Whenever you are in a faith based relationship it is important to know how to grow spiritually with your boyfriend. Especially if you see your boyfriend becoming your future husband one day or even if you want to know if your boyfriend is capable of being your future husband.
If you are a Christian then you know that it is God’s desire for you to be with another believer (check out my blog here on being equally yoked).
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14
Which is why it is not only important to know how to grow spiritually with the person that you are dating but to also get to know if the person you are dating is even capable of growing spiritually with you. You cannot be source of light and your boyfriend be a source of darkness and then you wonder why the relationship is not going anywhere.
So before I get into how to grow spiritually with your boyfriend I also have to let you know that if your boyfriend does not want to grow spiritually with you then do not make him. You cannot make anyone do anything. Growing spiritually should be a desire in him as much as it is a desire in you and that the first key to being able to grow together.
5 Tips On How to Grow Spiritually With Your Boyfriend
How to grow spiritually with your boyfriend ~ Tip #1 Pray together
As an individual, prayer is the most powerful weapon that you have. And as a couple prayer is an even more powerful weapon.
“Again, I tell you truly that if two of you on the earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by My Father in heaven. For where two or three gather together in My name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18:19- 20
Does this mean that just because you pray with your boyfriend that you are going to get anything you ever wanted out of life? No. (Check out my blog on how to pray prayers that get answered). What is does mean is that when you do pray God will be there with you guiding your relationship and teaching what to pray for each other.
It will allow you to see what each other is praying for, learn how to pray for one another, and to pray for direction of the relationship; which in turn will help you grow spiritually.
How to grow spiritually with your boyfriend ~ #2 Bible Study
And by Bible study I mean a Bible study with just the two of you. Going to a group Bible study is great but remember the point is for you to get closer spiritually to your boyfriend. So it is good for you two to not only read the Bible together but also talk about what it means, what lesson you got out of it, and if you feel like any of the lessons learned can be applied to your relationship.
Check out my suggestions on great books for couple’s Bible study below:
How to grow spiritually with your boyfriend ~ #3 Celibacy
You had to know that I was going to go there. You can also check out my blog on the spiritual benefits of celibacy by clicking here. Many people think that sex brings you closer and it does in a way. It brings you closer physically but it can also blind you. Sex can make you overlook red flags and sex can make you focus only on sex and not getting to the know the person.
But the absence of sex can teach you to focus on what is really important and allow you to see the man for who the man really is. It will also teach you both to control your flesh and to have more discipline to doing the right thing. It also teaches you to listen to God and God’s will for you to not have sex outside of marriage. Choosing to obey God in your relationship will always bring you closer to God.
How to grow spiritually with your boyfriend ~ #4 Fasting
I wrote a whole blog on the benefits of fasting which you can click here to look at. Fasting is such a powerful weapon. That is why you can see it mentioned in the Bible time and time again as a way of getting closer to God. So if fasting on your own is a big way to get closer to God then imagine how much fasting together can get you closer to God.
How to grow spiritually with your boyfriend ~ #5 Go To Faith Based Counseling Together
Notice I did not just say go to counseling but you want it to be faith based. Getting counseling from your pastor or a Christian based counseling that you trust can be important because they can help give you personalized tips on how the two of you can grow spiritually based on your situation. There are many assessments out there as well as many faith based guided counseling sessions that will not only bring you closer together spiritually but will shed new light on things you need to work on as a couple.
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