Accept The Things You Cannot Change And Don’t Let Your Past Ruin Your Future

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I once read a book that had the most interesting philosophy. Unfortunately, I cannot remember what the book was called but I do remember the point.  The book stated that one of the ways the devils tries to distract you is by using the past and present against you to ruin your future.

The past 62913970 - fake dictionary, dictionary definition of the word past.

How many times have you sat and thought about something that you did in the past and allowed it to dictate your future? When you think about it, often times people develop low self-esteem or a low self-worth based on what someone has told them about themselves.

Sometimes people’s parents tell them they are not going to amount to anything. Or they hear teachers tell them they are stupid.  And instead of them debunking those myths, the devil reminds them of what other people said about them and they believe it.  And when they believe that they are nothing, then they go forward and accomplish nothing.  And just like that, their future is ruined, based off the past.

I used to be like this, but then I learned a very valuable lesson. Accept the things you cannot change.  I have had a crazy past, I have done some crazy things, and I have done some things I am not proud of.  People have talked about me and told me I was not going to be anything, and guess what?  I chose not to believe it.  I also realized that anything that I have done in the past I cannot change nor can I change what other people has said about me. There is no point in re-living or hashing out things in the past when I do not live in the past anymore.

The present

I can recall that there was a time or many times that it seemed that people were against me. I would try to turn the other cheek.  I would try to be

nice, but it only made things worse.  People mistook kindness for weakness and looked at me being nice as a way to take advantage even more.

50156822 - young woman opening curtains in a bedroomThere was also a time that I always felt the need to say something. If you said something to me then I said something back.  I would go in on you 10 times harder then you could ever go in on me.  And I felt good about it.  But it was also very exhausting.  I was trying to go in on people to try to change how they came at me and really it never worked.  Because while one person may have stopped talking about me there was always another person or situation to take their place.

Then I came to this conclusion. There are always going to be people or situations that try to get in your way.  Even if you waste all of your time energy and effort being mean to them and getting back at them it is not going to change anything.  What’s done is done and they are going to choose how they want to treat you.

People who hate on you really has nothing to do with you, but it has to do with them and their own insecurities (click here to read my blog about that). And the more you waste time on what they think in the present, that is time that you could be dedicated to securing yourself a better future.  (Check out my blog on The More You Worry About Other People Getting In Your Way, Less Time You Have To Worry About Propelling Yourself Forward.

Ephesians 6:12 states:

For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places

All this means is that there is a devil out there who wants to jack up your day. He wants to wreak so much havoc in your life that you forget about what you are supposed to be doing for you and you only focus on what other people are doing to you (click here for to read my blog on how to recognize the works of the devil)

That is why if other people want to act a fool then let them. You cannot change it and you should not even try.  Going on a wild goose chase trying to51242997_l change a situation or people that are going to talk about you anyway is meaningless.

The Future:

Which brings me to the future. Do you remember the Bible story where Moses lead the people out of Egypt and it took them 40 years for a trip that was only supposed to take a few weeks? The reason for that is because they were too busy worried about things that did not need to be worried about. Which is why what I am telling you is so important.  Accept the things that you cannot change, learn from them.  What has happened has happened and what is going to be is going to be and if you get wrap up and worried over a bunch of nonsense sense then it will take you 40 years to get to somewhere that should have only taken days.  Or better yet you may never get there at all.  Do not let outside things and outside people ruin your future. You got more important things to worry about, which means you don’t have time to worry about other people (click to read my blog on that).


About Sophia Reed (318 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at

4 Comments on Accept The Things You Cannot Change And Don’t Let Your Past Ruin Your Future

  1. Yesssss!!!! I have been struggling for a LONG time to learn these lessons, and have only recently been able to start letting things come as they are and go as they please…it is hard to change and adapt to that way of thinking but it sure does wonders for our stress levels when we do!

  2. Great post! Very encouraging! Keep it up!
    XOXO, Amaris

  3. This is so timely!

  4. Very encouraging post. It’s so hard to focus on the future when the past is holding you down.

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