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Do you keep asking yourself why is God keeping me single? I remember I used to ask God the same thing and that is when God decided to answer me and the answer was a hard dose of reality and it was not pretty. Because the answer was not about OTHER people, the answer was that God was keeping me single because there were some things that I needed to improve in myself.
I think that we can get so consumed on why God is not giving us a relationship this becomes our entire focus. In my case, there were some things OR A LOT of things that God wanted me to heal from before he brought me a relationship.
I remember I used to sit in the one spot in my home and just whine, complain, and pray so hard about God not giving me a man. BUT that is the flaw, in the sense that if I was obsessed about a relationship THAT much then that was an issue that means that it had become an idol. And so single women I am going to tell you as God told me, why He is keeping you single and what you can do about it. Also, check out my video down below on what you can do while you are single.
1. Why is God keeping me single ~ because you have a purpose.
If you are wondering why God is keeping me single you need to undertand something about relationships. Relationships are fulfilling don’t get me wrong but I do not think that God went through all the trouble of forming you in your mother’s womb (Jeremiah 1:5) just so that you can be a girlfriend, wife, or attached to a man? I think that God gave you, your unique talents and purpose that He wants you to do in this life independent of anyone else and that when you do that the man will naturally come.
Why is God Keeping Me Single Bible Verse: For we [believers will be called to account and] must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may be repaid for what has been done in the body, whether good or bad [that is, each will be held responsible for his actions, purposes, goals, motives” the use or misuse of his time, opportunities and abilities]. 2 Corinthians 5:10 (AMP)
When you are single what I want you to reflect on is how you are spending your time, what things are God presenting in front of you that you are not taking advantage of, perhaps because you are so focused on a man. One of the things that God told me on why He was keeping me single was that I had a purpose and perhaps that when I started to go about that purpose then I would meet the man along the way.
But the refusal to move up was going to keep me stuck. Because the fact is that when I listened to God He was right. I do not date the same type of man and I know what man would be equally yoked with me. That was only possible when I found out what in the world I was supposed to be doing with my life and not focusing on the man that was not in my life.
Also, be sure to check out my video on why you should chase purpose and not a man where I go into more detail about this. And subscribe to my channel by clicking here.
2. Why Is God Keeping Me Single ~ God is keeping you single because relationships are your idol
The second reason on why is God keeping me single may be because of idolatry, let me explain. I know we know about the whole 10 commandants and even works of the flesh about having idols. Most people associate this with having other Gods BUT NO. It is anything that you want or desire more than God.
Why is God Keeping Me Single Bible Verse: So put to death and deprive of power the evil longings of your earthly body [with its sensual, self-centered instincts] immorality, impurity, sinful passion, evil desire, and greed, which is [a kind of] idolatry [because it replaces your devotion to God]. Colossians 3:5 (AMP)
So perhaps all of the energy that you have put thinking about a relationship or even wanting a relationship should be put back in God. Relationships are not evil BUT when you long for them so much that it is all you think about and all you want then that is an idol because an idol replaces your devotion to God. And God is a jealous God, God is jealous for you and He is NEVER going to give you something that will take your focus off of him. Ideally, a relationship drives you closer to God not away from or replace.
Why is God Keeping Me Single Bible Verse:: I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy because I have promised you to one husband, to present you as a pure virgin to Christ. 2 Corinthians 11:2 (AMP)
Also check out my video down below for are you trying to replace God with men.
3. Why is God keeping me single ~ perhaps it is because you need to heal
We all have baggage that is just a fact of life, having baggage is not the issue but having baggage and not being aware of it and not dealing with it is the issue. If you have low self-esteem, then you will attract men that will take advantage of that. If you are needy or have daddy issues then you will attract toxic and emotionally abusive men.
And if by chance, you do get a good man even with all of your issues, it will be hard for you to have a healthy relationship because your baggage will be crowding up the entire relationship because it is not dealt with. And either he will leave or the relationship would just be unbearable. No one wants to take on all the responsibility of your undealt with baggage
No one is perfect. We all have baggage even I have baggage BUT I have learned to deal with it. It is a very sad day when I see women who have baggage and they do not even know it. They swear up and down that they are ready to be in a relationship but they got all of these problems and God knows that if he were to join you with the other person that your issues will just transfer over to them and that is not fair. Which brings me to my next point.
