I have a habit of looking at the glass half empty. A lot of times people may think that it means that I am depressed or that I cannot look on the bright side. But I think looking at the glass half empty has helped me realized how much I need to do to get my glass full.
Let me explain. I was talking to a co-worker and she told me that I should be proud of myself at all that I have accomplished so far. And although I have accomplished some of my goals, I am far from accomplishing most of my goals. Therefore, I do not have time to sit and pat myself on the back about the things that I have done, when there is so much left to be done.
I once heard an interesting quote from a friend of mine. She said you should never compare yourself to the worse but also compare yourself to the best. And I have found that to be true. If I was to look at the average person my age, they may say that I am doing well. But I do not want to be average. So I compare myself to other people that I aspire to be like. I look at what they have done at my age and if I am not where they are then it just inspires me to work harder.
And that is the glass half full complex. Looking at the glass half full does not mean that I lack optimism. It just means that I am fully aware of how much work I need to put in, in order to make my glass full. I felt that if I looked at the glass half full then I would stop working. I would become stagnant and complacent. I would say to myself
“well you have some water in your glass, and that is better than no water at all. At least if you get thirsty you have enough water to get your mouth wet.”
I have decided that I do not want to just have to quench my thirst. I want to have more than enough. I want my cup to runneth over with every goal that I have accomplished. When you think about it, you only live once. You are in this moment only one time. You can never go back a rewind time and try to get back the time you wasted doing nothing.
I have moments of regret where I feel like I could be farther in life if I had just done this, or that, or made this decision. I have decided that now going forward that I will not waste any more time. I do not want to look back on my life and wished that I would have tried harder, and the only reason why I didn’t is because I was comparing myself to the worst and not the best. When you compare yourself to the worst, you will say:
- At least I am not homeless like so and so.
- At least I have a job making minimum wage as oppose to no job.
- At least I make more money than my best friend.
Although we should count our blessings, you should realize that just getting by is not getting by at all. Why struggle on minimum wage when you can make a decent salary that can allow you to do what you want, when you want, and that will allow you to provide a better life for your children. Why be happy in a job that you do not like because at least you have a job, when you could be doing what God called you to do.
So yes, I look at the glass half full. The emptiness of the glass reminds me that I still have a way to go. That I can’t stop. That there are still goals to go after. And when my glass is full, I will pull up a second glass and start trying to fill up that one too. I want all that life has to offer. And looking at an empty glass is a way that will remind me to do that.