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The worse thing you can do it to feel sorry for yourself. The fact of the matter is that no one is going to feel as sorry for you as you feel for yourself (read my blog here). The step on learning how to stop feeling sorry for yourself is to realize that you have more control over your emotions than you think. When you feel sorry for yourself it may because you have lost control of your life, you wish something was better about your life or yourself, and you feel like there is nothing you can do to make your situation better. There were plenty of times that I did feel sorry for myself or could have felt sorrier for myself (see my blog here for my single mom story).
There comes a point in which you can sink or swim (read my blog here).
There comes a point that you can choose to sit in your depression or you can chose to do something about it. For me, I chose to do something about it, and because I did not play the victim in my circumstances it made me stronger. Now, that the same exact things that caused me to work harder to get where I want to be.
In my situation. I chose to go to God and through his goodness and mercy He brought me out of a lot of things I had no business being in, and even better He used my mistakes, sadness, and downfalls as a platform to be able to help others. The key is, I had to be willing to see the light at the end of the tunnel and choose not to see the temporary situation I was in as permanent.
At the end of the day life is unpredictable. Most people feel sorry for themselves because something in their life is going wrong that is beyong their control. But the thing is that, that is life. There are very little things that we can sit and control in our lives. With that being said, knowing that you cannot control your life. You can choose to roll with the punches and come out on top or be punched and stay knocked down. Everyone no matter who they are has their own struggle and the have their own burdens to bear. But not everyone sits around feeling sorry for themselves. The people who come out on top are the people who do not allow the negative emotions to consume them.
A friend recently told me that a few years ago they tried to commit suicide because they felt no one cared about them and they felt sorry for themselves. Because they felt unloved and like no one cared. This is the advice that I gave them. You cannot look toward other people to make you happy, because if you do you will always be let down. You cannot look toward a husband, wife, girlfriend, friends, children, or any “person” in this world to fulfill your complete happiness. This is because eventually weather intentionally or not, they are going to fall short. And when they do, if you are putting your complete and total happiness in them it is going to cause you to fall, and it is going to cause you to fall hard. And in this instance, you would be willing to end your life based on how other people feel about you? Or what about those people who are willing to end their lives because they are going through something hard? You are willing to bank your eternal soul on an emotion (feeling sorry for yourself)?
As an individual, you have to be able to regulate your own emotions and not be affected by the shortcomings of others or for that matter, you cannot be affected by the shortcomings of life. Life will let you down, I am sorry to say that. Friends and family will die before their time, you will lose your job, struggle in your finances, struggle to pay bills, struggle in relationships, be in bad relationships, be the black sheep of the family, and the list can go one and on. I cannot think of one person in the world that has not gone through something, and although it is okay to be sad and mourn.
When I played the victim of my circumstances once, getting all depressed in a situation I was in. God reminded me of something. This may sound cliche, but the message hit me hard. I was watching the show Life Today and children who did not have clean water. I watched village person after village person go to a dirty lake, fill up their containers, and drink. The water was not even clear but brown and dirty. They knew the water was contaminated. Many families lost children and other families members from the contaminated water. But it was the only choice they had. They either remained dehydrated or drink water they knew could kill them. In that moment I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself. Because any given day, I could walk to a faucet and get clean water and not worry about dying from it. I think sometimes when God hears us complain, He is saying to us “If only you can see every life in every part of the world, you will realize you do not have it that bad.” Or if only you can look in someone else’s life and see how hard they have it, you would not complain.
This was a turning point for me, I decided to make a change in my mood and I encourage you to do the same. Everyday you wake up, your situation has the opportunity’ to change and things have a chance to turn around. Try to focus on that as oppose to focusing on what you do not have, what you are not, or what other people have done to you. As long as there is a tomorrow things can change. No matter if you believe it or not you can choose to think a different way. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, choose to be thankful for what you do have.
Choose to be thankful for another day to improve your situation and ask God for wisdom and to guide your path to make things right for you. The longer you fester in a mode in which you feel sorry for yourself, the deeper and deeper you will sink. Everyday, waking up, regretting that you are alive or in your life. Feeling sorry for yourself day in and day out. That gets old and it gets tired. You will get exhausted. Feeling sorry for yourself takes a lot of energy. So why not put that same energy to doing something else. Doing what you can to change your situation and simply choosing to not let the negative thoughts overcome you. Choose to believe that things will get better and your situation is just that, a situation that will not last. You can choose to stop feeling sorry for yourself.
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