4. Why Is God Keeping Me Single ~ God is keeping you single because you are toxic
I am a woman and I have encountered other toxic women so I can only imagine how some of these men feel when dealing with some of you. Some of them whine, complain, and yell way too much. And make a mountain over a molehill, every little thing is an issue. For the Bible clearly states:
Why Is God Keeping Me Single Bible Verse: A constant dripping on a day of steady rain, and a contentious (quarrelsome) woman are alike; whoever attempts to restrain her [criticism] might as well try to stop the wind, and grasps oil with his right hand. Proverbs 27:15-20
Meaning that some of your mouths are wreckless, some of you are doing way too much and do not know how to talk to people. When you read the Proverbs 31 woman which I recommend all of you do it says this:
Why is God Keeping Me Single Bible Verse: The heart of her husband trusts in her [with secure confidence], and he will have no lack of gain. She comforts, encourages, and does him only good and not evil. All the days of her life. Proverbs 31: 11-12
That means you have to ask yourself who you are in a relationship. Can a man trust you? Are you out with other men flirting? Are you encouraging or are you just yelling all the time telling him that you are going to leave if you don’t get what you want? If you are toxic energy when you are in a relationship then you need to figure out a way to heal from that as no man wants to be infected with it. A great place to start would be to check out my video down below.
5. Why Is God Keeping Me Single, It is because you don’t know what love is.
I was a big offender of this. For some reason, women think that it is our purpose to be the ride or die chick even to men who refuse to men. And we somehow feel that this is the true essence of love when that is simply NOT true. When you read the following Bible verse:
Why is God Keeping Me Single Bible Verse: Love endures with patience and serenity, love is kind and thoughtful, and is not jealous or envious; love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant. It is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not provoked [nor overly sensitive and easily angered]; it does not take into account a wrong endured. It does not rejoice at injustice, but rejoices with the truth [when right and truth prevail].
Love bears all things [regardless of what comes], believes all things [looking for the best in each one], hopes all things [remaining steadfast during difficult times], endures all things [without weakening]. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Although no one is perfect and perhaps we can never find this true form of love we should at least try to both be and find someone that is like this. I talk about my emotionally abusive relationship with my son’s father and it was everything that was the opposite of this.
So if you keep getting yourself into the wrong type of relationship then God is not going to keep allowing you to hurt your self. Your singleness is to protect you until you can recognize real love and accept that this is God’s will for you and not some jacked-up version of it. Also, check out my video below.
6. Why Is God Keeping Me Single ~ God is keeping you single because you have nothing to offer.
Leave it to me to keep it real with you. Some of you women have nothing to offer and have the nerve to want the BEST possible man. The fact of the matter is that when God created Eve he created her to be a companion to the man.
But for Adam there was not found a helper [that was] suitable (a companion) for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and while he slept, He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. And the rib which the Lord God had taken from the man He made (fashioned, formed) into a woman, and He brought her and presented her to the man. Genesis 2:4-3:24 (AMP)
Relationships are not just about sex, it is not just about a man giving you money, in fact, relationships are NOT all about you. You have to bring something to a relationship. No one wants to feel used and no one wants to feel like they are getting into a relationship with someone that has nothing to offer. In the book Played or Be Played (which you can click here to buy but fair warning it has some profanity in it.
He rates women A to F and the F woman are the desperate women that have nothing to offer. The A women are the attractive women that have their life together and have everything to offer which is why they have their choice of men. See my video down below where I talk more about the classes of women.
I know some of these tips are not ones that you want to hear but if you are asking yourself why is God keeping me single then you know that the only person you can change is you. It can be some of these reasons or it can be none of this BUT it is best to always continue working on yourself so that you can both attract and be the ideal partner.
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Hey,I was los and confused my child is 3 months I felt like I couldn’t handle the pressure and responsibilities because the father is out the enjoying his life but after your tips I realise that I have a purpose in life, the only thing I have to do is to let God interven. Thank you so much
Why would God destroy our love life to begin with? Especially when there are many of us single good men out there that were hoping to meet the right good woman, and get married and have a family.
