Jealous of Other People’s Relationships On Social Media? Get Over It.

 

If you are one of those people who sit and stare at Facebook all day in envy about the wonderful relationships other people have.  Don’t be.  You may or may not be surprised to know that people will completely fake the funk and enhance a flawed relationship on social media; just to give other people the illusion that their relationship is perfect.

I am not coming from a place of jealousy or hate, but a place of knowing.  I can literally scroll down my Facebook feed now and find 10 people bragging about their oh so perfect marriages and relationships and how wonderful their significant others are.  But the truth of the matter is that I know my Facebook friend personally.  I know that my friend kicked her husband out of the house for cheating on her with the woman down the street.  I know about the illegitimate baby that is tucked away in the corner that the husband had behind her back.  I know about the married man that is sleeping with at least 10 of his female Facebook friends. Or the women showing off the luxury vacations her and her man went to, knowing that SHE has paid for everything because HE has no job!

I do not say this to discourage you from posting your relationship on social media.  Or not even to put someone on blast…..well maybe to put people on blast.  But there is a point to all of this.  While many of you are getting all bent out of shape over other people’s seemingly perfect social media relationships.  I feel that it is best for you to know that those perfect relationships do not exist outside of social media.  Because the real life situation is a complete and utter total mess.

Do you want something real or do you want something fake?  Do you want a relationship that you can post on Instagram just to say you have someone or do you really want “the one?”  The one will be there for the long term, social media relationships will be there until you change your relationships status.

You do not know what goes on behind the closed doors of their relationships.  You really do not even know if they are in a real worthwhile relationship.  Do not let the haze of the “picture perfect relationship” fool you.  Just because you do not have perfectly planned picture of your make out session to post on social media does not mean that you are missing out on anything.

If I did not know so many people personally I think I may be inclined to be jealous.  But I have been in too many bad relationships and have been the sounding board of too many bad relationships to want to put up a front any longer.  I do not want to give the PERCEPTION that my relationship is great, I just want a relationship that is great.  I do not want to spend every waking moment documenting our lives to post pictures of it.  I want us to live our life without always worrying if we have the perfect shot.

Now if you are in a relationship and post you’re every waking moment on social media with your significant other… then do you.  But reflect on who you are doing it for.  Are you doing it because it makes you happy or are you trying to prove to the world how happy you really are? And if you are popping anti-depressants over other people’s relationships status, then get a grip. And realize that a lot of it is fake and is not a real reflection of their true relationship.

About Sophia Reed (313 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at sophiareed@sophie-sticatedmom.com

3 Comments on Jealous of Other People’s Relationships On Social Media? Get Over It.

  1. I thought I was only one who still said “fake the funk”lol. This is a great piece because I sometimes get jealous over image of my son’s father and his family but its just an image and I know way more into the story that is nowhere near perfect. Learning to see things without filter.

  2. Ifeoma Samuel // April 24, 2016 at 2:45 pm // Reply

    This is honest as honest goes Sophie. I enjoyed your article.
    God bless friend.

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