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No One Is Going To Believe in You More Than You Believe In Yourself.

We have to set standards for ourselves.

This year alone:

  • I plan on taking the National Counselor certification exam
  • Finishing my dissertation for my PhD
  • Dedicated more time on my Youtube channel
  • And growing my blog

To some that may be a bit extreme but to me it isn’t.  Some people have told me that I am doing better than most people my age.  And that is all fine and dandy, but am I doing well enough by my own standards is the real question?  I try not to compare myself to other people, but I feel that sometimes doing so can make you push yourself harder.  You should compare yourself to the best and not the worst.  Meaning that you should find someone your age that inspires you, read about them, and know you can be on their level if you want to be.  If you place limitations on yourself and say

“ I am from the hood, I will never go anywhere”

“ I am a product of a single mom, I cannot make a change.”

“ I had no one to love me, so I cannot…….(fill in the blank)”

You won’t accomplish anything. That is a dumb way of thinking.  And you will just be sitting there looking crazy all day not doing anything meaningful with your life.  By the time you hit 65, you flip out because you realize that your life is almost over and you wasted it thinking that you can’t.

When I was not living up to my full potential, I imagined that when I died God would show me all the things that he had planned for my life.  And I did not achieve them because I was too busy chasing Mr. Wrong or thinking that I had to settle for mediocre.

I am a fan of Steve Harvey.  He quit a regular job at the Ford Company to do comedy.  Most people thought he was crazy for quitting a regular job to do something that was so out of the box.  Can you imagine that if Steve never believed in himself he would still be at the Ford Company.  His life would have not been “bad.” But he would not be what he wanted it to be.  He would have missed out on all the extraordinary opportunities that was lined up for him because he was afraid to step out of the box.  Because he was afraid of a little hard work. Or because he listened to people that told him comedy would never get him anywhere.

A lot of people told me a lot of crazy things.  They told me what I could not do.  But thank God I love proving people wrong.  When they tell me I can’t, I take it as a personal challenge, and will do it just to prove them wrong.  And more so I do not do it for them, but I do it for me.

I have high expectations of myself.  No one believes in me more than I believe in myself.  No one knows what I am capable more than myself.  And no one is going to push me harder than myself.  And guess what, that is a good thing?  If you cannot see your own potential, then no one else will.  And even when you see your own potential there are still times when people still won’t see your potential or help you out.  The way I see it, is that you can get on my bandwagon or get off of it.  Either way my bandwagon is going to leave and get to its destination with or without you.  Yeah it may be harder to get to the destination with one person on the band wagon, but I am still going to make it.  Some people have chosen not to get on my bandwagon or try to set my bandwagon on fire to keep it from going where it needs to go.  But my bandwagon keeps going even if it is burned, beat up, and I have to drag it there myself.

In case you’re confused about what I am taking about.  It’s a metaphor.  It means that on your way to your goals, people will support you, try to stop you, lie on you, or not believe in you.  And even though you may be get beaten down along the way, you still have to keep moving toward your goal.  In closing, aim high! Set the bar so high that you have to jump through hoops to reach it! That is where the real reward is.  If the bar is set low, that you can just walk over it.  Then you are not really doing anything great are you?

About Sophia Reed (295 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at

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