Why You Should Be Nice To People Even If You Don’t Want To & Even When They Don’t Deserve It.

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Maybe I am a little naïve in the fact that I do not believe that people should be treated like crap. I do not believe that we should treat each other like crap.  I think that if we all treated each other the way we wanted to be treated that the world we be a better place.  50868562_l

It amazes me that such a simple concept could be so hard. That is because we are people and we have wide array of emotions going through us on any given day.  We have jealousy, anger, hate, discontentment, the fact that we just don’t like someone, or some people are just plain evil and they want to jack up everyone else’s day up. Some people have internal issues of their own and instead of getting themselves right they want to take out their issues on other people.

It is for these reasons that people are mean to each other, and even if you do not have the above issues; it is also for the above reasons that we return evil for evil. You say “well they are mean to me, so I am going to be mean to them.” And when you really think about it.  What is it all for?  The only thing it creates is more negativity and more back and forth.  It can be emotionally draining and time consuming to treat someone bad.

Call me strange but I have the notion that it is better for people to get along and work together as oppose to working against each other.

The other day I was having a conversation with my friend who told me that she did not like dealing with a woman at work. She also told me that her 45197944 - three beautiful young girls posing at the bus stopbirthday was several days after her birthday and she just knew it was going to be something that gave her a headache.

I told my friend to do something for this woman for her birthday, get her a card, do something nice. My friend told me that she was not going to do that, because she was tired, because she did not like the woman, and insisted that I did not understand the extent of this woman’s evilness.

All of what my friend said is probably true about the woman, but the olive branch had to come from somewhere. I am of the crazy belief that I would rather be in a healthy environment than a toxic one. And even if everyone is crazy all around you, you can chose to be source of light that does not have to fall into the crazy.  You can be the one to choose to treat people like people even if you think they do not deserve it or even if you think they will not return the favor.

I have learned that as a Christian, I not only need to talk the talk, but I also need to walk the walk. It takes no effort what so ever to tell the world that I am Christian.  It does take effort to behave like a Christian.

The Bible teaches

“You shall not take vengeance, nor bear any grudge against the sons of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Leviticus 19:18

And I know that it is hard to smile in someone’s face when they are getting all your nerves and you do not like them. I know it is hard to treat60368444 - girl with devil horns speaks to a girl as an angel with a halo someone nice when all they have done is treat you like the crap on the bottom of their shoe.  I understand that.  But you have a choice to make, you can treat them like crap back or you can chose to put on the face of God and treat them like God would treat them, even if it is hard.  We can chose to the master of our emotions (see my blog here on that).  We can chose to do the right thing and treat people right even if we do not want to or even if they do not deserve it.

What I have come to realize is that by modeling a way to treat people and modeling a way to love people, it often teaches them how to love. If you say that you are a good person, then be a good person.  Be a good person to others.  If you say that you are Christian, then be a Christian to everyone.  Because even though they may not know God, they can see God through you, if you are behaving in a Godly way.  And really, that is the whole point of it all.  To spreads God’s love and to spread His word.

And guess what you. You do not need to go around sprinkling holy water on people and speaking in tongues to prove to them that you are Christian.  It is in the way that you behave, the way that you act, and the way that you treat people DESPITE how they treat you.

The Bible states

’and you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.”

Mark 12:30-31

Always remember loving other despite what they do you, is for your benefit and not theirs (see my blog here on that).


About Sophia Reed (318 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at sophiareed@sophie-sticatedmom.com

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