Single mom or no, never settle for less than what you deserve. Often times as a single mom there are so many judgments thrown at you. For example, people may tell you that should just settle in a relationship you have a kid and you are lucky if anyone wants you since you have baggage.
People may tell you to settle in your career, why try to get a better job or even go to college, you have kids that will be too much just, just stay where you are, settle at the job that you are at, struggle financially. Do not aspire to have your dream home or to travel, you have kids woman that is too much. You can’t you can’t you can’t. To many people that is what single moms do. Live in a constant state of struggle.
It is a great thing you have me because I am here to tell you otherwise.
Never Settle for Less Than What You Deserve – What Do you Deserve?
As a single mother you should never settle for less that what deserve and really the only person that can determine what you deserve is you. If you are stuck in the poverty mind set (read my blog here) and think that living in a tiny place, living pay check to pay check, is what you deserve than that is all you are going to get and that is all you will aspire to be.
First you need to know what you deserve AND who you are, as I wrote in a previous blog (click here). If you are a daughter of a King (AKA God) than that makes you a princess. Single mom or no, no one cannot tell me that I am not royalty and since my father is a king I feel I deserve the life of a princess. And knowing that God is my father I know for a fact that HE thinks that I deserve better and is willing to give me better provided that I submit to His will.
The first thing that I want to impart to you is that as a single mother do not think that you are less Christian than anyone else (read my blog on single mothers in the Bible). That you deserve a life that is mediocre because you are single mother. That is a part of the stereotype about single mothers that the world wants you to believe (click here to read my blog for more on that).
The Bible teaches us that whatever a man thinks in his heart so is he (Proverbs 23:7). Meaning that if you think that you deserve less because of your situation then that is what you get. And if you keep making excuses because you are as single mother, than that is what you will become. Figure out what you deserve, do not blame anyone else for your situation (click and read my blog here). And once you know what you deserve in your career, lifestyle, relationship, your home, and all the rest of you that is when you will learn the art of never settling for less that what you deserve because you know your worth.
Never Settle For Less Than What You Deserve In a Relationship
As I mentioned before, just because you are a single mother does not mean you have to suffer from single mother syndrome (read my blog here) and take whatever Tom, Dick, or Harry that shows you attention because you somehow think that no one is going to want to be with a single mother and so you should just take what you can get. WRONG
If that is the type of energy that you put out that is what you will get. There are so many men out there that prey on the unsuspecting single mothers with low self-esteem, just waiting to take advantage of your desperation.
As a single mother I feel that your standards should be even higher when it comes to relationship. I spoke about this in my when to introduce your boyfriend to your children blog (click here to read). At the end of the day, you are a single mother with children. You cannot afford to bring any man around your kids. Any man that has psychological problems, wants to verbally abuse their mother, or has no interest what so ever in your children but their only interest is have sex with you (click here to read my blog on how to be celibate as a single mother). That is the last thing that you want around your children and the last example that you want to show them.
So when you think about what you deserve in a relationship as a single mother, then know that what you deserve is a good man that wants to be there for you and your children, and does not see your children or you being a single mother as a hindrance but rather something that makes you a better person (click here to read my blog on the benefits of being a single mother).
Never Settle For Less Than What You Deserve in Your Career
There are so many aspects on how women become single mothers. Some single mothers have children really young and never have a chance for their career to take off, some single mothers are single mothers after a divorce and find themselves having to enter the workforce again after being a stay at home mom, or their husbands were the primary bread winner and now they need to make more money, or whatever the case may be.
Often times single moms may find themselves not having the skills to get good job, not having the time to go back to school, ordo not feel equipped to enter the workforce due to lack of experience. But no matter what your age is and your experience level then know that you should never settle for less than what you deserve in a career. I do not care if you never worked a day in your life and you have aspirations to make 6 figures as a single mom you can do it.
Case and point: One of my favorite bloggers is Sarah Titus. She left her husband and went into a domestic violence shelter with her and her children. She wanted to be a stay at home mom and make a decent income. Within a year she made six figures on her blog and selling stuff on Ebay. And now she makes much more, in her last income report she made over $200,000 in a month! (Click here to see it).
There is a point here. The point is that she felt she deserved a good career and she felt that she deserved to be a stay at home mom and guess what? She made it happen. So if you want to go to school as a single mom then do that (click to read my blog here for more tips on going to school as a single mom), if you do not know what to put on your resume because of lack of experience you can do that (click here for my resume tips), and if you want to find a better job (click here for my blog on that), or if you want to just find a job (then click here for my blog on that). The point is you can do it if you feel you deserve it.
Never Settle For Less Than What You Deserve in Your Life
I am a firm believer that if you can dream it then you can achieve it (see my blog here) and whatever your dream life is when you close your eyes, then God gave you that vision for a reason and trust and believe that He can make it come to pass.
As a single mother (read my single mother story) I wanted to own a house. And I did that all on my own. As a single mother I wanted to travel both on my one and with my son.
See some of our trips in the blogs below
And as a single mother I wanted to give my son the absolute best life possible. He participates in extracurricular activities and he goes to a private school. I know what I deserve and never for a second do I think that because I am a single mother that my life or my son’s life should be limited.
That is why I am shouting from the roof top to all you single mothers, NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN WHAT YOU DESERVE.
Case and Point: Another single mother that I am in love with is YouTuber Ellarie. A single mother to an adorable little girl. Cosmo did an article on her
I follow Ellarie on Instagram. She is on private planes, traveling around the world, and builds a wonderful life for her and her daughter. Who says that as a single mom you can’t? Who says? Who says that as a single mom you cannot have it all? You can. If what you deserve has to be given to someone, then why can’t it be given to you?