I have learned that God Removes People From Your Life For A Reason. But it is human nature for us to try to hang on to someone even though it is apparent that God is trying to remove them from our lives. As Christians we should always forgive, but forgiveness does mean hanging on to people that we know we should not be dealing with, sometimes it is better to forgive from a distance (click here to see my blog on forgiveness does not mean reconciliation).
Think about all the people that God is trying to remove from your life. Often times before God tries to remove them from our lives there are always red flags. AND God always gives us the opportunity to try to remove them from our lives on our own. So what are the red flags you may ask? Some of them include when you are put in a situation and you have to depend on that person and they let you down, they disrespect you, they cheated on you time and time again, they pretend to be your friend but are really wolves in sheep’s clothing (see my blog here on frenemies).
Can anyone relate to what I am saying?
Have you been in a relationship or even a friendship in which they have let you down time and time again. But you keep giving them a chance, hoping that things will change? Or often times we may excuses for their shortcomings and keep letting them back into our lives anyway. Even though there are red flags all around us regarding this person.
That is why it is important to pay attention to the people that God is trying to tear out of your life. Do not be resentful that they left, but be glad. Be glad that you see their true colors now. A huge sign that God is trying to remove someone from your life is that the relationship between you two will get worse and worse and worse. That is because God is hoping that you will just cut it off yourself. Until it comes a point where HE (God) just removes the person for you. Since you cannot seem to do it on your on.
But God is not a God that forces us to do something. He always gives us free will. And even though there is a voice (God’s voice) in your head telling you to cut off the person, often times people just don’t listen. Every time the person God is trying to tear you away from, tries comes back into your life, you have decision to make. To let them continue to wreck havoc on you, your mind, and your sanity. Or to listen to God and to cut it off. At one point if you continue to let people in your life that God is trying to remove, then it is your FAULT!
Fool me Once Shame On you, Fool me again Shame on me.
At some point when there are clear signs that you need to get rid of this persons and you keep bringing them back into your life, then it is your fault. You have to wonder, what in the world is wrong with you, as to the reason why you tolerate being abused by someone else. Why you are unable to let go of a destructive person? Sometimes we have to let go and when we get to a point where we can truly let go, that is when healing begin. But when you choose to hang on to someone then really you are just actively keeping yourself in the state of sadness and depression. This can go on for so long that God can intervene and say “enough is enough, since you do not have the strength to cut this off; I will remove the person.”
And you cannot be resentful of that because it is what God is doing is for your own good.
Letting go does not have to include malice, but it includes doing what is best for you. And what is best for you may mean that you have to bid that person farewell and pray that they get some sense knocked into their head and change. But that sense does not have to be you and you do not have to be the voice of reason begging for them to get it together. Whatever transformation they need to go through may have nothing to do with you and it may takes years to complete. But let them complete that on their own. It is their test to pass not yours. Your test is to allow God to remove that person and go on with your life. The last thing you want to do is wait years or maybe even never for someone to appreciate you.
No matter how you have tried to help them, pray for them, or wanted things to work out with you and them. You just have to let go and walk into a better future without them. It may hurt, but you also have to realize that it is the best thing that you can do. God has a great future planned for you and He can’t give it to you with dysfunctional people around you messing it up. Think about it.