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For Every Interaction There is a lesson to be Learned. And That Is To Move Forward and Not Get Stuck

I believe that there is a reason and season for everything and every person that we meet.  Everyone that enters your life is not going to be there in a positive way. Some people are not going to like you, some are going to talk bad about you, and there are times that you will be treated unfairly. It’s just the ways of the world. However, I think that we have to bring these ways into a new understanding. Often times, these ways are not to bring us down, but to build us up. And even though it feels like we are being pulled to the brink or insanity when we are going through these things like a lump of coal that has been through heat and pressure for an extended period of time it is meant to make us come out like a diamond in the end.

 “but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Romans 5:3-4

If the world was the way we wanted it to be 100% of the time, or if people treated us the way that we wanted to be treated 100% of the time then what type of person would we be. If we never had a problem, if no one was ever rude to us, if things always went right in our lives, then how our strength as a person ever be tested, and if our strength is never tested then how can we know how high we can jump or how far we can reach.

You see it is through the bad stuff that makes us stronger, that makes us want to prove people wrong and make liars out of those when they told us we would not amount to anything. Once we been through the tough times and that we can still come out on top then we know that the next time we go through something tough we cannot be so easily knocked down or swayed.  Not only that, but we are able to recognize quicker and faster the people and things that are not good for us because we would have already “been there and done that” and feel no need to repeat past mistakes.

In my opinion everyone was born to be great. It is up to them weather they get there or not.  I do not care if you were born poor, molested; raped, beaten…..that is the bad stuff that can be turned into a big testimonial to someone one day.

Look at Jesus’ life. He was born in a barn with dirty smelly animals.  He lived very poorly, had not real home, went against popular belief, faced rejection, and although many loved him many hated him too.  He died a common criminal’s death. We often use words like he was born in a manger in a stable, and lived a humble life, in which he was crucified. That sounds much different than the reality of the situation. Jesus’ life was hard, very hard. But I think it was intentionally made this way. So that no one can say they ever had it harder than Him and yet and still he was able to accomplish the mission that he was put on this Earth for. He didn’t dwell on what was not being done for him or who said what about him. He just did what he had to do.

The point that I am trying to make is this. Do you wonder where your life partner is or what your point in life is? Well I think that if you do then you have not gone through what you needed to go through or learned what you needed to learn in order for that person or purpose to be there. In each relationship, interaction, trail, or tribulation there is a lesson to be learned. Now, how fast you get through that lesson depends on you.

I think it was Albert Einstein that said “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

If you are the type of person that jumps in bed with a man too soon and do it time and time again and wonder why your relationships are not going anywhere….then you may be insane. Why do we as people want to revisit the same path, the same person, or type of person and do the same things over and over and expect the outcome to be different? Why do we keep ahold of people that we know are not good for us, that hurt us, that have no place in our future? Everything and everyone has a season and  you have to go through it, learn from it, and then you have to let go.

The best way I can illustrate this is if two women have the same exact destiny. One gets married at 28 and the other at 42. What went wrong since they have the same destiny? Often times it goes like this, the 28 years old meets someone they know is no good for them. They are able to recognize that within weeks that this person is not for them, and moved on. Within the same year they meet person A,B, and C and within that year they were able to recognize that none of these people are good for them. Not only did they move on, but they took something out of each and every relationship and made a change on the inside of them depending on the experience of the relationship. Eventually, she came to know herself, and she knew what she wanted out of life, as well as what she wanted out of a partner, and at the age of 28 she knew that she knew that she knew, she found that person.

Let’s take the 42 year old. Instead of learning and growing. She would hold on to man A, knowing that he was not the one, knowing that his type of love hurt, but still hoping it would change. She held on for five years all for the sake of wanting to get married, not wanting to be alone, or not understanding that the purpose was not for man A to be in her life for 5 years. However, she continued this pattern and instead of going through B and C like the 28 year old did, learning from each experience. She held on to them each for years…….. keeping men that God was trying to pull away.

She did not learn from her experiences and added man D,E,F,G into the mix. Slowing down her own destiny because she was not moving fluently though life and not fulfilling or trying to understand her purpose. Instead, she stumbled, and stumbled, and stumbled, and when she did meet the right man, although grateful it really could have been done sooner had she been willing to let go of the others, learn what she needed to learn, and move on. Sometimes we will settle and force ourselves to marry person E, when it was never intended to be so, missing the mark completely.
Often times it is ourselves that are putting us through pain of life by trying to hold on to what God is trying to pull away. Not only that, but letting it distract us from the purpose in life and because we are so focused on the wrong things throughout our lives we fall short of our great destiny and settle for an average life.

So I say this to you, life is life. It is always going to be hard, and we all have our burdens to bear. Some more than most. But if we get caught up on out burdens, downfalls, and wrong people, then our perfect destiny will always be a dream. You will stumble on the wrong things and then when you get up you will be so lost that you take the wrong path all together. Instead, stumble get back up and keep it moving. Do not continue to stumble in the same place for years.
Just like the story in the Bible. When Moses led the Hebrews out of Egypt, the trip to the promise land was only supposed to take 40 days! But because of their constant unbelief, complaining, and not seeing what God wanted them to see, it took 40 years! In that 40 years the original generation had passed away, including Moses, and did not see the promise land. They were freed from Egypt and everything started out okay, but stumbling so many times that they did not quite make it to the promise land. Don’t take 40 years to get to the promise land. Live, learn, and get through the bad stuff as soon and gracefully as possible, so you can get your reward sooner.

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About Sophia Reed (293 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at sophiareedsbook@gmail.com

3 Comments on For Every Interaction There is a lesson to be Learned. And That Is To Move Forward and Not Get Stuck

  1. Have you read any books by J.California Cooper? you remind me of her I think you would like her try and look her up if you can

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