Do you have the question “Why am I still single?” And everyone else has a thousand reasons on why you don’t have a man yet. Well as a 30 plus single woman, there are plenty of lies the world use to tell me as the reason why I am still single and not married. But I choose not to feed into them and realize that the reasons on why I am still single are actually good reasons.
So let’s Go Ahead and Debunks some “Why am I still Single” Myths
You’re too picky
At the end of the day whoever you choose to marry you are going to be stuck with them for the rest of your life unless you get a divorce. Which means that you need to be able to actually like him as a person. You can’t afford not to be picky, because marrying anyone would lead you into a marriage with a person you don’t like. Anyone who says that you are too picky, unless they are going to come to your house everyday and be married to your future husband, they really do not have a say on who you do and don’t like.
You’re too independent, assertive, and/or arrogant.
It is not in me to have low self-esteem. So the fact that you want me to dumb myself down for anyone just to prove that I am wife material is beyond crazy to me. I am the type of person that has dreams and knows what I want. I am not willing to make myself seem less smart, less independent, or less motivated so that the man that I am dating can feel manlier. And neither should you. Men should not be intimidated by these things, a real man should want a woman with these traits to join forces with so they can conquer the world together.
You don’t show a man that you want him enough.
I am all for showing a man appreciation, but let men earn your appreciation. A man cannot sit around my house and do absolutely nothing for me and expect for me to give him a round of applause or worship the ground that he walks on, just because he is there. Once a man is willing to show a true character of a man, then that is when I am more willing to show him more appreciation. Never chase after a man just because he is a man, that will lead him to abusing you being desperate and treating you any kind of way. Click here to read more on chasing a man.
Your beliefs are outdated.
I just so happen to believe that a man should work and take care of his family. I am not the type of woman that wants to go to work all day while I watch a man do nothing. Even as time progresses there are some things that never changed. Remember submission does not mean slave. I do not think a wife should be an servant to a man. But a man should be a leader, a provider, and show some level of chivalry. Those beliefs are not dead or they should not be, these traits are called being a man.
You should compromise on your beliefs.
If you have not read my blog on the important so being equally yoked then I invite you to read it here. I am not against any other religion, but I do want my future husband to be Christian, because I am Christian. And if my husband does not understand my relationship with God, then he does not understand me, because that is a large part of who I am. It is my desire that he will also have his own relationship with God.
I know that everyone has their own “why am I still single” myths. And to be honest some of you may have some crazy things that you do that are keeping your single. But that is up for you decide and deal with. Do not let anyone make you compromise on what you are looking for in a man all for the sake and changing your relationship status.