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Single Woman’s Challenge Day 30: Ways To Enjoy Life And Have Fun

Today is Single Christian Woman’s Challenge Day 29. The Last Day of the Challenge.  Click here to see all the challenges for the month. Today’s Challenge is Day 30: Have as much fun as possible!

I know what it is like to get so consumed with work, kids, and all the other hustle and bustle of everyday life that you do not stop and enjoy yourself. I know what it is like to want to have fun but you really do not know where to start. As a single woman and as a single mom, there are times that you can feel very isolated because you don’t have a man, especially when ALL of your friends and everyone you know is in a relationship. However, self-care is just as important as caring for other people.  You have to stop and smell the roses for your own sanity.  If you don’t thenCapture it is very possible that you will settle into the mindset of being depressed and miss out on a potentially awesome life.

Here are some tips on how you stop what you are doing and have fun.

Schedule Fun

You schedule your doctor’s appointment and just about everything in your life. So you have to schedule fun too. You have to make a cognitive effort to pick a day or a few days and focus on yourself. A quick way to do this is to simply look at your calendar and actually put (I will have fun on this day) on your calendar. I used to be one of those people who worked a lot.  All work and no play.  And then I realized something.  There was not use is working myself to death for a job that was going to be there when I returned.

I see so many people who have paid time off stacked up because they do not use it. If that is you, then shame on you.  Your job gives you paid time off so that you can take paid time off.  Do not feel guilty for using what belongs to you.  There are some thing that I do suggest before taking paid time off to make the transitional easier.

For example:

  • Catch up on all your work before taking vacation. That way when you get back you do not have more work to do than before you left.
  • Speak to your co-worker and have them cover your shifts or clients. When I worked in community mental health someone had to be available to the client in case they had a mental break down.  I spoke to my co-workers and gave my clients the number to my co-workers in case of an emergency.  That way I knew things would be handled while I was gone.
  • Along with scheduling your fun, you have to plan your fun. The internet is your friend.  The last thing you want to do is plan to have a fun day or you are going on vacation and you have no where you go once you get there.  And you are just sitting in your room looking crazy.  Before you go, look up places of interest, popular places, and the dress code so that when you get there you can get in.

Weekend Trip

Let’s say that you have a job in which you do not have paid time off or if you feel that your job cannot survive without you and you cannot take work off during the week. You can plan a weekend trip.  All you have to do is pack your bags and put in the truck Friday morning before you go to work.  Once you get off, go to the airport, take a train, or drive to wherever you want to go.  This way you can maximize your time by not having to run back home to get your things and you can go directly from work.piv

Your Own Back Yard

I understand that not everyone has the time, money, or energy to travel somewhere far. And really you do not have to.  Unless you live in complete and utter isolation, there is something that you can do that is not that far from you to have fun.  I live in Virginia within a 2 hour car drive there is Grey Wolf Lodge, Bush Gardens, Six Flags, and Kings Dominion.  Not to mention the numerous state parks that you can visit.  The point is that there is something near where you love.  Use the internet to search what those places are and take a day or weekend trip there.

Get Up and Go

I used to do this a lot in my younger 20’s. I would get up in the morning, get dressed.  And I mean get dressed very nicely, put on makeup, do my hair and leave the house in the morning and do not come back into the late in the evening.  When you do this, it makes you stay out and do something fun.  When you get dress, have it in your head that you are not coming back to late in the evening.  So wear something that is versatile that goes for both day and night.  When I did  this my days consisted of visiting friends, going to lunch at a restaurant, going to happy hour, going to the movies, and then sometimes going to a lounge.  All in one day.

I really want you to focus on dressing up and looking good. Because when you know that you look good then you feel good.  And you never know who you may run into (check my blog here on why it pays to look good) that way if you bump into someone you are interested in; you’re not looking a hot mess.

A Weekend Vacationb

You do not have to take an entire week. But really try to at least take four days.  If you really want to conserve your paid time off then take a Thursday and Friday off OR a Monday and Tuesday off.  If you do not work weekends, then you have two days for the weekend plus the two additional days that you took off leaving four days of vacation time; to actually go somewhere and do something. Try checking Groupon as there usually have amazing vacation deals for affordable prices.

Meet Up

I have spoken about Meet Up before, and I am saying it again. If you do not have any friends or not friends to go out with then Meetup is your friend.  It is a whole bunch of people, who have something in common meeting up at a place to do something together.  This way you are not alone and you have the chance of meeting new people.

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About Sophia Reed (295 Articles)
I am a single mother of one, Christian, and Lover of Life. I have a Master's degree in marriage and family therapy, I am a National Certified Counselor, and I am currently a PhD candidate in Human Behavior. I love motivating others and encouraging all women to be beautiful from the inside and out. To get in contact with me, you can email me at sophiareedsbook@gmail.com

14 Comments on Single Woman’s Challenge Day 30: Ways To Enjoy Life And Have Fun

  1. There’s so much truth in this post it’s ridiculous!!! You’re absolutely right, I can schedule a doctor/hair appointment like nobody’s business but fun is always put on the back burner. Thanks for the reminder, gotta start scheduling a little “fun ass time” for myself more often =]

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  2. Sometimes we do have to schedule fun when life gets so hectic.

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  3. Angie@chasingmyhalo // May 31, 2016 at 8:39 pm // Reply

    I like your get up and go tip! I should try that even though I’m not single anymore lol. It’s so true though, when you dress super on point the last thing you want to do is to sit on the couch all day…

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  4. theclutterboxblog // May 31, 2016 at 9:36 pm // Reply

    Your own back yard is a great tip!! In my old city I spent hours exploring! And I am looking forward to doing that in my new city!!

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  5. I couldn’t agree with you more about the benefits of going to Meetup events. Meetup saved my soul when I was single! Instead of spending all my time agonizing about being single, I was out and about having fun at Meetup events!

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  6. I will be planning a lot f weekend getaways or my son and I this year.

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  7. I’m not single, but even as a busy family we have to schedule time to just have fun sometimes! I love having something to look forward too!

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  8. I,too, live in Virginia where there is a ton to do at any given moment. In addition to all the museums, amusement parks, state parks, etc., there always seems to be a festival going on somewhere practically year round that make for great day trips.

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  9. this is so true, when at home lounging on our couch we are shooting ourselves on the foot, killing time. Even going out sitting at a cafe is an opportunity for fun. Maybe the definition of fun time is perpetually altered due to being stuck on our screens

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  10. Meetup is totally a great resource! When I moved to Phoenix I didn’t know anyone and found so many awesome groups to join. I wish I could take a vacation but I would come back to a total disaster at work. Lol!

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  11. ya i’m great at organizing, and then forget about fun things

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  12. I like your ideas. It’s nice being able to spend some time in your own backyard. Weekend trips are great too.

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  13. reinventingjess // June 2, 2016 at 3:58 am // Reply

    I’m not single, but I definitely need to take more time for myself! I could really use a girl’s trip!!!

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