But why would being single means that God is destroying your life? Jesus was single, John the Baptist, and Jeremiah was single. Just like the Bible verse says: And don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life. 1 Corinthians 7:17
But there are a lot of us good men out there that really wanted to get married and have a family. Why should we be single and alone all the time? I know other friends that are single and really hate to be as well. Women today are really to blame since today many women now are very high maintenance, independent, and don’t need us men anymore, very greedy, selfish, spoiled, picky, narcissists, gold diggers, very money hungry as well. It is these type of women that will only want the very best of all, and will never ever settle for less. Now if God had created women just like the old days, then many of us single men definitely would’ve met a real good woman to settle down with. Women today are totally the opposite from the old days which meeting women back then really wasn’t hard at all,and now they have their very high unrealistic expectations and standards that they never had back in the past. Quite a real change in the women today from the old days, and with so many women now that have their careers making a six figure salary which makes it very difficult for many of us men trying to find love these days unfortunately.
I am sorry you feel that way. This may be an experience that you personally have experienced but of course, not all women are the same. And as I always say we cannot change or blame other people but we can only control ourselves. And if there is a certain type of woman you are prone to attracting then perhaps that is a self-reflection that you need to do. Women should not be punished for wanting to have a career or to want to make money on their own. God placed each person here to live in their purpose and God blesses us all in various ways. So do not discount someone else’s blessing because it makes you feel uncomfortable. And if it makes you feel a certain type of way once again perhaps that is an internal issue that you need to work on because with all due respect you seem to be blaming the world and external factors which you cannot change.
And believe it or not which i am really telling the truth, and there will be times when women will Curse at us men for no reason at all when we will just say good morning or hello to them. Doesn’t make any sense at all why most women are like this these days, especially when there are many of us good single men very seriously looking to meet a good woman to have a relationship with. So unfortunately it is these type of very mentally ill women out there that are making it very difficult for us men that really do want to find love. Women in the past were never like these women are today at all, well at least most of the women back then were certainly real ladies and very easy to meet. Many of us men would’ve been married already with our own families, had we been born in the old days when most women were very wonderful to meet. It is a real shame that God didn’t create women like he did in the old days, which is why our family members were very lucky and blessed to be born at a much better time than us men today. That is why it was very easy for our family members finding love with one another at that time,when most women were the very complete opposite of today. A lot of us men unfortunately were just born in the wrong Era. Peace.
Could it just be that he wants us to suffer? I don’t really have a real answer why .
If God really had created women today just like the old days, then many of us single men would had met the right good woman with no problem at all either. Imagine having women Cursing at many of us men for no reason, since a great deal of women are really like this today unfortunately. I know friends that had women Curse at them as well, which really doesn’t make any sense for them to act this way. These type of women were most likely very abused by the men that they were with at one time, and now they want to take it out on many of us good single men looking for love today. That is why most women back in the old days were the very best of all, and real ladies as well. What in the world happened to these women nowadays? And now that Feminism is everywhere today which really makes it much worse for many of us men too. Even God did say that man should not be alone, so much for that.
Thank you
@Paul… I read, ”It is a real shame that God didn’t create women like he did in the old days”. Please consider how that comes across. God is perfect and doesn’t make errors. He created mankind to have free will and we are accountable for decisions. God is our Father. Parents don’t give children what they want for any number of reasons. It isn’t the right time, that person isn’t prepared, they aren’t mature enough, they aren’t being obedient, etc… It’s best to focus on God’s will and understand He knows what’s best for you.
Women shouldn’t really Curse at us which isn’t right at all, when we will just say good morning or hello to them since there are many of us good single men that really do want a relationship. Well thank you very much for your support.
Go pray.
Women today unfortunately are nothing at all like the past when love really did come real easy in those days.
I don’t think you understand what the brother is saying and I completely agree with him. First, God created man and woman to be together (one flesh) So the brother is right on that accord. That is, men and women should be seeking each other. What the brother is saying is, women are seeking an unreal expectation and on the other hand have developed an attitude that they don’t have to work or that a relationship should be maintenance free. This isn’t the mans fault, its the woman’s. It just so happens that women are now no longer constrained by the things that made having a partner advantageous. Now, the world has changed….women don’t need a man.But this attitude is un-Godly. Again, God created man and woman to be together. Women need to check themselves and realize how they’ve been influenced by the spirit of Jezebel. The spirit of restlessness, vanity, and lust of the eyes. God did not sanction you to be an “independent woman”, yet this is the prevailing attitude among women these days. Women need to understand, relationships take work from both sides and the perfect man doesn’t exist. And for all intents and purposes, I believe its better to struggle together then be happy alone.Im almost sure thats completely opposite of what most women believe. But again, I believe women think this way because they feel they don’t need to put work into relationships. Thats not right.
