Competing with another woman for a man is something that is a trend among women (see my blog here on that topic). Often times women some how convince themselves that what they are doing is not crazy and they do not see or understand the full extent of their craziness because their focus is the man and competing with another woman for a man.
The crazy thing is that the winner is the whole situation is the man. He is having his cake and eating it to. He has two women fighting over him and he has his pick of the women.
Unfortunately, competing with another woman for a man is a common situation that many women find themselves in. If there is anything I want you to learn, it is that you should not be competing with anyone for any man.
If the man does not want you then why should you want him? Why is he the prize to be won and why are you allowing him to openly play you to your face (also see my blog on signs he is playing you).
The fact of the matter is that some women think that being single is worse then death (see my blog here) and instead of being single they rather be with a man even if he is a man that she is sharing with someone else.
Let’s go to a real life example. Recently, I bumped into an ex and his girlfriend. She flaunted their relationship on how in love they were. On the inside I was thinking about how clueless she was. He was still TRYING to contact me and I knew he was juggling all of three maybe four OTHER women. But here she was. Proud of the man that she had, knowing that three or four other women were also out there exclaiming how happy they were to be in a “relationship” with this man.
And it is so sad, that this happens so much in this day and age. I cannot tell you how many of my girlfriends have gone round and round the mulberry bush with the same man battling other women for YEARS! The ending is always the same. And in the end they are holding their own self back from a good relationship by staying is one that is not a relationship but rather a free for all sharing my man with another woman situation (Click to read my blog on self inflected pain can hold you back). And none of the women are willing to walk away. Instead they just want to sit around, be his ride or die, and be the last one standing to prove how faithful she is. That or he will just choose the other woman over you and you will loose the competition all together. (Also, check out my blog on why did he choose her over me).
And so I ask you this. Do you really want to win a man by default? Do you really want to get married to a man that has exhausted all his options and now you are the only one left? Do you really want to have to fight off and argue with other women to show your man how much of a ride or die woman you are? If this is what you strive for then girlfriend you NEED therapy or life coaching. (Click here to check out my life coaching services).
Because you have some deep rooted issue ingrained in your brain that you think you do not deserve to be loved on your own merit, but that you need to compete with another woman over a man that is playing you both, all so that you can feel loved.
So often times women want to blame men for what they do, but women need to start blaming themselves for the choices they make. For choosing a no good man (Click to read my blog on changing what you accept). For competing with another woman for a man. For staying in a jacked up situation.
And if you know that you are in this situation then I blame YOU. Not him for for playing you but YOU. Because on any given day when a man is not acting right, you have the free will to walk away. Anytime a man is not showing you that you are his number one and is treating you like woman 2, 3,4,5,6, or 7; then you can walk away.
I do not want to hear it is too hard to walk away because you are in love, because even if you are, he is not in love with you. Love does not do that to people. Real love is about two people being dedicated to one another and willing to work on the relationship so they can make it
better for both of them. Not him working on a relationship with other women and then when he gets around to it working on a relationship with you.
If the relationship or situation that you are in, is like this. Then this signifies a problem. Stop playing the game now! Do not pass go or collect $200! Just stop playing!
A women should not to competing with another woman for a man. Do not allow your loneliness lead you down a path of desperation and toxic relationships. And most importantly do not let your competitive nature and not wanting to loose to another women cause you to waste valuable time on a man that is not worth your time. Bow out gracefully.