Single Woman’s Challenge Day 12: Random Acts of Kindness

Today is the Christian Single Woman’s Challenge Day 12.  If you want to see all the days, then click here for the original blog by the Barn princess.

Today’s Challenge is

Day 12: Be Neighborly

Introduce yourself to your neighbors. Make a list of them so you can call them by name when you see them. Ask about their families and their jobs. Bake a cake or cookies and give it to a neighbor. Host a block party. Offer to help an elderly neighbor mow their lawn or shovel snow depending on the time of year.

Being neighborly can consist of so many things.  In the times in which we live we can live near someone or walk past someone every day and not even know their name.  Normally if you live in the South then everyone speaks to everyone, but try that in the North in places like New York or even DC people will start to look at you like you are crazy.

At my job I take the elevator from the parking deck to my office area.  There are other agencies in my building so we do not all know each other.  Typically, we all just get in the elevator silently so much so you can hear a pin drop.  But one day a woman and I decided to just randomly start a conversation.  Both of us agreed that is it strange to be trapped in the elevator with people and not saying anything.  And from now on if she and I get into the elevator we talk to each other.  Not exactly BFF’s in the making, but a small hello can change the way you see people.

That is why I want to give everyone ideas of how they can spread random acts of kindness to the people around them.  You never know how you make be the light in someone else’s day:

  1. Give money to the homeless.

This sounds really cliché, but you can get creative with it.  I remember when I lived in Richmond and I would go down town there were a lot of homeless people begging for money.  I would get $20 in all ones and give a dollar to every homeless person that asked for money.  I am sure my dollar was not life changing but they did seem grateful none the less.


  1. Community Service

When I was in high school and went through my first year of college, they made it mandatory for you to do community service AND then write a paper on what you learned.  I can recall volunteering in a homeless shelter or mentoring.  I am not suggested that you write a whole paper about what you learn.  But it would be cool to keep a journal about every experience and go back and read it when you need some perspective on life.

  1. Talk to someone you do not like.

That is right, I said it.  If there is someone that you do not like or they do not like you go out of your way to be nice to them.  I have done this before and I will admit that sometimes nothing will change between you two no matter how kind you are to them.  At least you can say that it is their problem and not yours and you at least tried to be nice.  But if things do change, then who knows you may have found a new friend.  This has also happened to be, I went out of my way to be nice to someone that I did not get along with and now things are great between us.  We do not go hang out on the weekends, but we are at least civil.

  1. Do something for your co-workers.

It does not have to be anything fancy.  It can just mean bringing in some cookies and putting them in the break room for other people to eat.  Placing goodie bags or something on people’s desk.  It is just a way to be nice.

  1. A random act of kindness and telling them to play of forward.

Your random act of kindness could be anything to anyone.  I have done a few random acts of kindness to people I did not even know.  At the bank I saw a woman struggling to get her power wheel chair up the ramp.  Many people simply walked past her, and I stopped to help her push it up the ramp.  Another crazy story was in the summer when it was record breaking heat, a women past out in the grass.  I pulled over to help her out.  Once people saw me trying to help then another car stopped to help out.  We had to end up calling the ambulance, but who know what would have happened if no one had stopped. The whole point is that if you complete a kind act, ideally they will remember what you did and then they will do a kind act, and then it would go on and on.  It is a small way to make a change in your part of the world.

  1. Encourage someone

If you ever see someone that is down and out.  They can be someone that you pass every day and they are always depressed or something.  Take a moment and encourage them and tell them something nice.  You do not have to get deeply into their business, but a few encouraging words can go a long way.


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8 Comments on Single Woman’s Challenge Day 12: Random Acts of Kindness

  1. confettiandbliss // May 13, 2016 at 2:28 pm // Reply

    What a beautiful post. It reminds me of the saying: Be the change you want to see in the world. If kindness could be scattered like glitter imagine the joy it would bring!

  2. I love all of these suggestions! One to add would be to set up a double date at a food bank. It’s helping those who are in need and it’s actually quite a bit of fun!


  3. This is great. We can all use little reminders to do these small gestures that make a big difference! In Portland, Oregon, everyone talks and smiles at everyone else too, and I thought it would be totally different when I lived in Boston and traveled all around NY/NJ, but I found people to be just as eager to chat in those places too. I think sometimes people just need a smile from a random stranger as a signal that it’s ok to let their guard down 😉

  4. What a positive post! I totally agree in doing something nice, even if it is just the smallest thing.

  5. I totally believe in paying it forward – and these are great suggestions to get there.

  6. I love positive posts like these. And, it was a great reminder to go out and spread kindness. We held a bbq tonight for our neighbors and it was a blast! We need to make it happen more often.

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