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Advice To Women Fighting Over A Man, I’ll Help You Gain Perspective.

Desperate women and a cheating man, never mix. This combination always leads to a bad situation.  It has somehow become acceptable for women to be fighting over a man.  Which is crazy.  Your only job as a single woman is to make him chase you (see my blog her), not for you to chase him, find him with another woman, and then beat the other woman down for taking your man.  And if you are doing this as a Single Christian woman, then you know you are wrong.

I used to read part of the Bible and thing that it was crazy when it speaks of women fighting over a man and taking care of a man.  What woman would want that? Why would any self respecting woman do that?  It is better to be single and happy (read my blog here) than it is to be a single and lonely woman hashing it our over a no good man.  And so single women where is the best relationship advice I can give you if you are in that situation. Listen up and pay attention.

And so the Bible verse reads:

“In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, ‘We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!’” Isaiah 4:1

I can recall reading this Bible verse over the years, thinking that this type of behavior will never happen. What type of woman is willing to share her man all for the sake of not being disgraced? I think to have a better understanding of this verse, it must be dissected.

How many men do not want to take a woman out on a date?

How many women have taken the place of men, give men money and provide for them financially?

The man does not have to do anything significant except for have sex with them from time to time, and women somehow feel this is sufficient.

Woman feel this way because they do not want to be alone, they do not want to be single, and they do not want to be without a man.  Is this not what the Bible verse is speaking about.  Women doing everything and the man doing nothing, just so long as the women has the right to say that she is in a “relationship.”

It is crazy how we accept things in this world as being normal.  We watch reality shows, television shows, and even people we know.  We see women fighting each other over a man.  Each of them know about one another and trying to give the man more and more just so that he can choose her to be his girlfriend.  And the man is not really doing anything much to prove his worth as a man.

Why are women fighting each other over a man that is doing them both wrong? How is this a man worth fighting for?

Has women’s self esteem become so low or the stigma of being single became that bad that women are willing to make fools out of themselves all for the sake of saying they belong to a man.

Do not allow anyone to tell you that what I am saying is outdated.  I work and I am educated.  I am not saying that women should sit on their behinds all day and expect a handout from a man.  But the only male that I take care of is my son.  I will not allow for a grown man to come into my home, sit on my couch, and watch television all day.  Him not contributing to the bills, providing food for us, or showing my son what a good man is NOT THE BUSINESS.

This simply makes no sense.

Children going without food, clothes, a mother, because she is out and about trying to keep, chase, and fight over a man.  Because she is spending money on buying a man a pair of Jordan’s as oppose to putting food on the table for her kids.

Since when has this way of life become so familiar and acceptable to us?

Many men (not all), seem to think that just because they say I love you one and a while and they are not in jail, that makes them a good man.  That makes them a man worth fighting for.

But how?

  • How can any man be good if they cannot take care of their children and expect another woman to do it?
  • If they cannot put food on the table?
  • If they cannot even stick to one woman and bounce around between women?
  • How are these characteristics of a good man?

I would love for someone to explain this to me!

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.”  1 Corinthians 13:11

Oh single women, please do not fall into the “I am single and lonely trap.” Please do not allow a no good man and another man’s woman step all over you.  Do not try to hang on to a man that is not worth hanging on to.  Do not fall into this trap.  You can do bad all by yourself, you don’t need him.  Or better yet, you can be single and happy, and let another woman have him and put up with his mess. It is better to be alone than to deal with this nonsense.

I am convinced that all women must see what is going on in the world around us and be aware of the same things that God is trying to warn is about.  Fighting over a man and letting him escape all responsibilities of being a man is not the way that God intended it to be between man and woman.  It is now up to the women to just say “no” to foolishness and not allow themselves to be taken advantage of anymore.



About Sophia Reed (295 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at

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