How and Why You Need To Surround Yourself With Positive People

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Surround Yourself With Positive People

How To Surround Yourself With Positive People

Today is Single Christian Woman’s Challenge day 26. Click here to see all the days.

Today’s Challenge is

Day 26: Build Your Own Family and Surround yourself with positive people

Open your Bible and mark down every time you find that God talks about the poor, the outcast, the widow, the fatherless, etc. Read through some of them. There are a lot so you don’t have to read through them all. Write down a few practical ways that you can build community into your life or take care of people in need.

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If anyone knows me they know that if you are not a source of encouragement, support, and positive energy I have no problem pushing you out of my life.  When you surround yourself with positive people you can get these things. Life is too short to have people putting all of this negative energy on you.  Often times your success and how you feel about yourself can be affected by the people you surround yourself with. I love the show Sex and the City.  I love it because when you look at all of them, the are all successful women, it is a fake show but a prime example of building a tribe of friends where you motivate one another so that you are all doing your best in areas of careers, relationships, and even their personal life. That is what happens when you surround yourself with positive people, you do better and the people you surround yourself with do better as well.

Today’s post is to help you learn How To Surround Yourself With Positive People

People who are more successful then you.

Perhaps I am very competitive in nature. So when I see someone doing better than me in my inner circle it makes me want to do better. Now there is a fine line between being jealous of someone and looking at their success as a motivation for you to be successful.  Being jealous is bad.  Being friendly competitors is good.  I can recall that in my PhD program, a fellow class mate was completing her work, better and faster than me AND getting good grades.  I was thinking to myself that she must be some type of genius or something.  I did not hate on her, it made me push myself harder to catch up with her.  And now not only have I caught up with her but I have surpassed her.  And we speak on a regular basis to share our experiences throughout the process and so I can be a source of motivation for her.

Think of it this way, if you hang out will people who are less successful then you, then you will be comfortable staying where you are.  You will always say “well I am doing better than most of the friends that I know.” But then if you are hanging out with a bunch of losers, then you are not really doing that great at all.  You are just doing better than people who are not doing much.  But if you surround yourself with the best of the best and are still doing better than them, then you know you are really pushing yourself to achieve something substantial in your life.

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I cannot stand when people call themselves for your friends but they are really your frenemies. People that pretend to be your friend but hate you in real life (see my blog here on fake friends).  These are the people you want to avoid, because every time you time you do something wonderful they are just going to try to rain on your parade and make you feel bad about something you accomplished. As a result you won’t want to accomplish much because your “friends” will make you feel bad about it. There is find line between jealousy and motivation. Instead of them being motivated by your success they are jealous of it, and these are the last people you want to surround yourself with.  You also do not want to surround yourself with people that always complain or who are always negative.  Because the more they speak to you about their negativity, the more their negative thinking will rub off on you.

Instead you want to surround yourself with positive people. People who motivate you and are ready to pick you up when you are having a bad day.  And it goes both ways.  If they are positive and you are the person who is being a drag, they are not going to want to hang you.  No one wants a negative person.  You always want the person who will look at the glass half full not have empty, unless looking at a glass half empty makes you work harder.  Which is possible (read my blog post on here on the glass half empty makes you work harder).

A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends.~ Proverbs 16:28

 Surround yourself with positive people you can learn from

Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.~ Proverbs 13:20

This is so important. Find out whatever it is that you want to do in life and find people who are knowledgeable in that area and pick their brain.  I can recall when I first mean a woman at my internship she had the same education level and in the mental health field BUT she was a genius at marketing.  She is the one that introduced me to the idea of blogging and sharing your knowledge in a different way.  I really learned a lot from her in the short time that I knew her. That was several years ago and not only have I taken what she has exposed me to, but I have taken blogging to another level.  That is the type of friends that you want.  Someone that can teach you something that you can carry on with you through life.  It does not have to be professional, it could mean that you link up with other great mothers or wives.  Anyone who can teach you something that you need to know is an essential person to have in your life.

Surround yourself with positive People Who Are Loyal

 Some friendships do not last, but some friends are more loyal than brothers. ~ Proverbs 18:24

Some people are fickle and will turn on you faster than anything. The type people you want to be around you is people that will stand up for you even when you are not there.  I am the type of person that if I really deal with you as my friend, when people speak badly about you in my presence I will put them on notice and let them know “hey don’t talk about my friend.” No need to get aggressive or fight for a friend that is what childish people do when they cannot properly express themselves.  But have loyal friends and be a loyal friend.  One who sticks up for your friend when they are not there, and sings their praises in front of other people.  And you want someone who will do the same for you.Surround Yourself With Positive People

I once had a co-worker who was looking for another job.  Her friend’s company had just won a contract and felt my co-worker would be a good fit for the company she was working for.  As a result her loyal friend told her about the job and put in a good word for her.  As a result, my former co-worker got the job making 12k more than she made before.  That is what a loyal friend will get you.

Surround yourself with positive people and not Crazy People

So this is more of a “who not to surround your self with.

Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared. Proverbs 22:24-25

Crazy people will make you crazy. Crazy people will get you in trouble.  I watch the investigated discovery channel a lot.  I see people all the time who were with friends who snapped off and committed a crime.  The person just so happened to be with them and they did not do anything wrong.  But the law does not care.  And both of them are in jail doing time.  That is a lesson that you have to be careful on who you associate yourself with.  Because being guilty by association is a common occurrence.  If you hang out with someone that is always getting drunk, high, or getting into bar fight with people; then this behavior is going to rub off on you as well.  Have you ever seen the Bad Girls Club or these Crazy reality shows?  Normal functional people will get on these shows and start tripping out because of the other crazy people they are hanging out with.  Do not be that person that hangs out with psychotic people and after a while their crazy behavior become your new normal.

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1 Comment

  1. Hey Sophia,
    Good morning. I found your post today on Modest Mom.
    I love your list! There’s a whole lot of wisdom here!
    And, I think it’s fabulous that you are working on your PhD! Go, Girl!!
    Hope you have a blessed day~
    Melanie

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