12 Women Explain Why “I Don’t Want To Get Married”

Hearing the words “I don’t want to get married it is not normally something that you will hear coming out of a woman’s mouth. Because all women want to get married, right? Or that is just the perception because all women are not the same.

This is why I am going to present to you 12 women who do not want to get married.  Their reason varies from woman to woman. Some women see the benefits of not getting married over getting married and some women are just happier alone. Either way here is 12 different women who don’t want to get married.

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I don’t Want To Get Married ~ # 1 Myself, Sophia Reed PhD NCC (Age over 30)

Yes, I am a woman number one. BUT my reason fir bit wanting to get married maybe a little different in the sense that I don’t want to get married YET. Not ever.

“Marriage is hard, unselfish, and requires a lot of work. ” username

Every relationship that I have been in has been hard work, so when I get married, I can almost guarantee it will be harder work. To be completely honest with you, I do not have the effort to put into a marriage right now, nor do I want to put in the effort.  I like doing what I want to do and not having to report to anyone.

I like watching what I want to watch on television. I like not arguing over relationship stuff. I like spending time with my son alone, I like coming home, and chilling out without having to worry about making a five-course meal for my man.

I feel that at this point in my life a marriage would interrupt that. So it is not that I want do not want to EVER get married. I want to get married in the right time.

“So many women want to get married but don’t know what it really takes to get married”

Are you really ready for marriage? Are you ready to not be selfish and to always have to put other people over yourself? I have seen people get married without knowing if they want to have children, without discussing what they want for their future, or without having anything in common. They like the idea of marriage not what a marriage really is. 

And so after the nice big wedding is planned and money is spent, they realize that they have made a mistake and they are stuck with this person. I do not want that to be me. I do not have fear of marriage or anything, I have just come to the point that I have a high value for marriage that I do not want to settle with just anyone.

When you take desperation out of the equation, you should be able to go into any situation like marriage with a clear head. So when I say that I don’t want to get married, it is not because I am some scorned woman that is never going to get into a relationship.

I do not want to get married because it is not time yet.  I care about living my life the right way more than I care about a ring on my finger.  When you are ready to be married you will know it, you will be willing to be unselfish and ready to yield to the needs of the other person and they would be willing to give the same thing to you.

I don’t Want To Get Married ~ #2 Kelly (Age Over 55)

Interview courtesy of Bustle For the last nine years, I’ve been traveling full-time (and even wrote a book about it!), where I live at no cost in someone’s home and care for their pets while they vacation.

I’ve house sat in London, Amsterdam, Berlin, Gibraltar, throughout Africa, Hanoi, Osaka, Kuala Lumpur even Ya’an, a village in China! I’m now in Mexico, where I house sit every spring. It’s a great lifestyle… and one that would be really difficult if I were married. I’ve never been married, and have no plans to change my single, globe-trotting ways now!

I don’t Want To Get Married ~ #3 Barbie (Age Over 30)

Courtesy of Cosmo.Getting married and having a family of my own never appealed to me. I am 32, nearing 33, and by society’ standards, I should be married by now. I never had elaborate daydreams about wedding gowns and engagement rings.

You can count me on me to always be the bridesmaid and I won’t mind!’  Maybe it’s because of my family background. My dad was a charmer, let’s just put it that way. So growing up, I never had the notion of what an ideal man ”boyfriend or husband ”should be.

I grew up in an unconventional family and was surrounded by women who were either single or separated, and I never saw them worry about growing old alone. My family is aware of my decision to stay single and not have kids” and most of them are fine with it.

There are still a few who try to egg me on about starting my own family, but I have learned to shrug them off. I am happy with my life and I don’t agree that fulfillment comes only from having my own family.

I don’t Want To Get Married ~ #4 Loni Love ( Age Over 45)

‘For some women, that’s what they wanna do in life: They want to be a devoted mother and wife. I’m a devoted auntie and entertainer, the 47-year-old told The Cut.

Sometimes it’s challenging because people don’t believe me, and I have to tell them, no, I’m fine. I’m okay. It’s not the end of the world because every woman is not married. That doesn’t define every woman. I enjoy children and I’m not anti-marriage.

I don’t Want To Get Married ~ #5 Nina ( Age Over 30)

Courtesy of Bustle, as someone who is both of Nigerian descent and a Christian, people tend to be totally shocked when I tell them that I don’t want to get married.

Both of these cultures are extremely patriarchal and tend to judge a woman’s worth in terms of her relationship to men” with the role of wife and mother being seen as the ultimate crown of womanhood.”

And this is to the point of overshadowing whatever other amazing feats she may have achieved beforehand or even go on to do afterward. As a result, I grew up witnessing multiple female role models either forfeit their dreams, stay in abusive relationships, or operate from a place of low self-worth due to these religious, cultural, and social constructs.

Because of this, marriage (or the idea that my worth, purpose, or happiness should be tied to a man) came to symbolize entrapment, restriction, and the loss of identity very early on in life.

