How To Overcome Jealousy & Deal With It While Keeping It Classy

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In this post, I am going to teach you how to deal with jealousy and how to overcome jealousy no matter which side of the fence you fall on. When it comes to being jealous people tend to fall into two categories. The one who is jealous or the person people are jealous of. Perhaps you may suffer from both (being jealous and the person who other people are jealous of). Either way, don’t worry I am going to help conquer your jealousy issues.

How To Overcome Jealousy & How To Deal With Jealousy The Right Way ~ (When People Are Jealous of You)

If you are a human being then you have probably dealt with someone that is jealous of you.  Sometimes their jealousy is more apparent and sometimes they mascaraed as your friends (see blog here) when really they want to stab you in the back.

Most of the time when people are jealous of you it has nothing to do with you but is a reflection of whatever is going on with them (click here to read my blog on other people’s insecurities). So one thing you SHOULD NOT do if other people are jealous of you is trying to understand it.

Because you probably won’t understand it. The other person does not have to give a reason or cause. But know that jealousy stems from you being or having something that they don’t and they wish they had.  Meaning that unless you are going to rid yourself of your entire life so that other people won’t get jealous of it, then look at it as their problem, not yours.

Now I am going to tell you some of the biggest secrets to dealing with jealousy when people are jealous of you.

How To Overcome Jealousy & How To Deal With Jealousy The Right Way ~ First, Reframe It

In the counseling field, we have something that is called reframing.  Reframing is a technique used in therapy to help create a different way of looking at a situation, person, or relationship by changing its meaning. (source).

So instead of looking at other people being jealous of you as a bad thing and getting upset about it. Look at it as a good thing. If someone is thinking about you so that much that they have time to talk about you, post on social media about you, and go out of their way to try to hurt you; they are literally taking time out of their lives to be concerned with what you are doing.

I mean think about it, those are precious moments that they are wasting caring about what you are doing that they will never get back. So why be mad about it. Just feel flattered that someone cares about what you are doing that much. So reframe their jealousy toward you and tell yourself that you must be that awesome if someone wants to pay that much attention to you.

How To Overcome Jealousy & How To Deal With Jealousy The Right Way~ Second, Don’t Care

When people are jealous of you than they normally try to do things to get you upset. And the remedy to that is to don’t let them. If you want to know the best way on how to deal with jealousy. Go about your life and DO NOT care. (see my blog here on how to not care about  what other being are saying about you).

I have seen too many people care too much about what other people think (click to read more on not caring what people think).  And as a result, they let other’s opinions about them determine what they are and are not going to do.  People miss out on opportunities due to their inability to cope with what people think about them.  

They go into depression because they are too upset about what people are doing them. And if you do that then you are literally letting them win. You are letting their jealousy toward you get you upset, stop you from what you are doing, or just interrupt your day then you are letting them win. Do not give anyone the satisfaction of letting their problem with you affect your mood.

How To Overcome Jealousy & How To Deal With Jealousy The Right Way ~ Third, Realize that it is not your problem

Once again I have to reiterate that other people being jealous of you has nothing to do with you so you do not need to try to bend over backward and try to make people like you so that they won’t be jealous of you. What I have come to realize is that you can be the nicest, most humble, most hardworking person in the world, and people will still hate you and be jealous of you. 

Most of the time when people are jealous of you there is nothing that you can do to fix it.  And therefore you should not try. As long as you know that you are being a good person and you are not doing anything vindictive to get back at them, then your conscience is clear. Do not try to go above and beyond to pacify people to make them change their mind about you. Because they probably won’t.

How To Overcome Jealousy & How To Deal With Jealousy The Right Way  (If you are Jealous of Other People)

This whole jealousy thing goes both ways.  If you do not want other people to be jealous of you, then guess what?  You need to learn to control your emotions and not be jealous of other people. So here are the tips on how to overcome jealousy when other people are jealous of you. Also, check out my video on how being jealous of others is blocking your own blessings.

How To Overcome Jealousy & How To Deal With Jealousy The Right Way ~ First, Examine Yourself

If you are jealous of someone else then you need to examine your heart and try to understand what is the root of your jealousy.  If you are jealous then it is your problem.  And you need to find out why that is.

The person you are jealous of may have the man that you want, the life that you want, the job that you want, the car that you want, or the house that you want. You really need to be honest with yourself and don’t try to put it on anyone else.  Self-awareness is one of the best things that you can have. Self-awareness is a conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feelings, motives, and desires.

Meaning that instead of you denying that you are jealous of someone, accept it, and get to the bottom of it. That is the only real way you can start to deal with it.

How To Overcome Jealousy & How To Deal With Jealousy The Right Way ~ Second, Change You

According to the dictionary, jealousy is feeling resentment against someone because of that person’s rivalry, success, or advantages. Once you have reflected and figured out why you are jealous of someone then do something about it. Don’t hate on them because they have what you want.  Just get on their level and push yourself harder to be and achieve something greater than what they have.

If you are jealous of someone else’s education, then figure out a way to go to school yourself. To get you started you can check out my blog on ways to pay for college.  You cannot get mad at someone for wanting to better themselves, go better yourself.   If you are jealous of someone else’s job, then get yourself another job. If you are not qualified for the job you want, then work toward getting those qualifications until you get the job you want.  If you are jealous of someone’s looks, remember that you can only be you. So that is something you are going to have to work out internally. (Click to read my blog on how to accept yourself).

How To Overcome Jealousy & How To Deal With Jealousy The Right Way ~ Third, Its Your Problem Not Theirs

Learn how to overcome jealousy. They didn’t do anything to you.  And even if they did you do not have to give them control of your life by feeding into how they feel about you.  And secondly, stop allowing other people’s jealously to affect how you act toward other people.

When I think back to 10 years ago, if I would have allowed every jealous or mean word to get into my head, then I would not have accomplished or been anything much.  I would not have a Ph.D., I would not be a nationally certified counselor, and I would not have been writing on this blog you are reading now.

I would not have written any books. I would have been too worried about other people’s grass that I would have forgotten to nurture my own. That is why you have to stop being jealous and if people are jealous of you, you have to build a bridge and get over it. Don’t let how anyone feels about you mess up your day.

If you know someone who is suffering from some jealousy issues then feel free to share this post with them.

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