30 and Single. A Reflection of a Single Woman in her 30’s

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This past weekend I turned 32. I am 30 and single and have been in my 30’s and single for quite sometimes now.  Since I was already in my 30’s there is no life changing depression that came with me being older.  But what did come was reflection.  By 30 I thought that I would live the fairy tale life of being married with kids 30 and Single. A Reflection of a Single Woman in her 30'sand a huge house with a white picket fence.  The truth of the situation is that I am not married, I am a single mother, and I just relocated to the DC area for a better job. The end results was me moving with my mother until my home sells in Richmond.  At first I was sad at the thought of a 30 and single woman living with her mother.  I have not live with my mother since I was 18 years old!

I thought I would hate it.  BUT I love it.  Since becoming a grandma she has found new found energy.  She wakes my son up every day, gets him ready for school, and makes him a nice breakfast.  With me, I would just shout into his room, he would get himself ready, and he would get a pop tart or a bowl of cereal or something….as we rush out the door so I am not late for work and he is not late for school. If you are horrified by this and you are the perfect mom, good for you.  For the rest of the moms you can read here on how we have to let go of people the perfect mom.

What I thought would be bad is actually pretty good. Now that I have more help, more freedom, and more deposable income; I happy? I love to travel.  Growing up I always traveled being that my mother was in the military. I also held the belief that someday my prince will come and take me on elaborate romantic vacations.  But now I am 32.  There are no vacations with my man in sight because I do not have a man. So my choices are to sit and wait for Mr. Right to come (which could be never or 10 years from now) or take hold of some of these things on my own.

30 and Single. A Reflection of a Single Woman in her 30'sI used to travel a lot some of that stopped when my mother got out of the military.  All of the friends I use to travel with got married and have kids so they do not have time to be young and free with me, chasing the wind into nowhere.  But I do have the time, it is not my fault they have a ball and chain.   And I have decided to see being 30 and single as a blessing and not a curse. And GASP even travel alone (See my blog here on my first Staycation) .  It has been on my heart for so long now.  I have lived in other countries, but that was before terrorist started flipping out and bombing tourist spots.  That was before I was aware that human trafficking people kidnap women like me and take them somewhere, never to be seen or heard from again.  THE HORROR!

You can be scared of life or live life. (Click to Tweet)

The whole moral of this story is that as you find yourself getting older and

If you are waiting for someone to come in and complete your  life, realize that you are complete on your own.  You do not have to wait for anyone. (Click to Tweet)

You can go and live your dreams and make things happen with just you no man or married friends needed.  Being 30 and single is nothing to be ashamed of.  (Click here to read my blog on how to be single and happy). Turning 32 makes me realize you will get older no matter what and times waits for no one.  Therefore, it is best to take advantage of the time you are given.


  1. Amen !!! As single mom I wanted the man to validate and fix my life. Meanwhile God has already shown me that He is my maker and husband ( Isiaiah 5
    4). I want to be free and live my life. Please keep writing it is very inspiring. Love from Htown, Tx.

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