How to Pull Yourself Out of Depression No Matter What

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Get Out of Your Funk And Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

In this post I am going to address how to pull yourself out of depression.  I am going to be real with you and touch on how to pull yourself out of depression based on why you are in your depression.

How to Pull Yourself Out of Depression No Matter What

How to pull yourself out of depression because you are the source of your depression.

The fact of the matter is that no one is going to feel as sorry for you as you feel for yourself (read my blog here). The first step on learning how to pull yourself out of depression is to realize that you have more control over your emotions than you think (read my blog here on being master of your emotions).  When you are feeling depressed part of the reason is because you have lost control of your life, you wish something was better about your life or yourself, and you feel like there is nothing you can do to make your situation better.  There were plenty of times that I did feel sorry for myself or could have felt sorrier for myself (see my blog here for my single mom story). But I realized that there comes a point in which you can sink or swim (read my blog here).

There comes a time when you can choose to be a victim or a victor. Click To Tweet

When you want to learn how to pull yourself out of depression you can choose to sit in your depression or you can choose to do something about it. It is a choice. You have to stop telling yourself all the negative things you say to yourself on an every day basis.  When you sit and negativity, that is not going to help you or your depression.  It is just going to cause you to sink deeper in it.

The choice that you have to make on how to get out of your depression you is that you have to chose not to play the victim but allow your circumstances to make you stronger (check out my blog on that).

In my situation when I was depressed, I chose to go to God and through his goodness and mercy He brought me out of a lot of things I had no business being in. And even better He used my mistakes, sadness, and downfalls as a platform to be able to help others.  That is what happens when you stop playing victim. You no longer see your depression as something that is happening to you, but you wonder what you can do to make it work for you.

How to Pull Yourself Out of Depression No Matter What

The key in learning how to pull yourself out of depression is that you have to be willing to see the light at the end of the tunnel and choose not to see the temporary situation as permanent.

How to pull yourself out of depression because of someone else.

Trust story. A friend recently told me that a few years ago they tried to commit suicide because they felt no one cared about them and they felt unloved. This is the advice that I gave them and it is the same advice I am going to give to you if other people is the reason why you are depressed.

You cannot look to other people to make you happy, because if you do you will always be let down.  You cannot look toward a husband, wife, girlfriend, friends, children, or any “person” in this world to fulfill your complete happiness. This is because eventually weather intentionally or not, they are going to fall short. And when they do, if you are putting your complete and total happiness in them it is going to cause you to fall, and it is going to cause you to fall hard. And in this instance, you would be willing to end your life based on how other people feel about you? Are you are willing to bank your eternal soul on an emotion such as depression?

As an individual, you have to be able to regulate your own emotions and not be affected by the shortcomings of others. You also cannot be affected by the shortcomings of life. Life will let you down, I am sorry to say that. Friends and family will die before their time, you will lose your job, struggle in your finances, struggle to pay bills, struggle in relationships, be in bad relationships, be the black sheep of the family, and the list can go one and on.   I cannot think of one person in the world that has not gone through something, and although it is okay to be sad and mourn.

Do not get so consumed by your emotions that you fall apart and give up on life. Click To Tweet

How to pull yourself out of depression by putting things into perspective

When I played the victim of my circumstances once I got all depressed in a situation I was in. God reminded me of something. This may sound cliche, but the message hit me hard.  I was watching the show Life Today and children who did not have clean water. I watched village person after village person go to a dirty lake, fill up their containers, and drink. The water was not even clear but brown and dirty.  They knew the water was contaminated but they had not choice but to drink it. Risking getting sick and dying. The alternative was to get dehydrated and get sick and die. So they risk their health by drinking dirty water. If you want to give to that cause then click here.

In that moment I decided to put things in perspective. Because any given day, I could walk to a faucet and get clean water and not worry about dying from it. This was a turning point for me, I decided to make a change in my mood and I encourage you to do the same.

How to Pull Yourself Out of Depression No Matter WhatEveryday you wake up, your situation has the opportunity’ to change and things have a chance to turn around. Try to focus on that as oppose to focusing on what you do not have, what you are not, or what other people have done to you. As long as there is a tomorrow things can change. No matter if you believe it or not you can choose to think a different way.  Instead of feeling depressed, choose to be thankful for what you do have (also check out my blog on tip for thinking positive).

Choose to be thankful for another day to improve your situation and ask God for wisdom and to guide your path to make things right for you.  The longer you fester in a mode in which you feel sorry for yourself, the deeper and deeper you will sink.  Everyday, waking up, regretting that you are alive or in your life.  Feeling sorry for yourself day in and day out.  That gets old and it gets tired.  You will get exhausted.

Depression takes a lot of energy.  So why not put that same energy to doing something else.  Doing what you can to change your situation and simply choosing to not let the negative thoughts overcome you.  Choose to believe that things will get better and your situation is just that, a situation that will not last.  You can choose to stop feeling sorry for yourself.

So in order to  learn how to pull yourself out of depression it is important to learn to roll with the punches AND come out on top as oppose to being knocked down and staying knocked down.

Everyone has their own burdens to bear.  But not everyone sits around feeling depressed.  The people who come out on top are the people who do not allow the negative emotions to consume them and to allow adverse situations make them better.  That is what we call resiliency.

How to Pull Yourself Out of Depression No Matter What





  1. Your photos are great; very original and puts things in perspective. Especially in being grateful for what we do have. There’s a great message here, and it’s that ultimately we are in control of our psycho-social behavior. We may not be in full control of our thoughts and emotions, but we have the ability to steer them in a more positive direction once we catch them straying to the “dark side.” I think that it takes time after a loss or disappointment to get to that place though. You get to a point where you are tired of mourning, and that’s when you say “I’m done.”

  2. This was an amazing pist very touchinga nd so true on every word thanks for sharing this, i just sent this to a friend to encourage her so she knows she will come through no matter what.
    have a lovely day

  3. I learned a long time ago that I am the only one who can make me happy. I have also learned that God is the lover of our souls and in and through Him we can do amazing things. Thank you for these reminders! I have been in a funk lately- continually comparing myself to others and feeling like a total nothing. Thank you for reminding me that I really just need to change my perspective.

  4. This is a lovely post and I have been there…so easy to fall in the trap of feeling sorry for yourself! Turning to God is the absolute only way to go..really enjoyed this inspo!!

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  5. On point! It can be very fulfilling to have good people in your life who make you happy but relying on them for your happiness is an entirely different story. For too long I was dependent. It is so empowering to take your whole life into your own hands.

  6. This post came at the right time, I am in a bad situation financially, emotionally and physically and while its hard I am trying my best to push through all my troubles.

  7. Choose to do something about it. I know a woman who is always looking at the negative in everything. I understand some people suffer from depression and need help. Look around everyday and tell yourself 10 things you are thankful for, makes a difference.

  8. This is so true! You have to take charge of your own life and find what makes you happy. You absolutely cannot look to others to fill whatever hole you have in your life. You have to make a conscious decision to pull yourself out of the funk and move forward.

  9. Thank you for sharing. It’s so easy for me to feel sorry for myself at times. I do like your example of the village drinking dirty water. It’s so true. We have so many things to be thankful for. It doesn’t mean what we’re going through doesn’t matter, it just means we need to be grateful for what we do have. Thank you for your honesty. 🙂

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