L Williams, well i certainly agree with you 100 percent. Women today have really changed from the past unfortunately, and they have no manners and personality at all these days as well. A very bad attitude problem that most women really do have today, and they really aren’t nice to meet at all now. Most women today are very high maintenance, independent, since they really don’t need a man anymore, narcissists, since they really think they’re all that, very spoiled, selfish, greedy, picky, gold diggers, and usually they will sleep around with much older men for money as well. And i can certainly add much more to that list as well which i will just stop right there, especially the women that have their careers nowadays making a six figure salary which they’re the worse ones of all. Most women back in the old days were never like these women are today at all, and that is why finding love back then came very easy for the men in those days just like our family members had it back then. Quite a very big change in the women today unfortunately, and these are the very excellent reasons that i had just made in my comment why so many of us men are still single today. If only women were just like the old days when love was definitely very easy to find back then, and many of us men would have easily been married with our own good wife and family today that we still don’t have now as i speak unfortunately. Even God said that man should not be alone which i totally agree. God unfortunately made too many very pathetic women these days which most of them are real feminists as well.
Woa its interesting to read what Paul, and William are saying. I can sense pain and bad experiences. My dear brothers these experience don’t define every career or woman out here who is financially independent. The world has changed and women are not depending on men financially as they did in the past. But the place of a man has head has not change. A woman who makes Six figure still need a man as leader but this man has to be equipped ( mentally and emotionally etc) to lead her. He does not have to make six figure but he will need to understand how to manage finance. So I will advice that instead wishing for an old time woman, learn how to be a leader to this strong women. You will be surprised how improvimg your knowledge will attract all kinds of women.
Maybe your definition and my definition or understanding of “man as head” are different. I define my role as head by what christ said over what Paul says. Paul expounded on ideas but often was speaking to specific groups of people. Theres some good stuff in Paul’s letters but Christ is the authority. Christ defined the head as he who “washes feet”. Although this is figurative, what was it that Christ was telling us to do as “heads”? Feet are that which we use to travel, Our feet always are in contact with the earth. Althoguh our minds are able to transcend the tangible world, it is our feet that are always faced the reality of the contact between us and the earthly. Thus, our feet are always getting dirty, our feet are subject to the pressures of holding us up and the pressures of what it must transverse on a day to day basis. Thus, as head, I am tasked with washing my partners feet of the “dust of life” that inevitably falls there. I am also to ease the stress there produced by the friction of her endeavors and the realities of life she transverses. I am there to help clean and ease that point of which she interacts with life. I think many of us men are transfixed on meeting women at the point of their intellect, communication, sexuality and aspirations as opposed to focusing on her feet ie the part of her that suffers the most pressure
indignity, dirt from the “earthly” things of life. You are right, I have been hurt. But not from or because of a woman, but rather because of my misunderstandings about my responsibility and misunderstanding of where my true source of strength comes from. Yes, man is head over woman, and Christ is head over man, in other words, as Christ serves man, man in turn is to serve woman and woman as the supreme teacher of the new generations of humanity are to serve the children. Christ does his job, and women do their jobs superbly. Unfortunately, often it is us men who are not pulling our weight. And even more so, it is our Church leaders (Pastors) who are failing to educate our men. Washing feet is a dirty business, and too many of our Pastors are too clean (and don’t want to get dirty).
Paul and L. Williams, I read both of your comments and I feel for men who feel like this. It sounds like you both want to find a woman to settle down with, but just struggling to find that women. I realize that some women are as you describe, and it is tiring after have dated many of them. I assure you though there are good women out there. As a young women who does have a faith in the lord, I have to tell you I have a hard time finding a man who has any faith anymore. As well being a young women, I feel that older men often feel entitled to women, because of their status. I would much prefer a younger man who has a faith in god, and hasn’t been chasing women in their twenties for two to three decades. Men and women after have realistic expectations. None of us are owed anything in life. So be yourself and I am sure that if you put yourself out their you will find someone.
Thank you for such a positive and constructive comment.
If women though had been like the past, many of us men already would had very easily been settled down with no problem. Because finding real love back then really did come very easy at that time. Sure it was, most women were very different compared to the very awful ones that are everywhere now unfortunately. It is the women of today that have really changed today, thanks to Feminism.
