I am a of the belief that if a man does not work he does not eat. If you are a reader of my blog then you should know that I am a no nonsense kind of girl. I am not of the belief that a woman should be working like a slave while a man sits at home eating up all her food, sucking up all her air and heat, while he does nothing.
I have written about this in my where is my Boaz blog which you can click here to read. But more than anything I want women to see that nowhere did Boaz expect for Ruth to do everything for him while he did nothing. I know we are living in the feminist era where women want to step out of their traditional roles and more into the manly role. I get that. I am not saying that a woman needs to be a stepford wife to a man (see my blog here). But I do believe in some concepts that should always remain the same. And that is if a man does not work he does not eat
To understand what I am saying we must first dissect the context of the “if a man does not work he does not eat phrase.”
The phrase if a man does not work he does not eat is derived from 2 Thessalonians 3:10
For the purpose of this blog if a man does not work he does not eat stands for any man that is satisfied living off of his woman while he sits at home doing nothing.
Let me tell you something about the if a man does not work he does not eat man
Any REAL man is not going to want to sit around and do nothing while the woman takes full responsibility of providing for him. That is called a child. What it means that if he is not working then he is not eating, he is not sexing you up, and he should not even be in a relationship with you. Getting his life together should be his priority not laying up in your house.
Eating means feasting, so why should he have a feast when his actions prove that he should be in famine. No abled bodied man should be satisfied with his women doing everything and him doing nothing and sad to say that this mentality that has happened entirely too much. So if you have a man that this, then you do not have a man.
Because more than anything a real man that wants to step up and be a man will do anything that he needs to do to ensure that he eats. To ensure that he gives off the persona of being a real man. And sitting up being lazy and depending on his woman does not signify a man that you want a long term relationship with.
If A Man Does Not Work He Does Not Eat ~ What About The stay at Home Dad
I get that there are plenty of stay at home dads. It is not my thing, but if it is you’re thing then okay. But before he uses the term stay at home dad, make sure the term is not being used a man who stays at home and does nothing.
If your man is a stay at home father and that is okay in your book. Than as a stay at home father I expect the laundry to be done, the dishes to be washed, the house to be cleaned, dinner to be cooked, and the children to be fed. That is what I call WORK.
Do not pass your stay at home father for a man that you have to come home and clean up after. If that is the case then your man falls into the If a man does not work he does not eat category.
If A Man Does Not Work He Does Not Eat ~ Death To The Ride Or Die
What I am sick of hearing is this whole ride or die mentality. Women saying to themselves that their man has no job, is not currently looking for a job, and you must ride for him and do everything humanly possible for him so that he knows that you are a ride or die.
Let me explain something to you ladies. If you are trying to be a ride or die female then ask yourself if your man is a ride or die for you? If you are busting your behind doing everything in your power to prove to a man that you he can trust you, you can be there for him, and that you are understanding of his situation, that you are not going anywhere, and you are going to take care of him then ask yourself is he willing to do the same for you?
The fact of the matter is that men who not willing to work are just looking for women to lay up on and under. They are looking for a woman to take care of them and they mask the idea of a ride or die chick by telling you that if you love him then the fact that he is doing nothing with his life does not matter.
It does matter. If he wants to be your ride or die then how about he go hard for you and do what he has to do to get up off your couch and do something for himself. He sees you are going to work every day, bending over backward, and doing what you need to do to keep your household afloat. Then why is he not returning the favor?
And when I say return the favor then know I do not mean sex. Giving you sex on a regular bases does not make up for the fact that he is not doing anything with his life and doing anything for you but giving you some penis. No penis is worth a man getting over on you. I don’t care how good it is.
If A Man Does Not Work He Does Not Eat ~ If You Can Do it He can do it
I am so tired of women and making excuses for the man who does not want to do anything but sit around looking to his woman for a hand out (see my blog here on the spirit of entitlement). Just like the woman can get up every day and provide for herself so can he. So woman stop feeling sorry for him because of the job market or because of this or that as to the reason why he cannot find a job. YOU DID IT. I am sure he can figure out how to do it as well.
Also check out some of my blogs on finding a job in case he needs a little help:
And I know what you are going to say because I can hear the women out there calling me insensitive. What if he lost his job? What if he needs help getting back on his feet? What if this or what if that? And to you I say this. As a person who lost their job before, I was able to get another one. On my own. If I as a woman can manage to figure out how to come back from a job lost then certainly I expect a man to be able to figure it out to.
My point is to stop making excuses for your man as to why he is doing poorly. You managed to figured it out, so can he.
If A Man Does Not Work He Does Not Eat ~ This Type of Man Is Not Ready For A Future
One of the great benefits of marriage is having more income (Check out my other blog on the advantages of marriage), more flexibility, and being more secure. Having a man that does not work is cheating yourself out of all of that. How can you expect to get married to a man to does not have a job and won’t get one? How is he even going to buy you a ring? Or worse you are planning to buy yourself a ring and pay for the wedding too.
And when you have future children and have a boy then what? Your son will take after his father and think it is perfectly acceptable do nothing all day while mommy takes care of him and daddy. Becoming a husband is a huge responsibility and if a man is not willing to take on becoming financially stable and stable in his career, then he is not ready to be a husband and you should not want to be wife to a man like this.
Which brings me to my next point
If A Man Does Not Work He Does Not Eat ~ You can Do Bad All By Yourself
If I am going to be working and providing for my household I rather do that for one grown person not two grown people. I do not need an unproductive man eating up all my food, sucking up all my utilities, and he is not putting back into them. I can have a lower utility bill and eat my food on my own.
My point is you do not need someone to make your life harder. You can spend all of your income on yourself instead of trying to spend it between yourself and another grown person. You can do bad all by yourself. In fact you don’t have to do bad by yourself you can do good all by yourself and you can do better without a dead weight of a man hanging on to your coat tails thinking it is your responsibility to provide for him.
If you have gotten anything from this post then understand we need to move away from this era where we enable men. We need to stop thinking that we need to bear the brunt of responsibility and make up for their shortcomings as a man just because we are their woman. It is a two way street. And if a man does not want to do good for himself, then that should tell you something. If he does not care that much about himself to do better than how is he going to feel about you?
As the saying goes if a man does work he not does not eat. Meaning that he should know if he is not working he does not deserve to eat. Every day he should be on his grind working so that he can earn his keep. If he is a man who does not want to give you anything beside sex, then he is not a man at all. Sex is not a contribution. Working and helping to provide for your household is a contribution if he is going to be in it.
Taking you out on a date is a contribution if he wants to date you. Even if he is a stay at home dad if that is what he calls himself then he needs to WORK in the household. And if he is not doing that then he should not be in your house, eating up all your food, calling himself your man, when he is not one. If you think that a man sitting up in your house not working is giving you emotional support then buy a dog. Do not sell yourself short.