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Single Woman’s Challenge Day 8: Making Time For Your Kids As A Single Mom

Today is Day 8 of the Single Christian Woman’s Challenge

If you want to look at the whole month click here for the original post from the blog Barn Princess.

Today’s Challenge is:

Day 8: Make Time for Family

Call your parents, your grandparents, your siblings. Volunteer to babysit. Support “their thing”: a blog, a business, an art project, a piano recital. Plan a family reunion. Host a family dinner.

As a single mother I know firsthand how hard it is to make time for your family.  You have to work, maintain the house, do homework, care for the kids, and somewhere in between you still need to sleep and take care of yourself.  But there is one thing that I learned early on as a single mother, it is not the quantity of time that you spend with your kids, but the quality.  So here are my tips on how you can make time for your family has a single mother.

Maximize Your Days Off:

Every person has different days off and I understand that not everyone is off on the weekends.  When I used to have to work some weekends and was off during the week, my son was not yet in school yet.  I would take those times to make time for us.  I would not take him to day care and I would take him with me to do the things I had to do and then we would go out to eat afterward or I would take him somewhere fun like Chucky Cheese, which is not as busy during the week.

Now I have weekends off, and I really maximize my time with him over the weekends.  On Saturday’s he has swim and guitar lessons.  I take him to both of those and even sit in the room with him on his guitar lessons as his silent cheerleader.  Also, since he has to practice at home, I help him practice since I am sitting in with him and know what he is supposed to be working on.  It is time we get to spend together while he practices every night at home and he is appreciative that I am listening to him play.

Also on Saturday, after he is finished with all of his classes, we either try to catch a movie or we go out to eat.  Our favorite spot is Chilli’s because they have the Ziosk in which we play the two player games, our favorite at the moment is Life.  It may seem so small but he really enjoys it AND I get to eat and have a drink.  So you can always find little ways to spend time that is not that expensive.

Other FREE Ideas include:

  • Free parks or playgrounds.
  • Having your own picnic in the park.
  • Going to the library as they often have a kids section where the child can play games or read books.  In most libraries they also have events for kids that are free to the public.
  • Going to Church or Church related activities together. 

Get Out of Town:

I am lucky because my son’s birthday falls on July 3rd, which is one day before the 4th of July.  Meaning that I can always do somethings special around his birthday.  This year I plan on taking him to Universal Studios, in which we are going to make it a family trip with my mom, my grandparents, aunts etc. for 4th of July weekend.

As a working parent, I know you have a limited amount of paid time off.  So my point here is to try to combine a trip with a holiday you already have off.  Like Memorial Day falls on a Monday, you can leave town with your children Friday afternoon and come back on Monday, that way you do not have to take leave for work.

I know that not everyone has holidays off so you may can even get creative.  Once I had to work the 4th of July at King Dominion theme park for an outreach event.  At the time I worked with veterans and I had to set up a table for the organization I was working for.  The park was kind enough to give me two free tickets to the theme park and since I was already in the park, I did not have to pay for my own admission.  My mom got in the park free that day because she is a veteran and I used the other ticket for my son, and that is what we did for his birthday.  And it cost me nothing!  It was a way to combine family time without having to take off from work.

You can also look for deals.  In August my son and I are going to Minneapolis, MN with another single mom and her kids to the Mall of America.  The tickets cost $116 round trip person.  Which is pretty affordable.  So you can find affordable out of the box trips to go that your children and you will enjoy, that is not going to break the bank.  You can possibly even consider talking them somewhere you can drive, take a bus, or train to since their prices are cheaper.  

Spend Time Together While At Home:

My son was on punishment for charging $1,100 to my Microsoft account while he was playing Xbox (see blog here).  As a result he was place on punishment.  No electronics and he could only watch television in the presence of myself of my mother.  This turned out to be a blessing in disguise.  Because it forced us to have family time.  Since he was stuck in the room with me or my mom watching TV, he was forced to interact with me and play games such as cards.  Before he would spend time watching cartoons on the spare TV, playing video games, or playing on the computer.  So him being grounded made us spend time together every night.

As a single mom I know your pain with feeling tired and not feeling like you are spending enough time with your kids.  I hope this post not only gives your ideas but to also show you that you can get creative with the way that you make time for your family.

 

 

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In Case You Want To Read the Past Days in the Single Christian Woman’s Challenge:

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About Sophia Reed (295 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at sophiareedsbook@gmail.com

9 Comments on Single Woman’s Challenge Day 8: Making Time For Your Kids As A Single Mom

  1. What a lovely post. I was a single mom for awhile. It can certainly be hard at times but oh so rewarding!

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  2. I love the ideas you have with spending your time with your family. There are some great free ideas in this post. You are such an inspiration with all that you are doing and creating a balance in the process. !

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  3. brandyellen // May 10, 2016 at 1:52 am // Reply

    This is a fantastic post, I have been a single mom more often than not raising my three kids. Currently not single, but I can totally relate to all you say here and think it is very accurate! Thanks for sharing!

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  4. I admire you single moms, I don’t know how you do it! And $1,100 on XBOX?!?! I didn’t even know that was possible!! You are one strong mama!!

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  5. Love this!!!! It’s so hard as a single mom, but making time is also so important!!!!!!

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