Single Woman’s Challenge Day 20. The Joy of Spending Time Alone

Today is Single Christian Woman’s Challenge Day 20. To see the whole month click here.

Today’s Challenge is:

Day 20: “Me” Night

Date yourself. Take yourself out for the night, or even stay in for the night. Go out to dinner and see a movie or stay in, order pizza, wear your most comfortable pajamas and watch your favorite movie. It’s your night. Do what you want to do.

When it comes to having me time I am famous for this.  It may sound rather anti-social of me but I would rather spend time alone then with other people.  I was not always like this though.  I can recall in the past, I would leave my house around 11 a.m dressed for any occasion.  I would not come back to my house until 3 a.m the next day.  I would literally leave my house go from place to place and hang out.  Sometimes I would end up at the club, sometimes at a party; I would just keep going because I did not want to be alone.  I come to learn that the real reason I did not want to be alone is because I would be force to face all of the craziness I was doing in the time.  When I was with other people, my mind was always occupied.  But when you are alone you have no choice but to think.  And for some people, that can be dangerous.  Some people hate being alone because when you are alone with your thoughts that is when you have to face all the real junk that you are doing in your life.

When I spend time alone I really got to know myself and what made me happy.  I also got perspective on things in life so that I stopped a lot the nonsense I was doing.

So let me walk you through a typical “me “time day.


When I get up in the morning there are a few options that I enjoy doing alone.  Making healthy breakfast or smoothie.  I am far away from eating healthy but I like to pretend I eat healthy and I often do so with breakfast.

Watch a Christian Broadcast network

All of my favorite shows like Joyce Meyer and Joel Osteen come on in the morning.  I can also choose to YouTube them in case they are not on when I get up.  It is a wonderful way to start your day off right and be inspired.


If I am really treating myself and want to spend time alone then I will actually go to a restaurant and get a table for one, sit alone, and enjoy my lunch.  More often than not I enjoy a cocktail was well.

Next I will go to the movies. The movies are one of the easiest things that you can do alone.  You are sitting in the dark watching a screen, so for me, I do not feel as awkward being alone in the movies because I am too busy watching the movie to care what anyone is doing.  You can even catch two movies in one afternoon if you have time.

Other notable thing I may do is shop, walk around the mall, or go to the book store and just chill out.


After all of this I am typically tired which means that I will choose to eat dinner in the house as oppose to going out to eat again.  I first like to relax with a hot shower or bath and I will beautiful myself up a bit.  That means putting on a face mask, painting my nails, giving myself a pedicure.  Typically when I am taking a bath I take time to talk to myself and God.  I do not know why but the bath seems like a perfect time to do that.

Afterward I will hold a movie night in my house with some snacks or I may order out.  Maybe even some popcorn with a glass of wine.  I typically like to go for inspirational movies for movies night.  Places to find these type of movies are the Hallmark Channel, the religious neUntitledtworks, or if all else false Netflix.   Nine times out of ten I fall asleep while watching my 3rd or 4th movie.   And that pretty much wraps up my day.  It is pretty relaxing because no one is bothering you, you get to sit and peace and quiet and decide what you want to do with your time.

Learning to spend time with yourself and being happy is important.  You are stuck with yourself for the rest of your life.  And it beats sitting around all day, all lonely, wondering why you are still single.  Mine as well enjoy life now.

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I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at

3 Comments on Single Woman’s Challenge Day 20. The Joy of Spending Time Alone

  1. I think spending time alone is a great thing to learn how to do.

  2. fromnursetomom // May 22, 2016 at 2:30 am // Reply

    I am not single, but this is really good for ANYONE! I need my alone time, it is essential for me to not kill my husband! Lol, thanks for the tips!

  3. Good for you! I have such a challenge trying to do anything alone. I’m a total shut in most the time. If not for my work, I may never leave the house

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