I Don’t Care What You Think and I Don’t Care If You Don’t Like Me.
Perhaps I am just missing a gene (click here to read my blog on missing the fake gene) but I don’t care what you think and I don’t care if you don’t me. And just to be clear “you” I mean other people that want to hold me back. Not you as in the person reading this blog.
It amazes me some people that I really will not bend over backward to impress them and that I am willing to let go of an frenemy (Click my blog here on frenemies) at the drop of a dime. The reason why, I don’t care what you think or even if you like me at all, is because it is possible that I may not be too fond of you either.
I don’t care what you think about me or what you want me do to. I have a brain in my head, I form my own opinions, and I have my thoughts that dictate my own actions. I do not need anyone else to do that for me.
I don’t understand why I see people fall apart over what people think about them? Why do I see people beg and plead for someone to be their friend? You have yourself, are you not enough? Why are you trying to convince someone else to be around you if they don’t want to be? Or why try to make someone like you if they do not like you as is?
I recall in grade school, when all of my friends decided to shun me based off a rumor that my “friend” told them. They went out of their way to ignore me and not speak to me. And I decided to not care. I found a new friend that day and started hanging out with her. That was that. There was no begging to be my friend. No apologizing for something I did not do. None of that. It was never in my DNA to do that.
And after a few months of this, my so called friends all of a sudden decided to be my friends again. In which I decided not to be there friend again. Of course you can forgive but forgiveness does not mean let them in your circle when they have proven to be less than a friend (check my blog on that).
I came to learn when you do not care what other people think, you take their power away. Many people want you to care about what they think and they insert their opinion in your life when it does not belong there. The sole reason why they want to do that is because they want to control you and deep down they need validation from you that their opinions matters. And that is when you have to say “I Don’t Care What You Think.” Especially if what they think about you is their way of holding you back. If I had listened to other people then I would not be where I am today (Click to read my blog here on believing in yourself).
You are always going to be you and you are always going to be in your life. Other people are not guaranteed to be in your life, if you do not want them to be. Therefore there is no need to try to make them like you.
Some people change their looks, their hair, their outfits, where they live, or their car based on other people’s opinion. Well unless those people are going to make those monthly car payments for you, then why are you buying something off of others people’s approval. The phrase “be yourself” sound so cliché. But it is true. Who else can you be, but yourself?
When you spend all your time trying to imitate what or who other people want you to be, that is when you will loose your mind, because you can never be what someone else wants you to be. And you will drive yourself crazy trying to change yourself based on what other people think about you.
I am not going to die if you do not want to be my friend. I don’t care what you think and I don’t care if you don’t like me. I am too busy out here living my life, to sit here and think about what other people think about what I am doing. And more than anything, I strongly urge that anyone reading this stop caring about what everyone else has to say about you as well.