People talking behind your back is something that is always going to happen. But since you cannot control other people you must learn that the only person you can control is yourself. Meaning that you cannot control people talking behind your back but you can control the way to react to people talking behind your back.
5 Ways To Get Over People Talking Behind Your Back
Focus on You and Not On Them.
You have your own life to worry about. If you are too busy pursuing you own dreams then that means that you do not have time to pay attention to what other people are doing or what other people are saying about you. Read my blog in on (I have more Important Things to worry about, which means I don’t have time to worry about you).
Focus on what you are doing and remained un-phased about what other people are saying about you. Do not even let what they are saying about you take up any more of your thoughts or energy. Instead, focus your energy on yourself and things that will really propel you forward.
Keep Your Mouth Shut.
I spoke about assertive communication versus aggressive community in my blog here. Being aggressive in your communication is not going to solve the people talking behind you back problem. It is going to make it worse. When you are like a boss you are a class woman (click my blog here) and classy women know when to speak and know when you be quiet.
The more you are talking the more you are not listening and not taking in the things that are going on around you. There is no need to argue down people who do not like and who are talking behind your back. Because no matter what you say, they are just going to go behind your back and talk about you even more. So why waste time, energy, or even breathe trying to tell people off or get people to like you? If they have made up in their mind that they don’t like you, then there is little you can say to change their mind about it.
Let Your Haters Be Your Motivators
The best way to get back at those who hate you is to give those more to hate on. Keep rising higher and keep doing better. Allow their negative words to be the driving force behind your success. The fact of the matter is that people who talk behind your back want to see you fail. So why give them the satisfaction of letting them effect you that much that you fail. Do the opposite and let their hate motivate you. The biggest way to shut people up is to show them how well you can do in life despite how they tried to bring you down.
The more you talk about me the more flattered I am, because that means I have distracted you from your life so much that you have thought enough of me to take time out of your busy schedule to talk about me. That must mean that I am doing something right. Often times people talking about you is just them being jealous of you (read my blog here on jealous people), so if someone wants to talk about you then let them that must mean they feel you are worth talking about. And in a way that is a compliment that people are choosing to spend time (that they will never get back) worried about what you are doing.
Kill Them with Kindness
Yes that is right, I said it. No matter how many people talk about you or how many people hate you. Always repay evil for good (see my blog here). If people don’t like you at least make it so that they respect you, so that they can never say that you did anything wrong to them. And I am convinced that no matter how bad people are toward you, that you should NEVER stoop down to their level of immaturity. Just show them how un-bothered you are, and smile in their face.