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If there is anything I want to impress upon you in this post, it is to stop comparing yourself to others. I know that this can be easier said than done, so that is why I am here to help you learn how to do it.
The first thing you need to understand is that you are you. You are the only you created and there will never be another you.
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5
I know what you are thinking we are not all prophets and that is so true. BUT what I want you to see in this verse is that if God knew you before you were born, He knew how you would turn out AND he thought it good to create you anyway. That should say something. If you are good enough for Him then how you can you not be good enough for yourself?
The fact of the matter is that when people compare themselves to other people there is something in themselves that they are not satisfied with OR there is something in the other person that they wished they had.
So the first step in learning how to stop comparing yourself to others is to just accept yourself
You are you and there is no changing or escaping that. You can get plastic surgery, you can put on makeup, or you can change your outward appearance. But no matter what you do to yourself you are going to be you. There is no changing yourself to into someone else.
Even if you have flaws, sometimes it is though flaws that actually make you better than the next person (see my blog here). But once you get it into your brain that you are you and realize that you are just as awesome as the next person, then that is when you can stop comparing yourself to others and realize that you have something to offer that no one else can offer. And once you accept yourself it is up to you to find out what that exact thing is.
The second step in learning how to stop comparing yourself to others is to step your game up
Another main reason why other people compare themselves to others is because they are jealous of them or want something that the other persons has. It can be money, looks, their job, their boyfriend; it could be a whole slew of things.
Once you get down to the root of why you are comparing yourself to other people then just step your game up. For example, if you are comparing yourself to other people because that person went to college and you didn’t, the best thing for you do to do is to go to college yourself. Even if you think going to college is hard and you cannot afford it (see my blog here) it is better to try to get what you want then to sit and compare yourself to someone else because they have something you want and you feel you cannot get.
The only thing comparing yourself to other people is going to get you is depressed and jealous. So instead of allowing yourself to feel those emotion. Use those emotions to step your game up and go after the same thing the other person has that you are comparing yourself to.
Step Three in Learning To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others Is To Cut Other People Off
Social media can be a pain for some people. Many people go on social media and look at other people’s lives and think that their life is so perfect. And then they get made because their life is not like the person on social media. First off, social media is not reality and people give a façade on social media. Even if you are hanging around a group of people and every time you see them you start to compare yourself to them and then feel like crap, then maybe you should take a break from those group of people.
“If your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.” Matthew 5:30
I am not telling you to cut off your hand of course, nor am I saying you are going to do to hell. But what this verse speaks to is if something is causing you to feel down about yourself then it is better to get rid of it so that you do not continue to feel down. So you may have to take a break from people or social media, if those things are causing you to stumble.
Step Four in Learning to Stop Comparing Yourself To Others is To Just Control Your own Emotions
Unless the other person is just intentionally throwing there self in your face trying to make you jealous (if that is the case refer back to step three) then more than likely you comparing yourself to them is YOUR problem not theirs. You have to become the master of your own emotions (see my blog here) and understand that you can choose not to do this to yourself. Of course it may take practice at first, but the more you control your emotions the more you will learn not only to stop comparing yourself to others but to also learn to stop being jealous of other people, stop getting angry at other people, and your mood will not be swayed by what other people do.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Spend time with yourself. The more you compare yourself to other people the less time you are spending actually working on yourself and getting to know yourself. And just know that if you are not happy with you, as long as you are living you can change that. So put that energy into working on yourself so that you won’t feel the need to compare yourself to others as oppose to worrying about what someone else is doing.