- Have you ever been caught up in a world full of drama?
- Have you ever felt like nonsense was continually coming your way, knocking you off course?
- Have people been talking about you behind your back or talking about you to your face?
- Do you ever feel like you are so overwhelmed that you do not know which direction is up?
We have all had those moments, but what I have learned is that you have the ability to control your emotions (see my blog here on that). We cannot control what is going on around us but we can control how we react to the things that are going on around us. When I face a crazy situation that is brought on by crazy people, I just tell myself.
“I have more important things to worry about.”
Which means that I too many things going on in my life, and I cannot sit a worry about why you do not like me. I cannot sit and worry about your mental issues. I cannot sit and worry about your insecurities. I cannot sit and worry about the fact that you have nothing else to do but to wreak havoc on other people’s life. Because what you do, has nothing to do with me. And I have a laundry list of things to do for myself, and someone else’s craziness is not included in that list.
“If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you. “ John 15:19
What does that mean exactly? Well it means that we have to live in the world. We are people, we need oxygen, we need gravity, and we need plants and clean water. We need all the things of the Earth, we have to live here. But just because we are here on planet Earth does not mean act like we have no sense. We have to set ourselves apart and when you set yourself apart that means that people will hate you. They will hate you because you are not like them. They will hate you because you are different. You are too busy focused on the good things in life instead of focusing on the bad.
When you remove yourself from worldly thinking, it means that we do not have to feed into every negative idea or thought that someone feeds into our head. It means that we do not have to be influenced by the craziness around us (read my blog here on how to deal with jealous people). It is okay to be selfish (read my blog here). If other people’s insanity is causing you to go insane then you need to choose not to deal with those people.
You have more important things to worry about. You have other things you need to be doing. You have purpose you need to be moving toward, you have a goal that you are trying to achieve, you have children that you need to raise, or you have a marriage that you need to focus on. Let the positive things in your life be your focus, not the negative.
The way I see it, is that if they are talking about me, then I must be given them something to talk about. The only people that are going to talk about you are people who are worried about what you are doing. And if they are worrying about what I am doing that then I must be doing something right. You have now made me the center of your world, and I did not know I had that much power over you. But since you have given me that power over you, and you want to stalk my life. Then you can watch me run circles around you, because I have more important things to worry about. I have to step into my calling, my passion, and my goals. I have to keep working and keep climbing, I cannot focus on if you are talking about me or not. Because your opinion really does not matter to me, because I do not have time to let your opinion matter to me.
Living in the world you must get these things into your head:
- People will talk about you.
- People will not like you.
- People are going to try to pull you down to their level.
- People will try to deflect their own insecurities on you.
The way I see it, if no one was after me, then I must not be someone that is worth paying attention to. When you are after me, I am flattered that you are wasting so much time, effort, and energy worrying about what I am doing. And the more that you try to bring me down, the more it makes me want to go higher in what I am doing. That way I will really give you something to hate on.
If there is anything message that you take away from this post. Remember that you have more important things to worry about. And if you are too busy focusing on the important things in your life then you do not have time to worry the unimportant things.