It is not a matter of if I want to get married it, is more of a question of if I am ready for marriage. If I say I don’t want to get married this is a mind blowing concept for some of you. I am in my 30’s and I don’t want to get married…..right now. I would love to say that I was always this happy single person, but there was a time in which I was desperate over getting married. But then something clicked in my brain, I wasn’t ready for marriage.
Every relationship that I have been in has been hard work, so when I get married, I can almost guarantee it will be harder work.
To be completely honest with you, I do not have the effort to put into a marriage right now, nor do I want to put in the effort. This is not for you to feel sorry for me thinking that I am bitter or something.
I like doing what I want to do and not having to report to anyone. I like watching what I want to watch on television. I like not arguing over relationship stuff. I like spending time with my son alone, I like coming home, and chilling out without having to worrying about making a five course meal for my man.
I feel that at this point in my life a marriage would interrupt that.
So many women want to get married but don’t know what it really takes to get married (Click here to Tweet)
Are you really ready for marriage? Are you ready to not be selfish and to always have to put other person over yourself. I have seen people get married without knowing if they want to have children, without discussing what they want for their future, or without having any real thing in common.
And so after the nice big wedding is planned and money is spent, they realize that they have made a mistake and they are stuck with this person. I do not want that to be
me. I do not have fear of marriage or anything, I have just come to the point that I have a high value for marriage that I do not want to settle with just anyone. I do not want to spend my time arguing. I feel like what I am saying is completely normal, but for so many women they think what I am saying is foreign. For men too, even if they are no good men they somehow expect me to be falling over myself for them because of the fact that I am still single.
When you take desperation out the equation, you should be able to go into any situation with a clear head. If this man somehow felt that I was going to be falling all over myself over him, he had another thing coming. Out of all the things that was wrong with him he had the audacity to give me relationship advice. Laughable in my book. And what was even more laughable is he somehow thought this form of disrespect was s
supposed to draw me in and make him want him somehow. Because the next few lines out of his mouth was an attempt to get me to come over his house. What a backwards world does he lives in? I told him I would, and of course never showed up.
I am not sure why he thought disrespect would equal love on my part. For some woman it does I guess. But not for me and the reason why is because I have learn the secret. That I am okay. I am happy even when I am by myself. I cannot allow someone else’s mood, opinion of me, or weather I am in a relationship stop me from what I am doing and how I feel about myself. I think I am too great to sell myself short because I do not have a man or because I am not married.
So when I say that I don’t want to get married, it is not because I am some scorned women that is never going to get into a relationship. I do not want to get married because it is not time yet. (Click to Tweet)
I am not ready for marriage yet and that is why I don’t want to get married. This is the best thing I can do for myself, I care about my sanity more than I care about a ring on my finger. When you are ready to be married you will know it, you will be willing to be unselfish and ready to yield to the needs of the other person just like they would provide you with the same respect.