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The Ultimate Guide On How To Properly Date A Guy

I understand that women want to be seen as equal and everything, and we are in our own ways.  But if I had to come up with dating advice for women, then I would tell women to refuse to accept is the idea that chivalry is dead, not accept women asking men on dates, women paying for dates, women driving men around, and women doing everything that a man is supposed to do.  I am sorry I will not accept it! I don’t care if you are single and lonely, do not compromise yourself on a date.

So all the single women out there, here are my top five dating tips for women, that should be followed.

Approaching a man

If you are wondering how to get a date and think that it is better to just walk up to a man and ask him, don’t do it.  I do not care how scarce the dating world is there are some things that a woman should not be doing. Approaching men is one of those things.  I do not care how many experts encourage a woman to approach man and ask for his number.  It’s stupid.  This is the best dating advice that I got from a man himself.  Men will date anyone.  They will give their number out to anyone.  The fact that they are willing to accept your number and go out with you means nothing.  Men will sleep with you and have no interest in you whatsoever.  This is why women should not approach men for dates because they will go out with you simply because they are bored.

But a man who approaches a woman and ask her out.  Means that he is interested in her.  It is true that the interest could mean “ I want to go out and have sex with you.” But know that just because he is asking you out on a date does not mean that you have to sleep with him.  It is better to know that a man is interested in you and that is the reason why he is asking you out as oppose to going out with you because he has nothing better to do. Make him chase you, not the other way around.

Going Dutch.

Dating tip number two, never go dutch. Do not do this.  When you are dating man do not start paying for things.  You are setting your relationship up for failure.  First it starts with paying for dinner, then his gas, then shoes, co-signing for the new car that he wants, and then making the payments on the car that he had you co-sign for, and then you are paying for his apartment.  No thank you.  Start as you mean to go. Which means if you do not plan on paying for everything in the future then do not start by paying for everything when you date.This is dating rules 101.  When are dating you are just that, dating.  Dating does not equal relationship (read my blog here).

Picking a man up for a date

I can see if you do not want the man to know where you live, then fine meet him there.  But actually going to his house on a date and picking him up….um no.  Are you going to hold the car door open for him and let him sit down too?  I once went on a date where I met him at his house and then he was trying to get in my car for me to drive on the date, and he wanted me to drop of his cousins as the store first.  I politely locked my doors and told him I needed to clean out my car so I would be unable to drive us where we needed to go.  Needless to say the relationship did not go anywhere.

young coupleNot taking you out on a date at all.

Now if you have been going out for a while then going over each other’s house to see a movie is fine.  But he should at least make an effort to do something.  When I was dating a man for a while he came over to watch my favorite movie “Gone with the Wind” with me.  He brought some food that he paid for with him.  You are using my home for your entertainment you can at least bring some food with you when you come.

I have turned down a man for wanting to come over my house,  suck up all my air conditioning, have me cook for them, and cater to them while they do absolutely nothing.  I think not.  And I let him know as much.  He told me that plenty of women would want him to come over their house while they wait on him hand and foot.  I suggested he go to those women because I am not one of them.

My point is why you would want to go out with a man who wants to sit up in the house and be in your face all day trying to have sex with you?  That is not a date.  That is a “I am trying to have sex with you.”  You are already in the house, have easy and open access to the bed, and you are making it easy for him.  No effort required.

There is dating and there are also dating rules.  I do not care what year it is sometimes us women have to take a step back and let a man be a man.  If they are not willing to do that, then they may not be the man for you. Two excellent books that will help you master the art of dating are


All the Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right  

Not Your Mother’s Rules: The New Secrets for Dating (The Rules)



About Sophia Reed (295 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at

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