Perhaps I am just missing a gene or something. So many people wonder why I do not bend over backward to impress them or why when they tell me something crazy I do not care. I am willing to let go of an unproductive acquaintance or friend at the drop of a dime. I do not care if you like me, it is possible that I may not like you either. I do not care what you think about me or what you want me do to. I have a brain in my head, I form my own opinions, and thoughts that dictate my own actions. I do not need anyone else to do that for me.
But why do I see people fall apart over what people think about them? Why do I see people beg and plead for someone to be their friend? You have yourself, are you not enough? Why are you trying to convince someone else to be around you if they don’t want to be? Or why are trying to make someone like you if they do not like you as is?
I recall when I was in the second grade. All of my friends decided to shun me based off a rumor that my “friend” told them. They went out of their way to ignore me and not speak to me. And even then, I simply did not care. I can recall that when they decided not to play with me, I found a new friend that day and started playing with her. That was that. There was no begging to be my friend. No apologizing for something I did not do. None of that. It was never in my DNA to do that.
I am me and there is no changing that. So why would I apologize or conform myself for someone else. I am always going to be me and I am always going to be in my life. Other people are not guaranteed to be in my life, therefore there is no need to try to make them like me. This can be said for friends, boyfriends, or co-workers.
Some people change their look, their hair, their outfits, where they live, or their car based on other people’s opinion. Well unless you are going to make those monthly car payments for me, I am going to get what I can afford and forgo the Range Rover to earn your approval. The phrase “be yourself” sound so cliché. But it is true. Who else can you be, but yourself? And when you spend all your time trying to imitate what or who other people want you to be, that is where you are ready to lose your mind. There are many thing to worry about in life, and whether you like me or not is not one of those thing. At least not for me. It is not going to make me angry if you do not say “hi” every time you see me. I am not going to die if you do not want to be my friend.
Called it cold hearted, I call it living. Life is too short to live by other’s peoples standards.