5 Ways To Tell That He Is Just Not Into You

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As women, we have a tendency to ignore all of the signs that a man does not want to be in a relationship with us. We make excuses for them and try to talk ourselves into thinking that a man really wants us when they don’t.  If you are wondering if a man is into to you, you have come to the right place.  Here are my top signs, that he is not feeling you.  

He says it

I know that this may seem like common sense. But plenty of men will tell women

  • I only see you as a friend
  • I do not want a girlfriend
  • I do not want to get married
  • I do not want to be in a relationship right now
  • I do not love you

Instead of women seeing this for what it is, that he is telling you the truth, the woman wants to tell herself that she can change their mind. And really most of the time you cannot change their mind.  And the bigger picture is why would you want to.  If someone does not want you and is telling you that they do not want you, then why are you trying to talk them into wanting you.  It is something to think about.

You have never met his family, friends, or anyone that is close to him

If you just started dating then yes you may not meet these people right away. But if you have been dating for a while and you have never meant anyone in his inner circle. There is a reason for this.  The reason is that he does not want to introduce you to anyone because he does not plan on keeping your around. When you are gone he does not want his family and friends asking about you and missing you.  So it is just best not to even let them meet you.

He does not initiate contact first

If you are always the one calling him, texting him, or instant messaging him first. I recommend you stop.  It is likely that you are the driving force in this relationship. I can almost guarantee you that if you stop contacting him then he will stop contacting you.  If they are not showing interest in you in some way and you are forcing their hand and trying to make them talk to you, then take it as a sign that he does not want to talk to you.

He often breaks dates on does not keep his word

If are with someone that never keeps dates with you is always telling you that they are going to do something but they do not follow through, then that means you are not important enough to them for you to follow up with. They probably only makes plans with you in case their other plans fall through.

He never takes you on a date, only invites you to his house only, or only sees you at night.

How can I put this to you in a gentle way? If the above things are the ONLY reason why he is contacting you then you may just be a booty call. If you and him have never seen the light of day together, that is a big indication that something is wrong.

Now that you know what signs to look for. You may be wondering what you can do about. Well, it is simple.  Just ask him if he is serious about you.  If he says yes, then tell him that things needs to change.  Do not let a man be fancy with his words.  He could say yes and still treat you like a stepchild.  In which case you should cut him off.  If he says no.  Then really you have your answer and you know what to do.

About Sophia Reed (318 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at sophiareed@sophie-sticatedmom.com

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