Women used to be abused by men we were slaves back then they made us feel worthless we had to stay home cook and clean while men work and go out with friends and party and do whatever they wanted. you men had freedom and we didn’t it’s hard finding a mani just want a man that can make me feel confident and show me love and compassion and same for him but man these days have so much lost in their eyes and they manipulate us and make us have low self esteem I’m only 16 but I just fear of being single forever that’s all😔
Not all of us men are bad at all by the way, and there are many of us good single ones looking for a relationship with the right good woman. And unfortunately they’re all gone, or taken already.
I agree not all men are bad.
To Kala, You really are too young to worry about being single forever. And you will eventually meet a nice guy someday. It is many of us much older men and women that have it very hard finding love today unfortunately, especially that many of us are a good forty to fifty years older than you right now.
I love this article! It touches on something I suspected years ago and confirmed that I need to take inventory of myself to start. It pains me to say, I’ve been told several times that I’m too independent to be in a relationship. Unfortunately, it should have begun with that first man, my dad, as to who was the leader and provider of the family. But watching my mother do it all alone had a profound impact and I soon realized, I can only depend on myself. I agree that many women have soured the paradigm (just glance at Instagram) and I’m not blameless. It’s a bitter acceptance knowing from childhood until now that as a woman, I can only trust Christ and myself and the men charged with my care have failed, undeniably. But it’s possible and perhaps necessary to love people despite their flaws.
Adam was alone prior to being gifted Eve. Eve, however, didn’t live her life without a partner. I don’t think my sole purpose is to be a helpmate, but I do believe that operating in that role is another layer of purpose in my life. Sincerely, I believe that’s why women were created to begin with. I can learn to follow the right leader. I’m independent but that simply means a man won’t have to carry me. I have value and can bring much to the table. Why wouldn’t that be a desirable trait?
I agree. Thank you.
Most women many years ago were at one time the easiest ones to meet to have a very serious relationship with. What in the world happened today remains a real mystery. Very difficult time for many of us single guys trying to find love, and have a real love life today unfortunately. Oh Boy, have women changed today.
God does punish us in many different ways unfortunately. But why in the world would he mess with our love life? Many of us would really hate to be single and grow old all alone by ourselves. That would be very horrible, not being married with no wife and children for many of us single men. Life is very difficult as it is, and not being married with a family is even much worse on top of it all. A double whammy for many of us single men, that is for sure.
I am now widowed for the second time, and have had 2 successful yet challenging marriages. I discovered that the challenges in my 36 years of marriage were mostly attributed to my husband having asperges. Sometimes marriage is not for the fainthearted, and I found many times that I was asking the Lord to help me to love this man. It isn’t “I will stay with you only if all goes well.” Rather, in good times and bad Im committed to you.
Although Im along, I have some really good friends, some Christian and some non-believers.I don’t see myself marrying again, but I would say that God has a purpose for our lives, and Im now finding my purpose in supporting younger women who are struggling with this issue. I believe that as Christians, we need to trust God in all that we do and hope for. I wish the best for the guys that have contributed to these responses, and trust He will give you His peace.
I am now widowed for the second time, and have had 2 successful yet challenging marriages. I discovered that the challenges in my 36 years of marriage were mostly attributed to my husband having asperges. Sometimes marriage is not for the fainthearted, and I found many times that I was asking the Lord to help me to love this man. It isn’t “I will stay with you only if all goes well.” Rather, in good times and bad Im committed to you.
Although Im along, I have some really good friends, some Christian and some non-believers.I don’t see myself marrying again, but I would say that God has a purpose for our lives, and Im now finding my purpose in supporting younger women who are struggling with this issue. I believe that as Christians, we need to trust God in all that we do and hope for. I wish the best for the guys that have contributed to these responses, and trust He will give you His peace.
I had to ask the question, “What is it about myself that God wants to change.”? I prayed about it and love lifted me when nothing else could help. God has proven himself again. I trust and have complete faith in God even when I can’t see what the end result is. God can do anything but fail. God has to prepare me for the person he wants me to marry. He’s still working on me. I’m a work in progress under construction. When he’s through with me, I shall come forth as pure gold. When God joins us together, we will be soulmates. My faith is in God and His Holy Word.
So many people get married for the wrong reasons and soon after marriage, they get divorced. I don’t want this to happen to and my husband. I want us to live a happy, healthy, and prosperous life.
As a wife in waiting, I’m praying that my future husband is, above everything else, seeking Christ and His Kingdom FIRST in his life. I’m praying for his heart to desire to be in the Word daily and striving to live a life that pleases the Lord.
