Single Christian Woman’s Challenge Day 7. If you want to see all of the days of the challenge click here.
Today’s Challenge is:
Day 7: Write it down.
Write a letter to the Lord about being single. Tell Him about the hurts you feel as well as what you like about being single. Ask Him to heal your hurts and help you find contentment in this current season, and thank Him for the lessons you are learning through being single.
Writing can be therapeutic and for me, it is much easier to communicate in writing with God than anything else. For anyone who has trouble speaking to God or hearing God’s voice, I recommend writing sometimes you can receive clarity from Him:
Here is my letter to God:
I am 32 and single. I never thought I would be single and never married at 32. I always thought that marriage was right around the corner. I am attractive, educated, and have a good personality. So I felt like I could find a husband in no time. But that did not happen. A woman trying to find a husband has taught me that chasing a man is never a good idea. There was a time when I was single that I would sit and be sad, literally all day long over the fact that I am not married yet. And the relationships that I had no business being in, I would get mad that those were not working out either, knowing that I had no business being in those relationships anyway.
I get older and with your (God) wisdom I have learned better. I have learned that life is not all about being married. Although marriage is a joy, I am sure that you (God) did not put me on this Earth for the sole purpose of finding a husband. I have learned that I have other talents and gifts that I can utilize in order to help serve you (God) better.
As a 32 year old single woman with no prospects in sight, I can admit that I still have fears. I have fears that I will never be married, I have fears that I will be 50 when I get married (which I don’t want), I have a fear that I will not have any more children, and I am afraid that if I never get married then I will have to grow old and die as a single woman.
I learned that I cannot make anything happen any sooner than it is supposed to. I cannot make something happen if it is not meant to happen, and the past times when I did try to make it happen I only made things worse. Although, this may sound morbid; I have learned that not all single women get the traditional “happy ending” of marriage. Not only have I accepted that but I have also learned that it does not mean that my life is doomed for all eternity. It just means that marriage may not be in the cards for me and I have learned to be okay with that. If there is anything that past relationships have taught me is that it is better to be alone than to settle and be with a man that is going to bring more harm than good.
What I am grateful for is my son. Although I am a single mother I am grateful, I have the chance to be a mother, have a mini-family of my own, and in the future grandchildren even if I never get married. If there is anything lesson that you (God) has taught me, it is that you can only take one day at a time. Tomorrow is not promised to anyone. And so I have to live today for today. I cannot put my life on hold or sulk in depression until I met a husband. I want to live my life and pursue my dreams with a passion now, and I pray to the Lord that you give me the strength, guidance, and wisdom to do that.
Maybe it is not the heart felt letter that one expects to read from a single 32 year old woman. But I have sulked, cried, been upset and prayed for a husband AND nothing happened. I am not saying that prayer does not work, but I am saying that it was not my time. I learned that being upset of what I do not have will out weight the wonderful things I do have. And it will keep me standing still in one place instead of moving forward in the other areas of my life.
If you are a single Christian woman do not be afraid to write a letter to God. You letter may not be as tolerant as mine, but it is okay because God makes us all different and he know how we feel and what type of people we are. I can say that I have written several letters in the past to God about my singleness, some of them angry, some sad, and some accusatory toward God. But I have grown and decided that I will learn to trust God.
In case you missed it.
- Single Woman Challenge Day 1. Behaving Like A Queen Will Get You A King
- Single Woman Challenge Day 2. What I Want In My Future Husband
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 3: What I Don’t Want In a Husband
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 4: 5 Tips To Taking a Better Selfie
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 5: Biblical Teachings For Single Women
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 6: Dream Big