Judgmental Christians are becoming all too common and are giving Christians a bad name. Some of these judgmental Christians seem to think that because they are Christian that they have authority to judge everyone. And this behavior is not Godly nor does it glorify God in any way shape on form.
I am a Christian, but I too sometimes wonder, “Why are Christians so mean?” and there have been times that I have been left feeling rejected by the church. It can be difficult when you want to further your Christian walk and go to church, but as soon as you step into the building then there are people who want to judge you based off what you wear, what you do, or who they think you are. But I quickly realized through my own personal relationship with God is that those judgmental Christians are just that judgmental. And the Bible teaches us
Judge not, that ye be judged.
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” Matthew 7:1-3
Everyone has done wrong in their life or maybe even is doing wrong now. And the harsher that they pass judgment on someone else the harsher judgment is going to be passed on them by God.
When Jesus saved the woman accused of adultery. The Jews at that time, thought she should be stoned to death, but Jesus saved her saying one of the more famous quotes in the Bible
“He without sin cast the first stone” John 8:7
And since everyone had sin they left and decided not to stone the women. Then Jesus said
“’Woman, where are your accusers? Has no one condemned you?’ ‘No one, Lord,’ she answered. ‘Neither do I condemn you,’ Jesus declared. ‘Now go and sin no more.’” John 8:11
If you face with judgmental Christians I want to offer up this advice to you.
Facing Judgmental Christians Tip #1 ~You Go To Church For God and Not the People
Remember why you are going to church. Everyone had to start somewhere and if you are going to church and feeling judged remember you are going for God, to deepen your connection with God; you are not going for people. You have to put yourself in the mind frame that you do not care about what other people think (see blog here).
Instead go to church and choose to glorify the Lord, let all those people know that you are there for God and not there for them. You can choose to be the bigger person and if they refuse to act Christian then you need to be the one to act Christian. Do not repay evil for evil, do not try to talk about them, and to do not try to judge them back. Just go to church and worship that is the whole point isn’t it.
Facing Judgmental Christians Tip #2 ~ God is your Judge
God is your judge, but there are two parts to this. As you grow in your Christian walk, understand that God will convict you on the things you are doing wrong and with His grace, direction, and guidance you will start to change your ways. That is what being a Christian is all about. It is not okay to go and do crazy things over and over again that you know is wrong; and then plead the blood of Jesus. God is still your judge, but know that He may not judge you favorably if you are openly sinning in God’s face and calling it okay.
He told the adulterous women “Go and sin no more.” That should always be your goal. And if you are the cause for most of the drama in the church, it is going to be hard for people not to judge you; because of what you are doing. So do not put yourself in that position to allow people to judge you in that way. If you know for a fact that you are working on the things that God has put on your heart. Then do not worry about what other people say, it is between you and God and He will be your judge in the end.
Facing Judgmental Christians Tip #3 ~ God is their Judge
I know what it is like to wonder why Christians are judging you and then you start to wonder why God does not punish them for it. At the end of the day, when God is going to punish them should not be your concern. For every wrong doing we commit against anyone, God is going to judge us in this life or the next. So if they are truly doing your wrong then their judgement is coming and they are going to have to answer to God. Instead pray for them, trust God to do His job, and do not try to get back at other people in the church by doing the same thing they did to you. Instead, pray for your enemies (see my blog here on prayer).
Facing Judgmental Christians Tip #4 ~”Overcome Evil With Good” 1 Peter 3:9
I know that it is hard to be nice to someone when they are not nice to you, but that is what God requires us to do. To love our enemies (See my blog here).
“And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full.” Luke 6:34
If you retaliate against those who judge you, then how is that helping other Christians? Anyone can repay evil for evil but it takes a bigger person to be Christian, and to turn the other cheek and be nice when they don’t want to. If other Christians do not know how to be Godly, then you lead by example and show them how to be Godly. Go above and beyond and do something nice for them and expect nothing in return. The fact of the matter is, that they may still hate you. But you are acting like God would want you to act and remember God is your judge and He will reward you for that; just like God is their judge and He will judge them based of their actions.
If you are still feeling judged by the Church you need to reflect on a few things.
Is this a test?
Sometimes God puts us in these situations so that He can test us and so that we can help other people. Do not try to escape the situation; lead by example and show them how true Christians are supposed to act.
Are They Trying To Help You Or Hurt You?
Before you get all up and arms and claim that you are facing judgmental Christians, sometimes people are not trying to judge you but they are trying to give you advice and are trying to help you. You need to be able to discern which one is which. Just because someone may say something that you do not like, does not mean that they are trying to talk about you or make you feel bad about yourself. Sometimes they really are coming from a good place and trying to help you in your Christian walk.
Is it You?
Oh yes, I am going to talk about it. Often times you may be the reason why you feel people are judging you. You may be doing all sort of evil and then when it comes back around to you, you want to blame other people and play victim. If you do not want people judging you then you cannot judge them. You cannot poke the bear and then when it attacks you, you pretend that you did nothing wrong. It takes a lot of self awareness to determine if you are the root of the problem.
Facing Judgmental Christians Last Resort ~ You can leave
If all else, fails, and you still feel judged by the Church after you have attempted to be a good Christian you can leave and go somewhere where you are not judged. The whole point of going to church and being a Christians is to build your relationship with God. If the church is getting in the way of that and you are not being fed there, then go somewhere; where you are being fed.
Has anyone had this experience? I would love to hear it