Today is Single Christian Woman’s Challenge Day 29. The Last Day of the Challenge. Click here to see all the challenges for the month. Today’s Challenge is Day 30: Have as much fun as possible!
I know what it is like to get so consumed with work, kids, and all the other hustle and bustle of everyday life that you do not stop and enjoy yourself. I know what it is like to want to have fun but you really do not know where to start. As a single woman and as a single mom, there are times that you can feel very isolated because you don’t have a man, especially when ALL of your friends and everyone you know is in a relationship. However, self-care is just as important as caring for other people. You have to stop and smell the roses for your own sanity. If you don’t then it is very possible that you will settle into the mindset of being depressed and miss out on a potentially awesome life.
Here are some tips on how you stop what you are doing and have fun.
You schedule your doctor’s appointment and just about everything in your life. So you have to schedule fun too. You have to make a cognitive effort to pick a day or a few days and focus on yourself. A quick way to do this is to simply look at your calendar and actually put (I will have fun on this day) on your calendar. I used to be one of those people who worked a lot. All work and no play. And then I realized something. There was not use is working myself to death for a job that was going to be there when I returned.
I see so many people who have paid time off stacked up because they do not use it. If that is you, then shame on you. Your job gives you paid time off so that you can take paid time off. Do not feel guilty for using what belongs to you. There are some thing that I do suggest before taking paid time off to make the transitional easier.
- Catch up on all your work before taking vacation. That way when you get back you do not have more work to do than before you left.
- Speak to your co-worker and have them cover your shifts or clients. When I worked in community mental health someone had to be available to the client in case they had a mental break down. I spoke to my co-workers and gave my clients the number to my co-workers in case of an emergency. That way I knew things would be handled while I was gone.
- Along with scheduling your fun, you have to plan your fun. The internet is your friend. The last thing you want to do is plan to have a fun day or you are going on vacation and you have no where you go once you get there. And you are just sitting in your room looking crazy. Before you go, look up places of interest, popular places, and the dress code so that when you get there you can get in.
Let’s say that you have a job in which you do not have paid time off or if you feel that your job cannot survive without you and you cannot take work off during the week. You can plan a weekend trip. All you have to do is pack your bags and put in the truck Friday morning before you go to work. Once you get off, go to the airport, take a train, or drive to wherever you want to go. This way you can maximize your time by not having to run back home to get your things and you can go directly from work.
Your Own Back Yard
I understand that not everyone has the time, money, or energy to travel somewhere far. And really you do not have to. Unless you live in complete and utter isolation, there is something that you can do that is not that far from you to have fun. I live in Virginia within a 2 hour car drive there is Grey Wolf Lodge, Bush Gardens, Six Flags, and Kings Dominion. Not to mention the numerous state parks that you can visit. The point is that there is something near where you love. Use the internet to search what those places are and take a day or weekend trip there.
Get Up and Go
I used to do this a lot in my younger 20’s. I would get up in the morning, get dressed. And I mean get dressed very nicely, put on makeup, do my hair and leave the house in the morning and do not come back into the late in the evening. When you do this, it makes you stay out and do something fun. When you get dress, have it in your head that you are not coming back to late in the evening. So wear something that is versatile that goes for both day and night. When I did this my days consisted of visiting friends, going to lunch at a restaurant, going to happy hour, going to the movies, and then sometimes going to a lounge. All in one day.
I really want you to focus on dressing up and looking good. Because when you know that you look good then you feel good. And you never know who you may run into (check my blog here on why it pays to look good) that way if you bump into someone you are interested in; you’re not looking a hot mess.
A Weekend Vacation
You do not have to take an entire week. But really try to at least take four days. If you really want to conserve your paid time off then take a Thursday and Friday off OR a Monday and Tuesday off. If you do not work weekends, then you have two days for the weekend plus the two additional days that you took off leaving four days of vacation time; to actually go somewhere and do something. Try checking Groupon as there usually have amazing vacation deals for affordable prices.
I have spoken about Meet Up before, and I am saying it again. If you do not have any friends or not friends to go out with then Meetup is your friend. It is a whole bunch of people, who have something in common meeting up at a place to do something together. This way you are not alone and you have the chance of meeting new people.
In Case You Missed It:
- Single Woman Challenge Day 1. Behaving Like A Queen Will Get You A King
- Single Woman Challenge Day 2. What I Want In My Future Husband
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 3: What I Don’t Want In a Husband
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 4: 5 Tips To Taking a Better Selfie
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 5: Biblical Teachings For Single Women
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 6: Dream Big
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 7: A Single Woman’s Letter To God
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 8: Making Time For Your Kids As A Single Mom
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 9: Stepping Out Of Your Comfort Zone
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 10: How To Have A Grown & Sexy Girls Night Out
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 11: 5 Tips For Successful Online Dating
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 12: Random Acts of Kindness
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 13: Reach Out To An Old Friend Through Social Media
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 14. How To Go On A Prayer Walk
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 15: How To Meet New People
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 16: The Woman I Want To Be
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 17. Ways To Unplug and Enjoy Life
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 18: Ways and Reasons To Serve Others
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 19. Dare To Dream and Have the Faith To Make it Come True
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 20. The Joy of Spending Time Alone
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 21: Get Social And Meet People Online
- Single Christian Woman’s Challenge Day 22. Ways To Spice Up Your Look.
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 23: Why A Lunch Date is Better Than a Dinner Date
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 24: Tips for Traveling On Your Own
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 25: How To Have A Grown And Sexy Girls Night In
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 26. Types of People To Surround Yourself With
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 27. Make Memories Don’t Let Your Loneliness Be Your Defeat
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 28: Best Products To Pamper Yourself At Home With
- Single Woman’s Challenge Day 29. Ways To Battle Loneliness As A Single Woman