Learn to be happy with the way you look.  You are you for a reason so there is no need to try to look like or be someone else (check out  my blog on how to be satisfied with yourself).

Stop being jealous of others.  They didn’t do anything to you.  And even if they did you do not have to give them control of your life by feeding into how they feel about you.  And secondly, stop allowing other people’s jealously effect you.  There is always going to be someone out there that does not like you.  Instead of allowing their jealousy to stop you, allow it to be your motivation to get to where you need to go.  When I think back to 10 years ago, if I would have allowed every jealous or mean word get into my head, then I would not have accomplished or been anything much.  And the only person that would be suffering was me.  Instead, I chose to prove all my haters wrong and continue to go higher into my destiny.  Do not let anyone tell you that you are not worth it.  Many people have told me that I was not worth it, and I made them eat their words. Do not let anyone make you believe that you are less than what you are.

About Sophia Reed (312 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at

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