Boyfriend Vs Husband Privileges ~ 4 Obvious Differences

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Boyfriend vs husband privileges are not the same. I do not care how long you have been dating, going out, and I do not care if you “see” your boyfriend like your husband. I do not care if you live together, if you have children together, or if you have met his family.

I do not even care about common-law marriage. Unless you have a legally binding document, also knows as a marriage certificate, then you are not married, and therefore, he is not your husband. Until he actually becomes your husband he is a boyfriend. And if the same thing for girlfriends, they are not wives click here to check that out my blog post on that. And last but not least, watch my video below for more on this topic, and don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube Channel by clicking here. 

What this all comes down to is a simple quote that you have probably heard from your parents or even grandparents.  Why would he buy the cow if he can get the milk for free? Meaning why would he marry you if he is getting all the privileges of being a husband when he is not your husband.

And you can pretend that you do not care if you are married all you want to, but with marriage comes actual REAL LIFE and much-needed benefits which I speak about in my blog here.  In any case, I am going to list 3 behaviors that women give to their boyfriends that should be husband privileges and give you some pretty legit reasons on why you should stop doing these ASAP. Are you ready, let’s get into it?

1. Boyfriend vs Husband Privileges ~ Husbands get Sex boyfriends shouldn’t

Boyfriend vs husband privileges. I know that this is something that you are not going to hear. But as a person who has had sex and a person who is celibate I actually prefer being celibate. And not because I do not like sex it is just because there are benefits to being celibate which I talk about in my blog here. When I tell people that I am celibate and have been for the past few years they look at my side-eyed thinking that I am absolutely insane. They don’t understand the point. They say, “Why would you not want to have sex?”, “Do you not like sex?”, “Maybe the men you had sex with did not put it on your right.” Those are not the reasons why I chose to stop having sex.

Boyfriend vs husband privileges. When it comes down to it the boyfriends I had sex with I am not married to any of them now so when I think about it what a waste.  Giving up your vagina and doing a very intimate act with a man that may not be in your life months or even a year from now. The fact of the matter is that sex clouds your judgment. It makes you believe that a relationship is more than what it is, it makes a woman believe that a man cares for her more than he does, and it can make a woman believe that she is in love when she really isn’t.

Without sex, it forces you to talk and really see the man for what he is and if he would even make a good husband.  There is no good sex to hide behind that will cloud your judgment.  AND it will reveal a man’s true intentions.  If he is just there for the sex and when he finds out you are not having sex with him, he will leave.  If he wants to get to know you for you, then he will stay.

Instead of giving your boyfriend sex why not build a connection outside of sex. If you know that you have built a strong connection outside of sex and a man wants to marry you still. That is how you know that it is real. And let’s be real, one of the main reasons why I like being celibate is that there are too many STDs out there that can kill you.  Is giving your boyfriend some vagina (him breaking up with you) then giving your next boyfriend vagina and him sleeping with another woman a month before, worth the risk of stirring up all of your bodily fluids and getting a disease?

2. Boyfriend vs Husband Privileges ~ Boyfriends shack up and husband make a Home

I am so against playing house. I used to live with a boyfriend of mine and it was not good.  I was the only one on the lease and all the bills were in my name.  He had the freedom to walk out whenever he wanted to. And he did. When we broke up he left and that was that.  All the bills and the rent fell on me.

With my ex, he still did everything that he wanted to do.  He would go out and come in at all times of the night.  I would not know where he was or where he was going, and his excuse would be“We are not married, I can do what I want.” And what he was saying was true, because he was not really married to me and therefore had no real obligation to me. And here I was pretending to be a wife to a fictitious marriage just because we lived together. Living with him and playing wife without actually being a wife.

That is because he was just shacking up and he was not really invested in building a home with me. A boyfriend who shares a home with you has one foot in and one foot out. Because he wants to live with you, sleep with you, have you cook and clean for him like a wife but he does not want to fully commit to making a home as a husband would.

At least with a husband (God forbid), you get a divorce you are entitled to the home and mutual assets. If you are sharing a home with a boyfriend that has a nice home, that is HIS home and when he gets ready to break up with and kick you out of it you are not entitled to anything. If you guys want to live together and he wants you to play his wife then he mine as well make you his wife.  Also, check out my video below to help you recognize the traits of a good man.

3. Boyfriend vs Husband Privileges ~ Your Money Is Not His Money and Vice Versa

When you get married there is no my money or his money. It really all just blurs together. With a boyfriend not so much. If you do not believe me ask your boyfriend to put you on all his bank accounts, his retirement, 401k, and be the beneficiary on his life insurance. He will probably look at you like you are crazy because you are not his wife and that is EXACTLY my point. Even if you have a generous boyfriend that gives you the money you probably still do not have access to all of the stuff that I have mentioned above.

Not in the same way that a husband and wife would.  When you married you should be making financial decisions together.  You buy cars together and a house together. This is the trust that comes with being married. But not so much with a boyfriend he is not going to share all of his money with you.

So why do it for him?  With a boyfriend, you should not be co-signing for him a car or anything else for that matter.  Because if you break up it gives him the right to ruin your credit.  He is not your husband.  He does not care.  You should not be giving him money, paying his bills, or anything like that. He simply has not earned that right as a boyfriend.

Boyfriend vs husband privileges ~ Case in point

I had a friend that was paying for her boyfriend’s mortgage to this huge house.  Her philosophy is that she is making an investment in her future house as when she married him she would be moving in it.  But in reality, she did not live there, her name was not on anything, and when he left her for another woman she saw that she invested in a mansion she never lived in.  And now that he is married to this other woman, that other woman gets the house because she is his wife. My friends get nothing because she mistook her boyfriend for a husband, invested way too much, and ended up looking silly in the end.

I know that what I am saying is not super popular BUT I can promise you that if you over-invest in a boyfriend and treat him like your husband when he does not become your husband you are going to feel bitter and used. And if he is telling you that he wants to become your husband then what is the harm in waiting to give him all of the above benefits when he becomes your husband and not before.

4. Boyfriend vs Husband Privileges Final Thoughts

Once again, why would he buy the cow if he is getting the milk for free?  He is not going to want anything to change. You will want to get married and he will say “why and what is the difference in your relationship now?” Exactly. Incentives for him come when he makes to leap to be your husband.

If you know a woman that needs to stop giving a boyfriend husband benefits, then go ahead and share this post with her. 

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