I am a Christian, but I too sometimes wonder, “Why are Christians so mean?” and there have been times that I have been left feeling rejected by the church. It can be difficult when you want to further your Christian walk and go to church, but as soon as you step into the building then there are people who want to judge you based off what you wear, what you do, or who they think you are.
If you ask me “should the church judge?” I would say no. The Bible teaches us
Judge not, that ye be judged.
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” Matthew 7:1-3
Everyone has done wrong in their life or maybe even is doing wrong now.
Sin is is sin in the eyes of God and if you do not want to be judged for the sin that you commit then do not judge others based off the sin you think they have committed. (click to Tweet).
We can see an example of this when Jesus saved the woman accused of adultery. The “religious folks” thought she would be stoned to death, but Jesus saved her saying one of the more famous quotes in the Bible
“He without sin cast the first stone” John 8:7
And since everyone had sin they left and decided not to stone the women. Then Jesus said
“’Woman, where are your accusers? Has no one condemned you?’ ‘No one, Lord,’ she answered. ‘Neither do I condemn you,’ Jesus declared. ‘Now go and sin no more.’” John 8:11
If you are being judged by the church, I want you to remember these things.
You Go To Church For God and Not the People
Remember why you are going to church. Everyone had to start somewhere and if you are going to church and feeling judged remember you are going for God, to deepen your connection with God; you are not going for people. You have to put yourself in the mind frame that you do not care about what other people think (see blog here).
God is your Judge
God is your judge, but there are two parts to this. As you grow in your Christian walk, understand that God will convict you on the things you are doing wrong and with His grace, direction, and guidance you will start to change your ways. That is what being a Christian is all about. It is not okay to go and do crazy things over and over again that you know is wrong; and then plead the blood of Jesus. God is still your judge, but know that He may not judge you favorably if you are openly sinning in God’s face and calling it okay. He told the adulterous women “Go and sin no more.” That should always be your goal. And if you are the cause for most of the drama in the church, it is going to be hard for people not to judge you; because of what you are doing. So do not put yourself in that position to allow people to judge you in that way. If you know for a fact that you are working on the things that God has put on your heart. Then do not worry about what other people say, (see my blog here on how you have more important things to worry about) it is between you and God and He will be your judge in the end.
God in their Judge
I know what it is like to wonder why Christians are judging you and then you start to wonder why God does not punish them for it. At the end of the day, when God is going to punish them should not be your concern. For every wrong doing we commit against anyone, God is going to judge us in this life or the next. So if they are truly doing your wrong then their judgement is coming and they are going to have to answer to God. Pray for them (see my blog here on prayer).
Overcome Evil With Good 1 Peter 3:9
I know that it is hard to be nice to someone when they are not nice to you, but that is what God requires us to do. To love our enemies (See my blog here).
“And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full.” Luke 6:34
If you retaliate against those who judge you, then how is that helping other Christians? Anyone can repay evil for evil but it takes a bigger person to be Christian, and to turn the other cheek and be nice when they don’t want to. If other Christians do not know how to be Godly, then you lead by example and show them how to be Godly. Go above and beyond and do something nice for them and expect nothing in return. The fact of the matter is, that they may still hate you. But you are acting like God would want you to act and remember God is your judge and He will reward you for that; just like God is their judge and He will judge them based of their actions.
If you are still feeling judged by the Church you need to reflect on a few things.
Is this a test?
Sometimes God puts us in these situations so that He can test us and so that we can help other people. Do not try to escape the situation; lead by example and show them how true Christians are supposed to act.
You can leave
If all else, fails, and you still feel judged by the Church after you have attempted to be a good Christian you can leave and go somewhere where you are not judged. The whole point of going to church and being a Christians is to build your relationship with God. If the church is getting in the way of that and you are not being fed there, then go somewhere; where you are being fed.
Has anyone had this experience? I would love to hear it