Your 30’s and your 20’s are like night and day. The moment you hit 30, all of a sudden you realize that you have a low tolerance for stupidity. In my 20’s I did a lot of stupid things, with a lot of stupid people, and felt like it was okay. In my 30’s a light bulb goes off in my head and you want to quit all of the crazy and become a well-functioning adult. So here are my 5 things that I learned in my 20’s versus me versus 30’s.
Stop Given Men My Time That Did Not Deserve Time.
In my 20’s I dated whoever asked me out on a date. Sometimes I would be dating 2-4 men at a time. In a way this was good because I found out what I liked versus what I did not like. It was also bad because I was giving men my time that did not deserve my time, which was taking away from the real things I was supposed to be doing. In my 30’s I have a short attention span. I do not have the time or energy to date a whole bunch of people. Especially since I have come to a point in my life where I want to settle down and spreading myself thin or giving a lot of men my time is just not in the agenda any more. I rather date the right one then a whole bunch of wrong ones.
That I have a Destiny
I was never a slacker per se. I went to college and did the typically 20 year old thing. But I never really thought about what I wanted to do with my life and how I wanted to get there. I went to college, got a job, got an apartment, had a car; all the stuff I was supposed to do, but never really thought about what I wanted to do. In my 30’s I have a very clear picture about what I want to do and am willing to work hard to get it. There is a whole world out there for the taking, and I chose to believe that I can be and have anything I want with hard work and perseverance.
I have no idea who that 20 year old women who called herself by my named and resemble me was. She was a hot mess. I do not know who that woman was, I did not what she wanted, and that 20 year old girl did not know anything. She would allow other people to define who she was. Now I know who I am and I will not let anyone tell me different. Either you accept me for me or you don’t. I am not willing to change for anyone. And that is the beauty of both knowing and accepting yourself.
I Learned To Hold My Tounge
I used to be the girl that if you rubbed me the wrong way I would read you to filth. Some people think that this is a sign of strength. Saying what is on your mind all of the time no matter if people like it or not. Now I know how to hold my tongue and I have learned to have self-control. Self-control is the strength. Anyone can say whatever comes to their mind, it takes a stronger person to know when to speak and know when to be silent. It takes an even stronger person to know when to say some that build someone up versus saying something that pulls someone down. (Check out my blog on out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks)
I Learned To Accept Myself.
I am no longer 21, I am no longer a size 6, I can no longer long to go to the past and think about what I could have or should have done. All the decision that I made in the past are in the past and I have to live with them. I learned that I cannot go back, I have to live in the present and be the person that my past has made me to be. I can either learn from all the mistakes that I have made or I can live in the past and wish that I have never made them. No matter if I like it or not, everything that I have done, every decision that I have made; and shaped me into the person that I am today. And I have learned to accept that although I am not perfect I am a pretty awesome person. (Click here to read my blog on accepting yourself).
As I go through my 30’s I am sure that there is plenty of life lessons to be learned and more challenges I will have to face. If anything that my 20’s have taught me is that I have to live life, go through the process, and not be in a rush to get older. I will be 40 before I know it and I want to look back on my 30’s and say that I lived every moment to the fullest.