Single Woman’s Challenge Day 27. Make Memories Don’t Let Your Loneliness Be Your Defeat

Today is the Single Christian Woman’s Challenge Day 27. Click here to see all the days.

Today’s Challenge is. Day 27: Memories

Create a new memory today. What is something you have always wanted to do but have been putting off doing? Buy a new picture album and start filling it with happy memories.

Today was the day that I took my son to swim class, guitar lessons, and then we went to the movies and while watching the movies we ordered a crap load of food. You may be wondering what this has to do with memories and I will tell you. I can recall that there use to be a time that I felt that I had to wait until I was in a relationship to start enjoying life. But then I realized that being single is not some death sentence. It does not mean that I have to sit in the house all day, doing nothing, wondering where my prince charming is.

If you are that single woman that I just mentioned above, then you have to know that wallowing in self pity is no way to live life. Stopping your life because you feel that you have no significant other to share your life with is crazy. As a single mother I feel like I am rather lucky in that regard. I go out with my son. We go out to eat, go out to the movies, I can always find good company in him. In fact I have many trips planned for us this summer. They range from going to Universal Studios for his birthday to getting a cabin in the woods for a weekend AND I also plan to take some trips alone.

I am not recommending that anyone become a single mother to cure their loneliness, but what I am saying is that if you are single and lonely you have to live your life. You cannot sit and wait for a man before you start experiencing life. What if that relationship never happens? What if it happens 10 years from now? Then you will wonder why you wasted all of this time, doing nothing, while you were waiting for a man to enter your life.

I know because I have been there. I can recall telling myself that I would like to eat at a certain restaurant when I had a boyfriend knowing that there was no boyfriend in sight. I told myself that I would like to travel or go camping when I get married knowing that there was no possibility of a husband in sight. This type of thinking lead to a lot of waiting. I was waiting for a man to do things that I really wanted to do. And when that man did not come, I got upset and all depressed. I looked at other people’s relationships via social media and saw them doing all sorts of things, taking couples pictures, and changing their Facebook status to engaged (click here to see why you should not be jealous of other people relationships on social media). But then I realized that either I could live life or I could sit and stalk social media, and watch other people live their lives.

You only get one life. The moment that you are in right now you will only live once. I remember when I came to the conclusion that every moment is precious, I refuse to let life pass me by. Even if I do not mark off everything on my bucket list then at least I can say that I tried or I came close. I also feel that you never know what may happen when you live life. Maybe in that moment you may meet Mr. Right or a new opportunity may present itself. You never know what a new day may bring when you put yourself out there. No opportunity is ever going come to you sitting in your house staring at the wall all day.

If you are a single mother spend time with your kids. Spend time making memories with them and making their life great. Get together with other single moms, make play dates, takes trips together, do something! You can also get together with other friends and take a girls friends trip (see blog here for ideas on a grown and sexy girls night out) and create memories together.

The point is that even as a single woman you can still live your life in a variety of ways. Even if you are alone, you can create memories alone:

See my blogs here on how to spend time alone:

So create a bucket list and start knocking things off one thing at a tome. Do not let your singleness be your depression. Do not let your loneliness be your defeat. Chose to live your life and create memories of your own. With or without a man.

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About Sophia Reed (314 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at

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