5 Ways Dating Single Moms Can Keep Themselves Safe Online

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5 Ways Dating Single Moms Can Keep Themselves Safe Online

Dating single moms can have it rough. I am a single mother myself so I understand that it can be hard to start dating with kids.  I also understand that as a single mom you do not want to be alone forever. Many times single mothers have full custody of their children. Which makes meeting people in person harder and turning to online dating much easier. But here is a message to all dating single moms.

5 Ways Dating Single Moms Can Keep Themselves Safe Online

Even though you are a single mom and you are ready to date, do not throw all common sense out of the window.  It is online dating after all and there are some crazies out there.  That is why I want to give you my top 5 online dating tips that will keep you, all the dating single moms out there safe.

Before we begin, I want your to get that stigma out of your head.  There is nothing wrong with meeting people online.  In fact, just turn on the TV and there are several commercials on television telling you that nothing is wrong with online dating. With all that being said, I know that your goal as a single mother who has zero time for none sense,  is to find a relationship and not be on the next episode of “Catfish” or on the 7 o’clock news as a missing person.

So let’s get into the 5 Ways Dating Single Moms Can Keep Themselves Safe Online

1. Keep Your Kids To Yourself

When your dating with kids, you goals should be to keep your kids safe.  I know you want to share your kids to the whole world, but until you are sure about the one you are dating online it is best to keep them out of it. This means do not send personal pictures of your kids to them, tell them where your kids go to school, where they are going to be, or their full names. With the way the world is going today you could be talking to a kidnapper or sex trade trafficker. This may be extreme, but it is better to be safe than sorry.

2. Meet in a Public Place

Anytime you get ready to meet a date you found through online dating, it is a good idea not to tell them where you live and to not let them pick you up at your place for the first couple of dates. There are a few reason for this.

First, your kids are there. You never want someone to meet your kids too son. In case the date does not work out and your kids meet them, it is going to lead to confusion for your kids. You do not want every online date you go out with to be a revolving door in and out of your house for your kids to see.

Secondly, like rule number one, when dating online you do not know what you are getting. You do not want someone you do not know to know where you live and have open access to your children. Therefore it is better to wait until after a few dates and you trust the person before telling them or showing them where you live. Until then, always meet at a public place.5 Ways Dating Single Moms Can Keep Themselves Safe Online

3. Do not Go to Their House

It may sound like I am being overly cautious but you should not go to their house on the first date. There may be a torture chamber waiting for you and you may never be seen or heard from again. As a single mother, not only do you have to protect your children from people they don’t know but protect yourself from people you don’t know so you can be around for your kids and not a victim of sex trafficking.

4. Get to Know Them Online

Once you meet someone online there is no big rush to meet them the next day. You are allowed to take time to be able to converse with them through the chat, IM, email, and through the phone, in fact it is suggested.

One thing you do not want to do is meet an internet date after internet date and be disappointed. There are always things you can find out by simply getting to know the person that you are talking to, that can indicate they are not the one. You can also save yourself alot of headache by finding out about the person your talking to before hand. This way you can figure out if it is even worth trying to meet them in person.

5. Just Stay Calm

Even though you may want to be in a relationship now, you have to stay calm and remain objective. If you are too pushy when you go online, you are bound to link up with someone who just wants sex or is not interested in anything serious.  Or you  may also run into a good catch, but your neediness may run them away. So just relax.

Online dating can be fun and rewarding, it can also be a complete and utter nightmare. And being a single mother you have to take additional precautions.  You have to be the determining factor to see which one you chose. By following the above tips you can make your online dating experience a positive and safe one.

5 Ways Dating Single Moms Can Keep Themselves Safe Online

1 Comment

  1. Great tips! I would like to point out the 4th. In my experience it pays off to take your time and just talk to the guy. On the platform you met, that is. Not on messenger, whatsapp, or gtalk. I was always wondering, why men as soon as I say hello invite me to some other platform. No, I won’t give you all data right away, talk to me right here, right now! What happens is most of them impatiently ditched me. Wonderful! I wanted to be with someone who’s respectful, friendly and not pushy anyway. So, tip no. 4 is actually a test for potential daters and usually they fall on the exam. Don’t be sad, though, you don’t want them anyway.

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