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Single Woman Challenge Day 1. Behaving Like A Queen Will Get You A King

I came across a fabulous blog post on the website Barn Princess in which she has a 30 day challenge for the single Christian woman.  I was so impressed by it that I figure why not join in on the fun for the month of May.  If you would like to see the post then you can click here.

Today (Day 1) challenge is  

Day 1: Life Verse

Find a Bible verse that speaks to you and make it your life verse. Focus on having it memorized by then end of the 30 days. Post it where you can see it every day. Journal about it. Be creative with it. Why did you choose that verse? What does it mean to you? How does it give you strength? Or how does it give you direction?

The Bible verse that I enjoy the most is:

When the turn came for Esther the daughter of Abihail the uncle of Mordecai, who had taken her as his own daughter, to go in to the king, she asked for nothing except what Hegai the king’s eunuch, who had charge of the women, advised. Now Eesther-4sther was winning favor in the eyes of all who saw her. Esther 2:15

I particularly love the end of the verse how Esther won favor in all of those who saw her.  If you read the Bible then we know Esther was an orphan who became queen.  A true Cinderella story indeed.  But I can recall as I read, the end of this verse how Esther won favor in all those who saw her, pulled out a different meaning for me.

There was a lot of virgins who were gathered to possibly be queen and it was a long shot that Esther would be chosen.  But the thing that set her apart was that people like her.  Everyone who encountered Esther loved her because she was a good woman.  Esther was not fake, backstabbing, conniving, rude, or cold hearted.  She was a women who people loved to be around and for that the king chose her.

The book of Esther is such a short book.  I think we all imagine that Esther chose some items came into the king’s chamber, they slept together, and he chose her to be queen.  But I like to think that it was more than that.  Since when can sex win over a man?  Who is to say that the king had not heard of Esther before he even met her?  She won favor of everyone around her included ling Hegai the one who was in charge of all the virgins.

While Esther was walking around being herself impressing everyone.  I am sure there was talk around the castle about who this woman was.  What a great woman she was, and how she would be great for the king.  Even Hegai who had been living in the palace and knew the king, advised Esther on what to take with her as she would spend the night with the king.

This brings me to the important point of why I love this verse so much.  If you are so busy being a good person then you never know who you may meet along the way.  And you never know who will help you along the way.  You do not have to pretend to be someone else or be the stereotypical evil back stabbing woman to get ahead.  Just be you, and through being you will allow you to go to places that you never thought possible.

When you show people your true self, people are willing to help you just as Hegai helped Esther.  People will fall in love you with and sing your praises to others, just as I am sure it happened in Esther’s case.  And who knows, just like Esther you King may catch wind of you and want to get to know you, because of the wonderful things that he has heard about you.

You reputation should precede you, but in a good way.  Can you imagine how this story could have been different if Esther was a cold hearted hateful human being?  The king would not have been attracted to her, he just got rid of a defiant queen (Vashti) so why would he want another woman that is going to cause him problems.

The key point of this verse, is that you never know who is watching you.  You never know if those people who are watching you will tell other people good things about you or tell other people how crazy you are. And other people’s opinion of you could bring you a king, a promotion, a job, an opportunity OR it can have the adverse effects and make you lose out on all of the above.  Food for thought.

 

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About Sophia Reed (295 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at sophiareedsbook@gmail.com

38 Comments on Single Woman Challenge Day 1. Behaving Like A Queen Will Get You A King

  1. dustinsmall // May 2, 2016 at 5:59 pm // Reply

    As a single guy myself – I can vouch that this is great advice! Just be yourself, and the right guy will come into your life eventually!

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  2. bitchybutbubbly // May 2, 2016 at 9:36 pm // Reply

    The story of Esther has always been my favorite. Act like a queen despite your circumstances, and you are a queen!

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  3. Although I am married, I still love the challenge of using a “Life verse”. Great idea!

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  4. This is awesome, and oh-so true! Esther is one of my favorite characters in the bible. Love!!!

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  5. Love using the story of Esther and Purim.

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  6. I was just reading Esther again on Sunday. More women should try to be like Esther or Ruth.

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  7. “If you are so busy being a good person then you never know who you may meet along the way. And you never know who will help you along the way. You do not have to pretend to be someone else or be the stereotypical evil back stabbing woman to get ahead.” You really don’t. Thank you for this post!

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  8. Oh, so many women should be reading this!!! Love Esther and your relevant connections for every woman! Would you consider sharing on my new Fresh Market Friday link-up?

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  9. We can learn so much from Esther. You’re right, you never know who is watching! But it’s likely that someone is! Our actions can be a beautiful testimony. And while you shouldn’t act a certain way to gain favor with mankind, trying to be a biblical woman and gaining favor with God will have the same outcome! My life verse is Micah 6:8. Definitely a daily challenge! Blessings on your week, Sophia!

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  10. Hi Sophia 🙂
    Enjoyed your post! This is such an inspirational post for ALL women 🙂 Thanks for sharing 🙂

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  11. This is really great advice you should coach females everywhere http://sheismelrose.net/

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  12. So true: “Just be you, and through being you will allow you to go to places that you never thought possible.” This is advice we all need to remember and follow. Thanks for sharing, Sophia.

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  13. Karlene Arthur (whileiponder.com) // May 6, 2016 at 4:24 pm // Reply

    Lovely thoughts! I love the Esther passage and lesson. Visiting from #Grace& Truth today.

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  14. It is wonderful to see woman seeking their true selves through scripture and from the Author of Life. Thank you for visiting and sharing with us at Sitting Among Friends.

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  15. what a wonderful post! And it is so true – if you are true to yourself and who God created you to be, He will make sure that the right people take notice, and you will be praised and rewarded for your actions. Thanks for reminding us of this truth!

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  16. Admittedly my knowledge of the bible is so sad. I am a Christian and have a deep faith so posts like this really help me ‘get it’ even more. Thank you for this awesome story!

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  17. What a beautiful post! So inspirational. Thank you for sharing 🙂

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  18. Ooh, this looks like a fun and great challenge to try.
    Hmmm…I might do this. It’s inspiring. 🙂

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  19. This is encouraging,especially the fact that the king looked at the inner beauty,to work on our character and not just beauty and make-ups.

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  20. Nice! Sophia, Just be yourself, and the right guy will come into your life eventually!

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  21. There is so much truth to this that I almost started clapping when I was done!

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  22. I’m newly single and love this lesson! Thank you 🙂

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  23. I need to look at the book of Esther again! I love studying women of the Bible!

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  24. Such a refreshing post! 🙂

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