Family Life

I’m Pregnant Now What? How To Cope With An Unexpected Pregnancy

March 23, 2017 // 0 Comments

I’m pregnant, now what. There are many women out there who experience an unplanned pregnancy. I was one of those women, when I found myself pregnant with my son I didn’t know what to do or what to think. But my son turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me and I could not imagine my life without him.  You can read my blog here to hear my while story on how I found myself single and pregnant. I won’t go into full detail about my experience because you can read my blog above to find out about that. But when I say my son changed me that is not just something that I am [...]

I’m Raising My Son To Be The Type Of Man I Would Want To Marry

December 29, 2016 // 2 Comments

As a woman I have encountered some pretty bad men, relationships, and dates. As a single mother when I had my son I constantly hear that it takes a man to raise a man.  My son’s father is not in my son’s life.  And I do not think that it is a bad thing.  He is not a man himself, so to think of him trying to teach my son how to be a man will only make things worse. Not trying to throw shade, but it is a truth I have come to accept. As a woman or a should I say a single mother, I do feel like I can teach my son to be a man. Although I am not a man, I am a woman who knows how women want [...]

My Son Is Afraid of Me! Let Me Tell You Why All Children Should Be Fearful of Their Parents.

August 16, 2016 // 6 Comments

Now that I have your attention I will explain to you exactly what I mean. No I do not abuse my child and he does not shake at the sight of me.  In fact my son and I are very close.  But we are no so close that he will use profanity in front of me, disrespect me, or try to raise up on me.  Granted children are children and they are going to do stuff wrong.  But the fear that my son has for me helps minimize the wrongness that he does.  Because he knows that we he does wrong that there are going to be consequences. The easy way that I can explain healthy fear is in a Christian way. If you [...]

My Son Is the Future Inventor of The Iron Man Suit. A lesson In Believing and How The Impossible Can Be Made Possible.

June 28, 2016 // 10 Comments

If you ask my son what he wants to be when he grows up, he will say he wants to be the creator of the Iron Man suit. He has been saying this for as long as I can remember and my response has always been the same “Son you cannot make an Iron Man suit because that is impossible.” I said it so much to him, that my son just stopped telling me about his Iron Man suit aspirations. Then one day as I was sitting thinking about all the things I wanted to be and how people told me it was impossible, I started to feel bad.  I thought about how someone probably told the Wright brothers that they [...]

I gave my First Grader the Sex Talk and Why You Should Give Your Kids the Sex Talk Sooner Rather than Later

June 24, 2016 // 9 Comments

My son and I have a very close relationship. It is my perception that kids understand more than you think.  I was honest with my son about his father who for a lack of a better word is not a father (click here to read my blog on that). And I was honest to my son regarding the sex talk. As parents you may or may not be dreading the sex talk. The sex talk typically consist of Where do babies come from? What is sex? And if you have a little boy like I do. Why does my penis stand straight up when I am looking at the cheerleaders dance on TV? As a single mom who has a little boy I want to be as [...]

How To Deal With A Dead Beat Dad On Father’s Day. From A Single Mother’s Perspective

June 16, 2016 // 12 Comments

I am a single mother. Not just a single mother, but a single mother in which my son’s father was not ever a father to him (see my blog here on my single mom story).  So for my son and I, father’s day is really just another day. Of course we called male family members and wished them a happy father’s day. But as for my son spending time with his father that is something that he does not know.  And guess what?  That is okay.  There is no bitterness, anger, or any type of animosity coming from me about his father’s shortcomings.  I am a mother to my son and I cannot control what [...]

A Single Mother’s Struggle. Advice From A Successful Single Mom

June 2, 2016 // 16 Comments

I am a successful single mom, but Lord knows it has not always been that way.  Often times we hear about the single mother with the dead beat baby father who was once locked up and we make judgments on them. Most people think, “there goes another single mom, with a no good baby father who put the cart before the horse she. What a loser she must be.” What if I told you that I was one of those people who if they really knew my story, then people would probably see me as a typically “baby mama” in a jacked up situation.  When people see me as a single mother now, they [...]

Spending Time With Family and How To Make More Time To Do It

May 9, 2016 // 9 Comments

 Spending Time With Family and How To Make More Time To Do It Today is Day 8 of the Single Christian Woman’s Challenge If you want to look at th e whole month click here for the original post from the blog Barn Princess. Today’s Challenge is: Day 8: Make Time for Family Call your parents, your grandparents, your siblings. Volunteer to babysit. Support “their thing”: a blog, a business, an art project, a piano recital. Plan a family reunion. Host a family dinner.  I decided to focus this blog on spending time with family. As a single mother I know firsthand how hard it is to make [...]

What My Child Spending $1k Taught Me About Why God Punishes Us

April 11, 2016 // 4 Comments

If you ever wonder why God punishes us I have the perfect situation that will explain it to you.  The other week I discovered that my son spent over $1100 (in three weeks) by signing on to my Xbox account and buying games.  My son is 7 years old and very technology inclined.  While some would say he did it by accident.  I know better than that.  My son went to great lengths to cover up his lie.  After playing the games, he deleted them so I would not see them.  The two games that were still on the console he told me were free trial versions of the game when in fact there were full [...]

Being a Single Mom: How To Be Happy, But Not At The Expense of Your Children.

December 28, 2015 // 0 Comments

Being a single mom can be challenging. Especially since, as a single mother a common misconception is that we must have a man or father in our children’s lives in order for them to feel complete.  That we are some how desperate for a marriage or for a man to raise our children and would therefore accept anything to be in a relationships.  I wish I could sit here and tell you that it is a myth.  But being a single mom doesn’t mean abandon all responsibility as a parent to chase a relationships is all to common.  Although I do feel every child deserves a father, there are [...]