Sometimes you have to ask yourself. What do you care what other people think? Often times people who tend to get caught up in what other people think are experiencing the following problems:
- Have you ever been caught up in a world full of drama?
- Have you ever felt like nonsense was continually coming your way, knocking you off course?
- Have people been talking about you behind your back or talking about you to your face?
- Do you ever feel like you are so overwhelmed that you do not know which direction is up?
We have all had those moments, but what I have learned is that you have the ability to control your emotions (see my blog here on that). We cannot control what is going on around us but we can control how we react to the things that are going on around us, which includes other people and what other people think about us. When I face a crazy situation that is brought on by crazy people, I just tell myself.
“I have more important things to worry about, which means I don’t have time to worry about you.”
Which means that I too many things going on in my life, and I cannot sit a worry about why you do not like me. I cannot sit and worry about your mental issues. I cannot sit and worry about your insecurities. I cannot sit and worry about the fact that you have nothing else to do but to wreak havoc on other people’s life. Because what you do, has nothing to do with me. And I have a laundry list of things to do for myself, and someone else’s craziness is not included in that list.
“If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you. “ John 15:19
What does that mean exactly? Well it means that we have to live in the world. We are people, we need oxygen, we need gravity, and we need plants and clean water, we need all the things of the Earth, and we have to live here. But just because we are here on planet Earth does not mean we have to be of the world and feed into other people’s nonsense. We have to set ourselves apart and when you set yourself apart that means that people will hate you. They will hate you because you are not like them. They will hate you because you are different. They will hate you because you are too busy focused on the good things in life instead of focusing on the bad.
When you remove yourself from worldly thinking, it means that we do not have to feed into every negative idea or thought that someone feeds into our head. It means that we do not have to be influenced by the craziness around us (read my blog here on how to deal with jealous people). It is okay to be selfish (read my blog here). If other people’s insanity is causing you to go insane then you need to choose not to deal with those people.
You have more important things to worry about. What do you care what other people think? You have other things you need to be doing. You have a purpose you need to be moving toward, you have a goal that you are trying to achieve, you have children that you need to raise, or you have a marriage that you need to focus on. Let the positive things in your life be your focus, not the negative.
The way I see it, is that if they are talking about me, then I must be giving you something to talk about. The only people that are going to talk about you are people who are worried about what you are doing.
And if they are worrying about what you are doing then you must be doing something right. Those people have now made you the center of their world, and even though they are worried about you, they have actually given you all the power over them.
The way I see it, if other people want to give me power over them then they can watch me run circles around them, because I have more important things to worry about. I have to step into my calling, my passion, and my goals. I have to keep working and keep climbing, I cannot focus on if you are talking about me or not. Because your opinion really does not matter to me, because I do not have time to let your opinion matter to me.
Living in the world you must get these things into your head:
- People will talk about you.
- People will not like you.
- People are going to try to pull you down to their level.
- People will try to deflect their own insecurities on you.
It no one is after you, then you must not be someone that is worth paying attention to. Instead be flattered that someone else is wasting so much time, effort, and energy worrying about what you are doing. And the more that they try to bring you down, the more it should make you want to go higher in what you are am doing. If someone wants to hate on you, then make sure you give them plenty of reason. Remember that you have more important things to worry about. And if you are too busy focusing on the important things in your life then you do not have time to worry the unimportant things, unimportant people, or what those unimportant people think.