Being the confident woman does not mean that you are too independent for your own good, it does not make you a hater of all men, and it does not make you any less feminine.
Often times when women give off the confident woman persona, there are lies that are told to the confident woman as an attempt to dim her light. That is a technique used by insecure people who are not confident themselves. And because they are afraid to admit they are insecure they project their insecurities on the confident woman in an attempt to make the confident woman stoop down to their level.
But with a REAL confident woman not just a semi confident woman that is pretending to be THE confident woman. She knows there no one can come and knock her off of throne (see my blog on being the daughters of a king).
For these Reasons I Need to Tell What the Confident Woman is and What She is NOT.
This way you will be able to determine if you are truly a confident woman, are pretending to be a confident woman, or just lack any form of confidence all together.
The Confident Woman Likes Herself
You would not believe how many women there are wondering around out there who do not even like themselves. If you do not like you then how can you expect other people to like you? Often people who do not like who they are, latch on to other people’s personality and mimic them. But a confident woman knows that she was made unique (see my blog here) that there is no one to imitate but herself, she likes who she is as a person, and she does not want to change that. Even if you do not like who she is, she does not care because the only opinion that matters to her is her own. And as long as she likes herself, then that’s is all there is.
The Confident Woman Has High Self Esteem
No one is perfect and the confident woman knows that. The confident woman may look in the mirror and say “hey I could lose some weight.” But no matter if she thinks she needs to lose weight or not she still feels good about herself.
Everyone has things that they may wish they can improve or make better. But the confident woman does not allow these small things to just make her feel like crap about her appearance. She has high self-esteem regardless.
A confident woman will never be of a normal weight and says she needs to lose 20 pounds. That signifies a program such as an eating disorder. A confident woman will also not sit in the mirror everyday and pick herself apart naming all the things that are wrong with her.
A confident woman thinks she is beautiful regardless of the things she wants to improve about herself, if she wants to improve anything at all. And when she wants to change something about herself, she will do it because she wants to not because someone is telling her to.
The Confident Woman Does Not Care What You Think (Read my blog here)
And guess what she does not care in the least. In fact she may be a little flattered that all these people think so much of her to keep her name in their mouths.
A non-confident woman is a people pleaser and will try to change depending on what people say and about her or follow other people’s advice on what she should or should not do. A confident woman is an eagle (see my blog here) not a duck which is a bird that follows the flock. She does not need a flock and she does not need other people to validate her of what she is doing with her life.
The Confident Woman is Decisive
A confident woman knows what she wants and she knows how to make decisions. It is terrible when you see a woman and you ask her one simple question. “What do you want to eat, where do you want to go on a date, what do you want for your birthday, or what do you want out of life” and the woman does not know.
That signifies indecisiveness not a woman that is confident in her own ability and her own decision making. A confident woman knows how to make a decision. She knows how to make a decision based off what she wants and she knows how to make a decision about her own life without second guessing herself. The confident woman believe in herself so much that she values her own opinion more than she values other people’s.
The Confident Woman is Not A Doormat
I wrote about this is my what if versus the oh well blog. A confident woman does not sit and chase a man and allows herself to be disrespected in a relationship. Even if it means that she has to walk away and be single, she would rather do that then be in a bad relationship. A lot of women think it is confident to chase a man or to approach men. WRONG. All that says is that you are not confident enough to think that you can get the man to approach you (read my blog here on why you should not chase a man). The confident woman knows that she is worth approaching and that if a man cannot approach her then he must not be into her, he must not be worth it, or he must not want her bad enough. And even in these situations she does not sit and wonder what the reasoning is.
The confident woman knows that she brings something to the relationship and therefore does not sit around wondering why a man does not want her, why he chose another woman over her (see my blog here), or why he is not calling her. She simply does not care that much.
Now that you have seen some of the characteristic of the confident woman you have to determine where you fall. The most important thing you have to know about the confident woman and how to become her is how she feels about herself. The confident woman has to feel good about herself, believe that she is better, believes that she deserves the best, and be willing to work hard to get it. That is not arrogance that is called self-worth.