Watching Eve and her progression to both a wife and step mother is proof to me that never know what to expect out of life. Imagine that Eve, who started off as a rapper is now living in England with her multi-million dollar husband. I guess it is true that God knows what we need, over we do. It is hard for me imagine that before meeting her husband, if Eve would have described her perfect husband, I doubt it would have been a divorcee with four kids.
I personally think that we have to grow as people in order to be ready to accept the person that is meant for us. In an interview Eve did with XONecole she states
“As I got older I was like, I come like this. This is who I am, but I also don’t have the energy to hide it anymore.”
I am convinced that this is the key to a real relationships and a happy marriage. Knowing who you are, flaw and all, accepting it and allowing the other person to accept it. We can all pretend to be something we are not, but that will only lead to the person you are with into loving someone that does not exist. They are in love with the person you are pretending to be, not the person that you really are.
Eve explained it perfectly when she said
“It took few horrible relationships where I bent over backwards trying to do all of this stuff and be this girl and do this that and the other and not be respected but because I was in love. But I think a lot of times we forget that a person falls in love with you for you, and that most times that’s when you’re your genuine self.”
The second lesson that I learned from Eve’s relationship is that your dream man may come in unexpected packages. Eve is a rapper from Philadelphia. Her husband Maximillian Cooper is from the UK and is white. He was divorced and has four children
Eve told XONecole
“Being married and having stepchildren has completely changed me because when I first met him I didn’t even know how to talk to kids. I was like do you want to color? What do you want?! I was so weird with the kids, and it takes a minute to settle, but I definitely softened as a person.”
I am a single mother. I cannot imagine being with any man that does not love my son. In contrast, I think that anyone who really loves you will love your kid because your kid it apart of you. All single parents must remember that. There is no need to abandon your kid over a man, if he cannot accept your kid, he cannot accept you.
The third lesson learned from Eve’s marriage is that someone changing you is good. As long as they are changing you for the better. What I mean by this is that you do not want anyone telling you, you are ugly and you need to get plastic sugary to change your whole face, because that is the only way they can love you. But rather someone you makes you into a better you.
According to Madam Noire, Eve says the following about her husband.
“He’s the one that tamed me. He enjoys my crazy sometimes so it’s good. It’s a really good relationship, so I’m happy. Being married has changed me in a lot of different ways. It’s funny because I’m a really fiercely independent person and I always have been. Being married, you have to relinquish some of that.”
In marriage it is about a give and take. You giving to the other person and them giving to you. The best change occurs when you are both changing together. And that is what makes a relationship work. Because it is full of compromise and doing what you have to, to make the other person happy.
I am happy for Eve. Who would have known that she would have transformed in such a magnificent way, into this sophisticated stepmother and wife. Congrats to the couple!