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There are so many women in relationships calling themselves a wifey. To give you a lose definition of what a wifey is.
It is a woman that is in a serious relationship with a man. The relationship is so serious that the man considers her to be wife material, but she is not his wife because they are not married. On the outside they appear to be married. They may live together or have children together, but they are not legally married.
I know what you may be thinking. What is the difference? As long as a man treats you good, what difference does a title make?
I am glad you asked me that, because the difference is clear. A wife is married to a man and a wifey is in a relationship with a man. It is just another title for girlfriend. In case you did not know there are benefits that being married can bring. One thing you do not want, is to get sucked into is a man calling you a wifey or you calling yourself a wifey without actually having a plan to be wife. Do not let the verbiage fool you just because “wife” is in wifey does not make them the same thing.
As a wife you get
Even though your man may be committed to do you, on any given day he could really get up and leave without any real repercussions. As a wife, you have a contract, also known as a marriage certificate that is legally binding that tells the world and whatever country you live in; that you are committed to this person. And if one person decides they want to leave this legally binding contract, then they must go through a legal process to get a divorced.
When people get married there is typically a wedding or they go to the Justice of the Peace. Even if you elope there is some witness that needs to be present that you acknowledge your love in front of. Vows may vary but they typically say
I take you to be my wife, for sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer ‘til death do us part……
And for many people when this process happens, the couple is surrounded by family, friends, and the people they love the most. They are acknowledging each other in public letting the world know that what they have is permanent and not just a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. As a wifey, you do not have that. But you should want that. You should not want pretend to be the wife if you are not officially the wife. You should not want anyone to cheat you out of your wedding. Even if you plan to go to Vegas and get married in front of Elvis. If that is who you want to say your vows in front of, then that your business.
You do not want to play wife without getting the benefits of being the wife. I spoke about the benefits of a wife in my post (Can a man ever fall in love with his mistress). But let me go deeper. As a wife you are eligible to be put on your husband health insurance, be the beneficiary to his life insurance policy at work, if he dies you get that life insurance policy, and you get to collect his social security as well. As a wifey you get none of that. If a husband gets hit by a car, a wife make all the important decisions regarding his medical care. A wifey will have to fight his next of kin which may be his mamma, because she has no legal right to anything.
Women I really hope you get what I am trying to get at. It is great to be in a relationship and believe you are the wife. But believing something to be real does not make it real.
If you are in a serious relationship and you are a wifey, then you need to start making plans to be a wife. Do not believe the hype in thinking that the title of wifey is good enough. I have seen the wifey put her ring on her finger and call her man her husband. I have seen women do this for years. But unless it is written down and on records with the court, you are not a wife. You are a girlfriend. You are easily replaceable. If a man loves you that much and wants to play make believe and pretend that you are his wife, then he can put action behind his words and make you his wife. That is what real men do. Not try to be fancy with their words and trick us into believing something that is a lie. Unless you are legally married, then you are really not married.
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