One of my favorite women is Ruth from the Bible and I think it is a must read for all single ladies. When you read the story of Ruth and Boaz, Boaz will show you what a good man is. If you are a single woman, wondering how to find a good man or if you are wondering if he is the one, all you have to do is look at Ruth’s Bible story to figure that out. There are plenty Bible verses about love, Bible verses about relationship, and Bible verses about marriage; which is why I think that the Bible should be our first point of reference when you are trying to determine what makes a good man. Ruth from the Bible has so many hidden messages that all single ladies can learn from. Which is why I recommend regularly reading the book of Ruth and having a Ruth Bible Study. It is a reminder that there are good guys and that you Boaz will find you.
There are good men that still exists but there are also some bad ones too. They are what I like to call the counterfeits. If you are waiting for Boaz, then it is important for you to recognize the counterfeit. Once you recognize a good man and what makes up a good man, then you are less likely to fall for a bad one other wise none as the counterfeits.
Let me explain some characteristics of Boaz ( a good man) versus the counterfeit (the one who pretends to be a good man but isn’t).
Boaz– is the type of man that sees a woman he likes. His way of proving it, is to see where she is need, make provisions for her, and help her in any way he can without expecting anything in return.
Counterfeit– The counterfeit does nothing for you. In fact you are lucky if you can even get him to take you out on a date. The only thing the counterfeit wants to do is have sex with you or get you drunk and have sex with you. If you do not want to engage in sex with the counterfeit, he makes you feel like your expectations are too high.
Boaz– The main reason why he respects Ruth is because she is a hard worker. She has good values and has left her home land to take care of her mother and law. She has found God and is willing to live a God centered life.
Counterfeit– The counterfeit does likes the woman because she works. In fact he wants the woman take care of him with her hard earned money. If he sees that the woman he wants believes in God, he too will fake the funk and pretend that he believes in God. But as soon as the women tries to live in a Godly way (such as no sex before marriage or have morals), the counterfeit tries to convince her that her morals are outdated and tries to get her to bend on what she believes.
Boaz– He wants his woman to be respected. When Ruth came to the threshing floor, he made her leave before the sun rose so that no one would think she had done anything inappropriate.
Counterfeit– Wants you to come over late into the night. Has sex with you and kicks you out when he’s done. He prefers that you do not spend the night. If you do, then he is sure to wake you up early in the morning and will tell you to leave.
Boaz– He is a man of his word. Once he told Ruth he was going to do something he did not rest until it was done.
Counterfeit– He is a liar. He lies about any and everything, just because he can.
Boaz– A well respected man among everyone. A hard worker and is responsible with all that he owns.
Counterfeit– Has no job, no car, and prefers to sit in his woman’s house all day using up everything she has worked hard for.
Now that you have a full painted picture do you see how the Boaz is different from the counterfeit? No matter how hard you try you simply cannot make a counterfeit into a Boaz.
Woman sometimes get so caught up in finding a good man that they have accepted any man. They have forfeited their right to have a good man like Boaz and settle for the counterfeits. A counterfeit is fake and he will try to mascaraed around as the real thing.
But single ladies, we can change this. You have to be able to tell the real from the fake. You must be able to turn away the counterfeits in order to get to your Boaz. And like Ruth from the Bible it may mean you have to go into the field, work hard, be focused on what you need for you and your household. This may mean that your focus has to be taken off finding a man. But this is not a bad thing, all this simply means is that you are giving Boaz an opportunity to find you. A good man is not hard to find but the mistake is that you are trying to find him instead of letting him find you. He who find a good thing… not she who chases a man (read my blog here) and (my blog here) for more on how to do that. Find yourself, and in the process you may find your Boaz.