Becoming The Woman I Wanted To Be

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Becoming The Woman I Wanted To Be

Becoming The Woman I Wanted To Be

Today is Single Christian Woman’s Challenge Day 16. To view the whole mBecoming The Woman I Wanted To Beonth click here.

Today’s challenge is:

Day 16: The Woman I Want to Be

We have already written about 3 things we want to find in husband (click here to see mine). Today’s assignment is to write down the qualities of the wife/person that you want to be an
d the steps that you can take to become that type of person.

Diane von Furstenberg has a quote about this topic.

“I did not know what I wanted to do, but I know the type of woman I wanted to be.”

I can see myself in this quote.  I have an idea of what I want to do and how I want to use my talents, but more importantly I know how I want to get there and the type of person that I want to be in order to get there.

I am a woman, and I have encountered so many insecure conniving back stabbing women in my life time.  Some women feel the only way to build themselves up is to put other people down.  And sometimes you are the target of their insecurities.  Supervisors, friends, or co-workers, you name it.  One thing that I always knew is I never wanted to be that type of woman.

You may not like me, but you will respect me. Click To Tweet

You will respect me because I have shown myself to be a person of good character.  One that does not lie on people or stab people in the back.  I want to be the woman that once I reach the top I can hold my head high because I did it with integrity.Becoming The Woman I Wanted To Be

The world may seem big, but it is so small.  This means that your reputation may proceed you.  I cannot tell you how many people that I had not even meant yet, but heard about how nasty of a person they were.  I can recall that I worked for a supervisor a few years back and she was absolutely terrible.  I mean the worse, I hated coming to work.  I have a friend that I told about all of my work place horrors.  And as luck would have it she came in contact with my old boss just a few days ago (years later mind you).  And although she had NEVER met the lady before she recognized her because of the way she acted.

The moral to this story is that your reputation can proceed you.  You never know who you may bump into that may be a friend of a friend of someone you were once a jerk to.  And even if it was an isolated incident, you will always be known at the crazy woman who does not know how to treat people.

I do not want to be that woman.  You can hate me, but you will never have anything to say bad about me.  I want to be a woman who is honest, hardworking, inspiring, encouraging, wise, and intelligent.  I do not want to be that insecure woman that pushes every one down in order to build herself up.

As a wife, I want to be a woman who is a source of support for her husband.  Not one that is nagging and one that her husband does not want to be around.  I want to be a wife who is value for her intellect and not one that feels she has to shrink down because her husband is intimidated by what she knows.

Knowing the type of woman or wife that you want to be will help guide your future.  This way you do not fall into the trap of pursing a husband or a life that will make you into someone you do not want to be.  If anything, read Proverb 31 (also read my blog here).  It gives us all guidance on the type of woman we want to be. This woman embodies a woman that is everything.  One who is strong, kind, and wise,  That is the type of woman I want to be.  And that is the type of woman I work hard to become.

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About Sophia Reed (318 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at sophiareed@sophie-sticatedmom.com

7 Comments on Becoming The Woman I Wanted To Be

  1. It’s very important to know exactly what you want, that way you’ll never settle.

  2. Knowing what kind of person you want to be is already a big step. Many people don’t even know that! Inspiring post!

  3. That is definitely a different way to approach things. Thanks for the perspective.

  4. Allan Liwanag // May 17, 2016 at 8:59 pm // Reply

    This is really good. Knowing who you are as a person and what you capable and made of are really keys to attain success in just about anything you do.

  5. This is a great reminder. Thank you for sharing your personal story – it helps highlight the importance!

  6. Very inspiring and well written. I found so much of myself in your words. It’s so important to know who you are and who you want to be.

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