People Hating On Your Success Has Little to do with You, But is a Reflection of Their Own Insecurities

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Not everyone is going to be happy for your success. Not you’re friends, family, coworkers, and certainly not your enemies.  I remember when I first started my Master’s program.  Most people told me to my face that I was going to fail.

They would tell me “You’re a single mom, you’re not going to have enough time. It’s going to be too hard.”

When God tells you to do something, He will not only give you the grace but He is also give you the means to do it. It did not matter that other people said I could not do it, God said I could.  Even when I began my Master’s program I knew I would go right into my PhD.  God told me to.  I can recall that I would share with my so called friends, co-workers, mentors, and people that I knew; thinking they would be happy for me.  But they weren’t.

I had to leave a lot of people in my rear view because they are not supportive. I had to learn to stop telling people what I was doing because I got tired of the sabotage or words of discouragement.  I had to learn to do what God was telling me to do and often that may be doing these things in secret.  Using only myself and God as my source of encouragement.

Some people cannot stand you doing something that they are not or something they cannot do. What they fail to understand is what God ordained for you to do is for you and what is for them is for them. What tears them apart is that you are sure of what you want to do and you have found your purpose, while they are still trying to find theirs.  So really their problem with your success has little to do with you, but is a reflection of their own insecurities. I have learned not to pay attention to what other people think or have to say about my success.  I do not rely on them for my success my strength comes from somewhere else.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13

God is going to strengthen you to do the things that He called you to do. The key word here is that God is calling you do to something that He wants you to you.  Your purpose is different from everyone else’s because God did not instill the same gifts in you that he instilled in someone else.  So there is no reason to wonder why something is not working the same way for you as it is someone else.

What is for them is for them, and what is for you is for you. The way God wants to do things for them is the way He wants to do for them, and He is going to do what He wants to do for you in His own way.  A different way, using your unique sets of gifts and talents.  Therefore, it is no reason for us to get jealous of other people and there is no reason to get mad at people who are not happy for you.  You have your own path to success just like other people have theirs.  And as long as you are doing what you are supposed to do, you really cannot worry about what other people think about you.

That may mean that you have to keep your mouth shut and not share things you are trying to do with everyone because they will not be happy for you or even make fun of you for it. Just stay in your own lane and keep succeeding.  That is a quick way to shut people up and make believers out of them.  As you get higher in your success, some people might try to come in your space just to get a part of your victory, even if they mocked you before.  And sometimes they will hate you and mock you even more.  This is why we must know that no person can make up feel less about ourselves unless we allow it.  And if we continue to have faith in what God can do for us, His glory will manifest through us and we will look at all those “haters” in our rear view as we drive toward success.

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About Sophia Reed (318 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at

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