You can be both beautiful and smart. Sometimes I think that women are under the impression that they have to be either or. Which is why I was so excited to see the Miss USA pageant. Gone are the days of very superficial women who wish for world peace and talk about bunny rabbits when the answer questions. This time, for me, the pageant was not all about who was wearing a bathing suit or just the glitz and glam of it all, but the fact that it showed cased both beautiful and capable women.
In case you do not know the winner of the Miss USA pageant was Miss District of Columbia (Deshauna Barber). An Officer in the Army Reserves, both beautiful and smart. Now I will admit that I may be a little bias because I am in the DC area, I work with the military in my day job, and my mother is retired from the ARMY. So I do have a soft spot for military women.
What I felt that Miss DC (Deshuana Barber) showed was that women can be both beautiful and smart and capable of more than just sitting down and looking pretty. I think in age of social media, women tend to pose half naked all over the internet thinking that this is their way to fame. But who can blame them because bearing all on social media is what people respond to. But if we want to change the way that people look at women, then we must change the type of women that are presented before us.
We have to tell women you can be beautiful and smart and have beautiful and smart women portrayed in mainstream media. So that this is the beautiful and smart woman because the standard, not the exception. You can have a banging body and wear make up. You can be the dream woman on the outside as well as the inside. You do not have to do dumb yourself down and relay on your looks to be successful.
The best thing about being both beautiful and smart is that you can always have a plan and a unique set of skills you can draw from to push your further in life. I am sure that the woman who did not win Miss USA were disappointed. But at the end of the day they will go back to their extraordinary lives in which they have jobs, graduate degrees, are brand ambassadors, and provide advocacy. With women who are just a one trick pony, feeling like their good looks and big butts will carry them through life; their life is not about anything much.
Looks fade overtime and if all you are relying on is your looks, then you are limiting your success. Because you can only be beautiful for so long. Don’t you want something else going on for yourself? Don’t you want to stand in front of a crowd of people and say I am pretty, but let me tell you what else I can do?
Miss USA (formally Miss DC) answered one of her interview questions perfectly. To show you what else she can do.
“To me confidently beautiful means understanding it’s not always about your appearance. It’s not always about who you are around and how they feel you look, where they feel you come from or your economic background. Serving in the military has taught me that being confidently beautiful is about being able to earn respect from people regardless of what you look like. As a woman in the military, people associate beauty with weakness and they learn very quickly that I’m extremely strong, and though I’m small, I’m powerful. Confidently beautiful is being myself and being very happy with who I’ve become.”
What a powerful statement. Here is a beautiful woman who understands that it is not always about your appearance. I think the strongest women are the women that know they can be beautiful and smart and the strongest women are women that people underestimate her because of their outward appearance. That gives them an opportunity to go out and show you exactly how wonderful she is. That is real beauty. Not only it is real beauty but it is a testament of strength of what real women are made of.
Beauty comes from within. You can be as beautiful as you want to be. You can be a smart as you want to be. You can work hard and achieve things that go beyond your outward appearance. You do not have to pretend to be dumb just because you’re a woman. You can be beautiful and smart.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson
Do not be afraid to let your light shine. You were meant to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous; not just either or.