- Are you single?
- Are you a single and know that when you come home for Christmas everyone is going to ask when where you man is or when you are going to get married?
- Are you dreading going home for Christmas because you know that everyone is going to be coupled up, leaving you sitting there feeling awkward and lonely?
I know during the holidays it can be hard when you do not have anyone. I know that when the ball drops on News Years and everyone is kissing their boyfriends, it can be hard to watch when you are alone. So here are my top 5 tips on how to deal with being lonely for the holidays.
Remember the reason for the season.
Christmas is a Christian holiday. It marks when Jesus was born. You know Jesus, remember Him, the one who died for our sins. Christmas is about giving, spending time with family, and being happy. And as long as you have those things then who cares that you do not have a boyfriend. You have other things to celebrate.
There are worse things in the world.
Every time I start feeling bad for myself I turn on the news. I realize that there are people starving, there are people who are homeless, there are people who live in fear of being attacked every single day. Then I reflect on the fact that I am single and all of a sudden being single is not the worst thing in the world.
On the note of realizing that there are always people in need, you can always choose to volunteer for the holidays or give back. Go to a soup kitchen and feed the homeless buy a gifts for an underprivileged family. Do not choose to be depressed but choose to bring joy to someone else’s life.
Remember you are waiting for something better
Would you rather have any man with you on the holidays or a good man. I know people who flaunt their significant others around on the holidays but I know for a fact that their man is not worth the paper he prints his name on. He cheats on his woman, does not have a job, did not give her a Christmas present, or does not have any intentions of marrying her. That is when I quickly realize that when I bring a man home for the holidays I want him to be madly in love with me. I want him to be here for the present holidays and future holidays to come. I do not want someone who is just taking up space just so I can show my family and friends that I have a man for Christmas. Always remember it is not about having anyone, it is about having the one. And one day your time will come.
Do something for yourself.
Even if you do not have a man or even if you do not have a family, you can always be a party of one. I do this a lot when I used to have a job that required me to work some holidays. What is stopping you from setting up your own tree, decorating your house, or buying and wrapping your own presents and putting them under the tree. On New Year’s I have literally have bought snacks and wine, and sat and watch the count down in Time Square. And I was happy. Spending time with yourself can be a pleasurable thing. It gives you time to think and it gives you time to reflect. If you do not like spending time with yourself, then who else is going to want to spend time with you.
The holidays, does not have to be lonely just because you are single. It should always be a time a celebration. Focus on the being happy and celebrating and then the fact that you are single won’t matter so much.