It is easy to get discouraged by people who bring you down, but one thing you have to realize that people who bring you down are no match for you. Whenever you look at people who are trying to bring you down then you need to look at the story of David (also read my blog here on David when people don’t believe in you).
We know David for going against Goliath and slaying him. Saying:
“Who is this Philistine that he should defy the armies of the living God?”1 Samuel 17:26
What David was basically saying is that this giant is no match for me and who is the Philistine who thinks that he is going to go up against me and win. David did not care who Goliath was, he did not care how big he wants, he had no fear when facing Goliath.
So how does this apply to people who bring you down?
I am glad you asked that question. Whenever you are dealing with people who bring you down, you need to have the mentality of David. Who are these Philistines that dare come up against you? You should not be afraid of them but they should be afraid of you.
What David knew was that he was ordained to be king and he knew that God was on his side. He knew that Goliath was not going to end him because Goliath had no authority over him and there was still things God ordained him to do. He knew Goliath had no real power. And if God was for him, no matter who was standing against him, he knew he was going to come out on top. There was no doubt in his mind about that.
And if David had chosen to believe his fear over what God had told him then he would not have slayed Goliath, he would have not become king, he would not have been a man after God’s own heart, and we would not even remember his name.
Take for example:
“The men of Israel said, ‘Have you seen this man who is coming up? Surely he is coming up to defy Israel'”. 1 Samuel 17:25
These are the men that were fearful of Goliath. That were concerned about what Goliath can do to them and thought that Goliath’s plan to bring them down would succeed. These are also the men whose names are not mentioned in the Bible and these are the men that we do not even know who they are. All we know is that they were too busy worried about Goliath’s defeating them than they were about overcoming Goliath.
So what am I trying to say about people who bring you down?
I am trying to say that what is for you is for you and you cannot believe the negative words of other people who bring you down. If you know that you have a destiny, a calling, a purpose, and that God created you then you know that other people words don’t matter. And say to yourself “who is this Philistine?” Who is this person who thinks that have the ability to speak down to me and rob me of my dignity?
And understand that it may not just be one person who brings you down. It may be many people and it may be people who are even close to you.
Case and point
“David said to Saul, ‘Let no one lose heart on account of this Philistine; your servant will go and fight him.’
Saul replied, ‘You are not able to go out against this Philistine and fight him; you are only a young man, and he has been a warrior from his youth.'” Samuel 17:32-33
Once again you see David being put down by someone else and once again you see David fight back. He did not tell Saul “okay, you are right. Let me listen to you and bow down and do nothing”
The key is that when there are people who bring you down, do not stay there. Do not let them make you believe that “down” is where you belong and do not let them make you doubt your own ability. And the way to fight back is to have faith in yourself.
And so David’s response was this
“But David said to Saul, ‘Your servant has been keeping his father’s sheep. When a lion or a bear came and carried off a sheep from the flock, I went after it, struck it and rescued the sheep from its mouth. When it turned on me, I seized it by its hair, struck it and killed it. Your servant has killed both the lion and the bear; this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them, because he has defied the armies of the living God. The Lord who rescued me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the hand of this Philistine.’” Samuel 17: 34-37
The good thing about David is that he suffered from having too much faith in himself and too much faith in God. Despite what everyone else was saying and how they were putting him down he knew something that no one else knew. And that was that he had God and God was not going to let him down. That God could and WOULD give him the ability to do anything and that he did not need the approval of other people to get there (also check out my blog on how God can use anything to make you succeed).
And so what happened to all of those people who put David down. We don’t know, nor do we care. They were not important. The hero here is David. All the doubter and mockers have lost their place in history. And as we know David slayed the giant with only sling shot and a rock.
What’s my point?
In case you are missing the key theme here, I am telling you that people who bring you down should mean nothing to you. Why would you care about what other people think if you are too busy doing you? (see my blog here for more on this topic).
When you focus on other people who put you down you are giving them all of your power and you are letting them dictate your future. You are allowing them to rob you of something great and more than anything you have the power to control that. You may not be able to control what comes out of their mouth but you can choose what you want to believe and how you allow other people to effect you.
Just like David response to Saul, when people speak down to you, let them know that in your time alone with God you have dealt with bigger and badder fish and them putting you down is the least of your concerns. And just like David addressed Goliath ask yourself “Who is this Philistine” Who is this person who thinks they have the right to come at you sideways? Who is the person who thinks that have the right to mess with your self esteem? Who is this person who thinks they have the right to talk down to you?
They don’t have that right. And just remember if David would have fell into the negative words he would have faded into obscurity. And if you let other people who want to bring you down bother you, then that is where you will fade, into obscurity? Remember that other people have no control over your destiny. Remember that other people who bring you down is about their own insecurities and their own fears, never really about you (see my blog here for more on that).
So to answer how to deal with people who bring down? Remember to soar above them because that is where you belong. Not on their level and do not allow for their issues to affect you.