I pray that God will bless me with a husband that will lead our family together with Christ at the center, loving me the way that Christ loves the church and that he would be self-sacrificing for me and our family. I will be in prayer asking that God would reveal Himself to my future husband while he waits for me; that he would be reminded that God desires to bring him good and the desires of his heart. I’m praying that he would cling to God and allow Him to be his fulfillment.
I’m praying for my future husbands friends and community before we meet. I’m in prayer for the kind of people that he will surround himself with. I pray that they will be a good influence on him and like-minded, striving for Christ in their hearts and their relationships. Praying that he is plugged into a good church home and has a support system of friends he can turn to for encouragement or prayer. And who knows, those friends I pray for may become my friends someday.
I’m also praying that God would help us to flee from any situation that would cause temptation and that we would stay grounded in God’s truth for us as we save ourselves until we are married.
Being in prayer for knowledge for my future spouse is so important! I’m praying that he would be taking time to seek God in time alone with Him, as well as with other believers. My future husband can’t grow by just sitting around and being stagnant, so I’m praying that he would push himself to study God’s Word and trust in God’s grace in his life.
I’m praying for my future husbands health and physical safety; he would honor God with how he physically conducts himself and that God would protect him wherever he goes.
I’m praying for BOLDNESS for my future husband! Ultimately, our goal as Christ followers is to go out and tell others about the good news of the Gospel, so I pray that he is convicted to share his heart with others with confidence and clarity.
Prayer is SO KEY in strengthening and building up marriages; so I’m not waiting another day to start praying for him whose face I don’t yet know while I’m continuing to seek Christ and His will for my life.
It is just too very bad that many of us single men can’t go back in time when finding love in those days did come so very easy compared to today.
This doesn’t serve a purpose when GOD said it is not good for man to be alone. I can’t speak for everyone, but I’m tired of being alone. I’m tired of having a hunger spirt that wants to be a help mate, but there is no mate to help. I’m just tired. There is too many of us that wants a family and so much more. I see the evilness people are about obtain the most precious, loving and fulfilling and most honorable gift in life, that is to be married as man and woman. It hurts. I’m not going to lie it hurts, especially when you don’t have a chance on earth. It doesn’t matter if you cry, break down to your knees, scream and fight. If GOD says no, what can you do?
That is why God is very evil to many of us good innocent people for no reason at all, especially many of us that were really hoping to find love and be married with a family. Why should other men and women be that lucky to be married with a family, but not us?
I guess I’m number six I have nothing to offer I’m 60 years old now might as well call me home or better yet maybe I never should’ve been born
No please don’t say that. I am a firm believer that it is never too late and that there is a reason and a season for everything.
Corrie ten Boom died single.
God was able to use her better that way.
Emily, God is just very evil and rotten altogether. And it is certainly not our fault at all why many of us are still single today. Many of us single men feel the very same way as well. And i know other friends that are single too, and agree with me. This is God’s way of punishing many of us innocent good people for no reason at all, the way i look at it. Peace.
What about the way men have changed??? You can’t find a decent man now a day either, they are particularly impatient, rude, wanting to claim love but don’t even know you as a person. There conversations are mostly about sex or what the woman can do for you. Ask me out on a date, have long meaningful conversations with me, express your true feelings and don’t be afraid of showing me you care. Be a man and not a boy!!! God is the key to it all though without him we are without purpose. He’s told us to love ourselves and others, the key word is to LOVE. Most of us now a days don’t even know how to love ourselves, so how can we love someone else. Back in the day as alot of you have stated; we were taught as a child how to love and care for ourselves and other, but what have we been taught in this day and time with all electronics, social entertainment and half naked everybody(men and women) to look at. Everything is being sexualized and we need to get back to our root/foundation which is GOD. So stop blaming someone else for our pain and just release and let GOD heal us. We would be a better society if we did.
To Painful, First of all there are many of us good single men that are not what you described. And many of us would really know how to treat women very well, if given the chance. It is most women nowadays that have so many mental problems, and they just don’t have any respect for many of us men at all. They’re very rude and very troubled as i can see, and they really need to see a good shrink since they really think that most of us men are very bad. Well that isn’t the case since there are many of us good single men that are still available, and are very much hoping to meet a good woman to settle down with. Women are the ones that have really changed today from the past unfortunately, and the great majority of women today just have no good manners and no personality at all either when it comes to us men. They’re really the ones that just don’t know how to act when they’re around most of us men to begin with. If only God had created women like the old days when most women at that time were very old fashioned, and real ladies.