So, to quote Jessica Knoll (bestselling author of The Luckiest Girl Alive), ˜ever since I was a little girl, my fairy tale ending involved a pantsuit, not a wedding dress. Success meant doing something well enough to secure independence and, ultimately, my freedom.

I don’t Want To Get Married ~ #6 Grace (Age over 30)

Courtesy of Cosmo. I’m straight, single, I don’t plan on getting married, and lately, I don’t even date. My last relationship, which almost made me change my mind, was roughly two years ago, which I honestly didn’t know was official until he greeted me a happy first month.

I have been thinking about why I don’t want to get married. I wasn’t traumatized by my last relationship like I first thought, but I realized that this has been my stance since I can remember:

I’m just not the marrying type. I was never clingy because I didn’t want to be clung to. I believe marriage is not for everyone and that it won’t ˜complete me or make me ˜normal. Happiness and the completeness of my life aren’t dependent on anyone man.

I don’t Want To Get Married ~ #7 Shonda Rhimes (Age Over 45)

Courtesy of Madame Niore. I was able to finally stand up and say, I don’t want to get married. At all, Rhimes, 47, told Oprah. I said that out loud. I said it to my family. I said it to my friends. I said it to anybody who asked. It;s never been a dream of mine. Also, you can see Shonda Rhimes’ book “A Year of Yes” by clicking the link below.

I don’t Want To Get Married ~ #8 Angela (Age Over 30)

Courtesy of Bustle. I don’t want to get married. I grew up as an only child, and have never really felt the need (or desire) for a partner. I have had relationships that rival your fave romance novel, and tragedies that Adele couldn’t fathom singing about, but at the end of the day.

I’m always the most satisfied when I’m single. I’m also a digital nomad, and while I know plenty of nomad couples, I honestly think having another person in my life would simply get in the way.

I don’t Want To Get Married ~ #9 KZA  (Age Over 30)

Courtesty of Cosmo. When people ask me why I don’t want to get married, I tell them I’m not interested.  Like many women, I had visions of me in a wedding dress when I was younger, but it started to change in college.

I met a lot of people and realized that there are different kinds of people and different kinds of relationships: open, long-distance, high school sweethearts, flings, and even abusive ones. It was too overwhelming, that in the end, I just didn’t want to be part of any relationship.

So from asking myself what I wanted a relationship to be, the question turned into: Do I really want one? Marriage should be a choice, not a requirement. I am satisfied with the love that I give and receive. Being alone doesn’t make me lonely. I find comfort in solitude, and I consider it a gift that I’m able to do so.

I don’t Want To Get Married ~ #10 Whoopi Goldberg (Age Over 60)

Courtesy of Madame Niore. I’m much happier on my own. I can spend as much time with somebody as I want to spend, but I’m not looking to be with somebody forever or live with someone, the 61-year-old said. She’s been married three times so she knows what she’s talking about. I don’t want somebody in my house.

I don’t Want To Get Married ~ #11 Lisa ( Age Over 40)

Courtesy of Bustle, When I was younger, I was more open to getting married, but I wasn’t a person who absolutely wanted to ” it was more a case of if the right person came along. As my 20s turned into my 30s, I was less and less open to marriage. Now that I’m in my 40s, I would not get married even if I found the love of my life/soulmate, because: 1) Money:

This is my biggest concern when it comes to marriage. I worked very hard for the money that I have, and I don’t want risk losing it (I own property and have investments). My money is mine and I decide what I do with it. 2) Lifestyle & values: I work very hard at my job.

Many times, I have put in 60 hours plus at my workplace. Can my husband deal with someone who works as hard as I do? I also take my religious faith very seriously and attend services every Sunday, as well as endeavor to follow the tenets of my religion in everything that I do, not just on Sunday.

3) Children: I do not want children; regarding having children, you can’t compromise. 4) Infidelity: I understand that one-night indiscretions happen, but what if it wasn’t a one-and-done incident? What if it was something that was going on for months or years? What if a child came about due to an affair? How do you resolve an issue like that?

I don’t Want To Get Married ~ #12 Mae (Age Over 20)

Courtesy of Cosmo, As a young adult, I can’t see myself being a married woman. My family would always say that I should have a partner for life, but I’ve always preferred being alone.

The thought of living and sharing everything with somebody makes me uncomfortable, so even when dating, I would always want to do things alone, like eat alone or watch movies alone. This doesn’t mean that I don’t have friends or a close relationship with my family, but being with someone other than them, like a possible lover, feels so awkward”what more being married?

Everything in marriage becomes conjugal; every decision you make, your life partner should know. Although I know change is inevitable and I could still possibly change my mind if I meet the one, right now, I’m a wanderer who prefers to do things solo.

As you can see there are many women ranging from many different ages that do not want to get married. So maybe you are like them, you don’t see the benefits of marriage and therefore you don’t want to get married. Or maybe you are like me. You want to get married eventually but it is just not time yet.  Whatever your situation, you have the right to want what you want.

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